This guy and I dated for about three months when we went on a break. We had little interaction over the break. If we saw each other we would say hi and sometimes hw would touch me on the shoulder or the side. When the break was over I asked him what he wanted and he asked what I thought. I told him that I still had feelings for him and that if he wanted this relationship to work a few things would change. He said that he did not want a relationship right now. I have seen him a few times since then and he has smiled and even touched me on the side like before. Honestly, right now I am not looking for a committed relatonship I would not mind causal dating and talking on the phone once in a while. Should I try and talk to him about it and see if he is still interested or just try and move on. I have strong feelings for him, but I am not sure if he feels the same way.
2007-03-15 08:48:39 · 19 answers · asked by softballchk 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Based on what you've said, he doesn't sound interested. I'd move on and not take it personally...
A three month relationship is a drop in the bucket so-to-speak. There are lots of great guys out there who will be happy to give you the time of day and a whole lot more...
2007-03-15 08:51:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well there are a few questions you have to ask first.
The main thing is, is he a flirt? Do you know if he does the same thing w/ other girls? If so, i wouldn't read into the whole 'touching' thing. And even if he's not a flirt, he could just be touching you for the fun, or contact. Guys tend to take things way less personal than us girls. If we went and grabbed one of them on the ***, they'd smile, but they wouldn't think, "hey she likes me."
Now, if he says he doesn't want a relationship right now then he either
A) means it or
B) he's not interested in going out with you (right now maybe never)
And if you arent ready for a serious relationship, then take my advice and just have some fun w/ guys you like. (there has to be more than one) Just flirt w/ random guys you think is cute. It'll booste ur self-cofidence, and who knows, it could lead to that "not so serious" relationship you want. And in time, you and this guy might hook up. Who knows what the future holds...ust give it some time and see what happens. If he wants you, he'll come to you! But most of all, in the end, just follow your heart.
Hope i helped.
-tequila
2007-03-15 15:58:53 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take it from a guy that had girls all over.
If you do have an interest in him, TURN IT OFF......he will see the lights go dim, and if he is interested he will attack....Really this is the way of the beast.
If I dated a girl a while then I made it go cool she would get to the point where I would avoid her. BUT if she went cool I would be like a little puppy and come over with tail tuckedif I was still interested.
On the other hand if he is truly not interested this too will show by his total disregard for you, Then Sis, it is time to check out the other fish in the sea.
This way you can play that game too...
2007-03-15 15:55:31 · answer #3 · answered by Uncle Red 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He says he doesnt want a relationship.
You say, "Honestlyright now I am not looking for a committed relationship."
You have to understand that just because he is being a gentleman by smiling at you, doesnt mean he is all of a sudden intrested in going with you again.
And you have to stick with what you said you didnt want and move on. Look, attachment, then disattachment leaves us feeling empty and scared like it'll never happen again. But you know what? It usually does.
2007-03-15 16:02:30 · answer #4 · answered by element_op 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he doesnt feel the same way, strictly based on the way you describe his actions. so you could try again but it seems like you already have twice. so most likely the result would be the same. I think you should look for someone else who will reciprocate your feelings. after all if you only lasted 3 months before you needed a break, thats not a good sign for you guys as a couple.
2007-03-15 15:52:40 · answer #5 · answered by asg_is_chillin 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you both miss spending time with each other as PEOPLE not b/f and g/f and you both miss the little stuff like knowing someone's thinking about you, having your phone ring and knowing it's them, etc. To me, it looks like both of you want the same thing relationship-wise, but here's my advice...
...do the casual dating thing, just not with him. Since you guys are exes, too many irrational/leftover/etc. feelings can get in the way and cause things to be much too complicated for the both of you.
2007-03-15 15:53:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
just demand an answer from him baby... or he is trying to lure u as a bait by giving u excuese and make you wanna more with him. No point thinking, best is get him have a talk and let a yes be a yes and let a no be a no. gd luk
2007-03-15 15:53:02 · answer #7 · answered by icycloud 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on. You already found out things have to change for it to work. Guess what, things don't change. Don't just see him for the sake of dating, that could get messy. Again, move on.
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2007-03-15 15:52:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do not give up! It seems like he still is open to you. Call him every once in a while, maybe tell him you do not want a real committment, but maybe hang out and do things together, talk, etc., and see where it goes from there. Don't push...but don't give up.
Good luck!
2007-03-15 15:56:03 · answer #9 · answered by Rosie 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
u might say u dont want a commited relationship but if u feel stong for him in the end u will want one and he might not so be very careful don't let ur self get hurt
2007-03-15 15:54:40 · answer #10 · answered by babygirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋