What is your reason and are u religious?
2007-03-15 08:35:17 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I waited until I was married to have sex. I was 30 when I got married. Yes it was a struggle and sometimes I really wanted to but my religious beliefs played a huge part in me choosing to remain a virgin until marriage. Not the sin issue, but the concept that I viewed sex as God's wedding gift to us and that I did not want to take part in it until he gave me that gift. Like on Christmas when you snoop around the house and find some of the presents your parents got you for Christmas...and you use them and they come home to see you playing with them. Imagine the disappointment they will feel because they wanted to give you this really nice thing but you took that joy away from them by taking it early.
2007-03-15 09:02:27 · answer #1 · answered by Guvo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am a 56 year old Christian, there actually are some virgin males and they aren't weird or anything. They probably should be looked up to as heros, because with all of those hormones running in males at that age, it must have been a huge struggle for them. My SIL was 28, virgin at marriage, and highly intelligent, very good looking, an all around marvelous guy. My son was a virgin until 26 and beyond that, I don't ask. He moved south then. He is very handsome, could even be a model, but a bit short at 5 ft 9. Once a counselor told me after I was divorced, every time you have sex with someone outside of marriage, you loose a few grains of sand of yourself. Maybe this should be an answer in philosophy, but it is true. You've given an intimacy that can't be returned. I think this might seem a bit gross, but every female you've slept with knows the size of your penis. That seems to me to be private info ??????????/ few grains of sand lost, but it could really be used against you. Do you see ??? At least the point of view.
2007-03-15 15:44:15 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'll step forward and say I was one such boy. It had more to do with my sense of personal responsibility than my religion, though I will give religion its due credit for strongly influencing me at the time. Silly as it might sound, I thought of myself as a knight, and knights are pure of heart (at least the ones in storybooks). I wanted to present myself to my bride pure of heart and spirit. Sure, there were temptations all around, but I have no regrets. Well, every once in a while I do wonder what it might have been like if I had been a little less straight-laced (or prudish, if you prefer), but that's who I was and am. I could not have done otherwise and still be me.
As for not knowing whether my chosen partner and I would be "compatible"--that's very true, but I did not marry my wife for sex. I adored her then and still do. I would have married her even if she had been unable to have sex. If we could never have sex again, I'd still remain with her for the rest of our lives.
This was the path I chose for myself, and it worked for me, but I'm not telling other people what they should do.
Humanist
2007-03-15 15:44:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am completely against saving yourself for marriage, and think it is dangerous and irresponsible.
How do you know that you can have a satisfying sexual relationship with someone before you have sex with them? Your wedding night is the absolute wrong time to find out that one or both of you suck in bed, or just don't fit well physically. You need to know what you're getting into and you need some experience. I wouldn't have dated my wife for very long, let alone married her, if she didn't want to have sex. Luckily, she likes sex and has a healthy attitude about it.
2007-03-15 15:49:16 · answer #4 · answered by eviltruitt 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My husband did not want to have sex before marriage. I believe it was for religious reasons, seeing as how he's Christian.
2007-03-15 15:41:49 · answer #5 · answered by Kharm 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The boys who do abstain from having sex would not answer this question due to the fact that it's none of your business. If you choose to have sex before marriage, that's on you. If they don't, GOD will reward them. Thank you and may GOD help you.
2007-03-15 15:39:55 · answer #6 · answered by cookie 6 · 2⤊ 3⤋
To that one guy that said what are you going to do if on your wedding night if you both suck in bed? If neither of us had sex before then what are we going to compare it to?
2007-03-15 15:56:25 · answer #7 · answered by Chris 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sex was meant to be a gift from God. We as a culture have made it a dirty thing. If we used it as it was intended than everyone would wait. Stop giving in to others and love yourself.
2007-03-15 15:40:54 · answer #8 · answered by JebRand 2 · 4⤊ 2⤋
Premarital sex is not only wrong for marital reasons, it is dangerous to do, unchecked sexual relations can lead to not only health problems with stds, but unexpected pregnancies can ruin lives.
2007-03-15 15:40:49 · answer #9 · answered by peteryoung144 6 · 3⤊ 3⤋
I think you'd have more luck finding a needle in a haystack.
2007-03-15 15:38:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋