I've known the guy for years. We get along great, have alot in common. He's very mature, very respectful toward women. He's been a great friend and has been there through alot of my trials and tribulations. But, if we take this to the next level, with this much of an age difference, will one of get bored? Or will he decide later on he wants to experience more than he has? Or should I just go for it? Opinions please!
2007-03-15 08:51:50 · 34 answers · asked by Rosie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I've heard of relationships with greater age differences than yours that worked. Age is just a number....your "real" age is how you act and feel on the inside, and that's what matters. If you two get along and don't really feel the age difference, then go for it. You can't live your life based on the "what if's." Good luck! You go girl!
2007-03-15 08:56:38 · answer #1 · answered by Katiecat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice: all relationships have reasons why you should or shouldn't. If this is more then curiosity as to what a relationship with him would be like, if you have genuine feelings, then why not pursue it. You don't know unless you try. However, I would move very slow, and possibly keep it on the quiet side until your sure about how your feeling and that you are really ready for a relationship with him.
Before you make any final decision, I think you have some other things to consider then the age issue...like what could happen to your friendship if this doesn't work? Do you have friends or family that would give you a hard time about this? (Not that it matters what other people think, but it is something that will put strain on the situation) What kind of future do you think you would have, like career paths and what not.?
If he's only 27, I'm sure he's just starting out in life, possibly only a few years out of college, and you are probably much more established in your goals and responsibilities. There are more things here that could cause problems between you two then boredom.
Like I said, there will always be reasons, but if you care about him enough you will figure out a way to work it all out. Just make sure you two are in this together, he seems like he's been supportive of you thus far...so hopefully he will be ready to defend this "new level" just as much as you.
(Even more hope for the fact that everything will be fine and all are incredibly accepting of your fondness towards each other!)
2007-03-15 09:15:05 · answer #2 · answered by Melis~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From one 40-something to another, MOST guys in their 20s still do not know what they want. You didn't mention how long you've known him, but some married folks end up divorced after 15 or 20 years of marriage.
I don't want to squelch your hopes either though. Perhaps he's different. You're friends and you have many things in common. That's more important than ANYTHING else in a real relationship. If you don't have common morals, lifestyles, hobbies, and future goals, you are doomed. So, that's a real plus!
Forget being bored, he'll keep you busy. The question is will you be willing to be as active. If you decide to go forward, take it slow and make sure the two of you are honest (and respectful) enough to stay friends...no matter what happens with the relationship.
2007-03-15 11:00:30 · answer #3 · answered by web4u 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life is too short to worry about numbers...the key phrase here is that "he is very mature". if you two get along that well and you have some real time vested as a true friends and MOST important, that you feel that you can truly love this man then go for it! who know years down the line YOU may decide that you are missing out on something being with him ;-) "It is better to have truly loved and lost that to never love at all!" Are you you still waiting for Prince Charming? Is he your prince charming? Will you ever know if you don't give you guys a shot?
Just don't feel forced into doing anything that you don't TRULY WANT to do and only when you WANT to do it! If you miss out by waiting too long...You are the only person that you have to blame or worry about. He's a big boy, (no pun intended) he can handle rejection just as you could.
Good luck to the two of you what ever you decide.
2007-03-15 09:07:51 · answer #4 · answered by SCOOTER'S GRANDMA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only problem is children. If you can have kids, then maybe it will work, because this guy will eventually ask you to get married and he will want a child of his own. You have to discuss with him if he wants to have a family and if you do too. If it makes no difference to him, then maybe, but I've heard many stories of couples with the same age span, they get married, and then after a while the guy gets bored and he wants a young girl..so you have to take all these things into consideration. I would be a little hesitant though. May/December relationships and marriages work only a small percentage of the time.
2007-03-15 09:13:42 · answer #5 · answered by cardgirl2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you can know that for sure. For me personally, a 27 year old, no matter how mature, is not going to have your life experience. I can understand the temptation--because it can be flattering to have a younger man admire you. But in reality, I think you'd eventually want the wisdom and maturity that comes with time on the planet, and he might start pining for young, fresh, child-bearing age flesh. That's just my opinion though and of course I don't know him or you so I could be wrong.
2007-03-15 08:58:51 · answer #6 · answered by makingthisup 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If its meant to be then no you won't get bored. If its true love, then age does not matter. I am 24 and I am engaged to a man who is 39. We barely ever think about our age difference. He hangs out with me and my friends, I hang out with him and his friends. We are perfect for eachother and madly in love and can't wait to start a family. Age really is nothing but a number. And at 27 and 41, I think you both should be mature enough to make your relationship work if you both want it to.
Go for it!! It would be far worse to regret not at least trying it then it would be to try it and have it fail, ya know? You never want to regret NOT doing something. Those are the worst regrets!
2007-03-15 08:58:25 · answer #7 · answered by snailysnal 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As long as he's mature you should try having a serious relationship. Age is not important when two people are in love so I think u should go for it.
2007-03-15 08:58:57 · answer #8 · answered by *VS* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You make it sound as if the factor of age in and of itself makes this an issue to put to a public vote. Not at all. It's how YOU feel about it, whether the guy is your age or 80.
2007-03-15 08:55:39 · answer #9 · answered by Flubbadub 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go for it. My husband is 52 and I am 35 (17 years apart). We get along great and have been happilly married for 5 years. Don't let age bother you. Good luck!
2007-03-15 08:55:38 · answer #10 · answered by angie a 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋