So i wrote this story earlier but realized it was VERY LONG so i felt i would shorten it so people would be able to understand it.
I have been friends with this girl lets call her "person #1" since 4th grade. I'm now a senior in high school. She had two birthday//house parties and did not invite me to either of them. Back in 7th grade i got in a fight with one of her other best friends and since then she has never invited me to anything. I have invited her to EVERYTHING OF MINE. (literally) This year i finally blew up at her. I wrote this note to her on the internet explain how i felt. It pretty much said that she cared more about what other people thought of her then hurting people's feelings. She gave me three different explanations back to me. After i asked her for her real "reason" why she did not invite me to these parties and doesn't include me in ANYTHING that she does with her friends and yet will include my other best friend.
2007-03-15 09:00:24 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is optional to read the next few lines...are optional but to get a better understanding of everything i would suggest reading them.
2007-03-15 09:00:56 · update #1
HER FIRST RESPONSE TO MY NOTE
"I told u the god d*mn reason... maybe i thought u'd be uncomfortable... i still remember during 4th grade at Julie's birthday part you were down in her basement CRYING because you fet like everyone hated ... well u know who came down there to see if you were okay... oh yea! that was ME!!!!!!!!! i tried to ******* help you... MAYBE i thought u'd be uncomfortable with the people at the party and i didn't want u to get upsest and start crying again... if u actually think of it... i was trying to help you! so i'm sorry if u think i hate you but i don't... you just take things the wrong way and your going to tell ME to grow up! wow.... let's just listen to again and see who should grow up and try and learn what people are trying to do to help you. and HELL people go behind my back all the time... that's life... it WILL happen so sorry.”
2007-03-15 09:02:04 · update #2
HER SECOND RESPONSE AS TO WHY SHE DID WHAT SHE DID.....
alright u want the truth???? the truth is that i felt you were out of place and i didn't know if you would fit in with the people at my party... hell u dont' even KNOW any of my xc friends except for kat but that's one out of like 10. and my other friends i dont' know if u'r friends and that group of friends that i have we have the same exact people at our parties it's not like it's anything new all of their parties i'm mostly invited to and my party they are invited to so i'm sorry if i thought it would be weird. oh and that's the other thing i DIDN'T tell you that i was having a party because i didn't want to hurt u'r feelings but i should have known it would come out sooner or later... and how many times do i have to say sorry beacuse i will say that i am sorry i told you i was sorry like a hundred times so i don't know what you want me to say.”
2007-03-15 09:02:53 · update #3
HER THIRD AND FINAL RESPONSE
well you hurt my feelings... and i don't think that you really cared... i quote "that's right... now i'm naming names and i don't give a **** right now... so **** you Ale**s." that sort of hurt me. and about prom you can always go... u'll find someone to sit with-you don't want to miss senior prom just beacuse of a seat...and i would have asked you to come but like i said before i didn't know how people would handle it and i didn't even know i was having a party until i came back from hawaii which was like sat and i decided to actually have one on monday and the party was on friday so it was a spur of the moment thing...
2007-03-15 09:04:53 · update #4
and i'm sorry that you don't understand my actions but i don't know what to say. i didnt' know how the situation would turn out... and not just you... if you said that everything would be fine i'd be okay with that but i don't know what my other friends would be like. and yes it was mean for me to do that to you and i didn't realize it at the time but seriously i didn't want any drama or people's feelings to be hurt somehow because of it... yea ironic that i didn't invite you and i hurt u'r feelings when i was trying to do the complete opposite so i'm sorry too.
2007-03-15 09:05:10 · update #5
Good God you are too old for such childish problems. Just find a new friend. She said her and your friends aren't in the same circles you two just don't have enough in common. Just find other friends.
Remember. You don't have to be friends with everyone. You don't have to keep a friendship no matter what. Not everyone will like you. Not everyone will think of you what you think is right. There are evil people out there that will act friendly and once you are hooked, will treat you like trash and laugh behind your back. Life is life, move on.
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2007-03-15 09:08:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, she doesn't sound like a great friend to me. I had a friend kinda like her before. I was friends with her since 2nd grade, and then all of a sudden when we got into middle school she totally ditched me for the popular kids and didn't talk to me or even look at me. She was a complete b**th. I well never forget it because for the longest time I was upset, and I found myself crying every other night because of it. I was helpless for a long time, and had like no best friends. Then in 8th grade I met up with two girls that quickly became my best friends and they still are.( Im in 11th grade now). So, I think that if she was a real friend she would have told you about why she wasn't going to invite you, instead of trying to hide it from you. Sounds to me like she doesn't want to even confront you at all. If she was your "real" friend she would invite you and help you get along or meet new people. When she wrote you those notes, it sounded like she was making up a stupid rambling excuse for your sympathy. DONT FALL FOR IT, don't act at all like you are begging her for her friendship, maybe thats what she wants you to do, I don't know, I don't know her. I could understand if it was just one party, but every party. I think she is kinda blowing you off, and then she has the nerve to act like its your fault for accusing her. Just get away from her and find some real friends who really care about you.
2007-03-15 16:17:21 · answer #2 · answered by Wildflowers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like she is not telling you everyhting and that still didnt answer why she did not invite and when you were crying you were in the 4th grade she needs to get past that! I dont think she is telling you the real reason why she did this because a true friend would give it to you straight up no sneeking behind anyones back! Good luck!
2007-03-15 16:09:51 · answer #3 · answered by jacks 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MM that is a tough one. Maybe you should just go and have a face to face talk with her. I mean you can make more sense out of it that way than talking on the net. She was saying that you were in the basement crying what happen to send you down there. Plus she has to realize that that was years ago. You have grown up and need to work this out. It seems to me that there is a miss understanding somewhere along the line and it needs to be worked out
2007-03-15 16:05:52 · answer #4 · answered by lz_adam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont actually get what u r asking. Seems like u wrote her a pretty nasty email and now shes mad at u. well as i dont get ur question i will just suggest, if u really care then apologise now before its to late as she does seem to be a bit pissed off. sorry i cant really help u but a bit of advice would be refrase the question so people can actually answere it.
2007-03-15 16:09:42 · answer #5 · answered by Finn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her to give you another chance. Tell her that you would prefer to make the decision to go to her party or not, that it hurts more not to be invited, even though you now understand that she was trying to be nice and helpful. And thank her for trying, even if she went about it the wrong way, don't tell her that. Just acknowledge that she was trying.
2007-03-15 16:06:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No good because its the usual lying,crying, heartbreak, "I just dont know what to do!" kind of mumbo jumbo we've all heard a thousand times. Soap operas are not intresting, but boring!BORING!!
2007-03-15 16:08:17 · answer #7 · answered by element_op 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well im guessing you didnt get the answers you wanted i still say stop being her friend she is rude and stabs you in the back who needs enemies with friends like that
2007-03-15 16:03:24 · answer #8 · answered by carmelfude2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Youre friends are always there for you and invite you to everything if she isnt inviting you to things then maby she is embaresed and in that case get over her babe! she aint worth it !x
2007-03-15 16:05:41 · answer #9 · answered by xBabi-Lilzx 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aww crap!! Is there a 'story on tapes' for this???
2007-03-15 16:04:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋