wash kids mouth with soap?or not?

Question

i have a 4 year old who has a dirty mouth should i use soap ?would it help?i know ppl who use soap and works for them,but yet maybe theire parenting is just better then mine.ill be greatful for any help.

Answer 1

I'm in the same boat as Amanda. I got soap in my mouth twice when I was younger. Even though I'm 21 with 2 toddlers of my own, I still don't cuss around my parents.

Answer 2

I am 54 yrs old and have raised 5 children alone. When my youngest son was 5 he started using the "F" word. He learned from the kids that lived up the street on my block. Niether my huband or I talked this way and so I was mortified. I kept scolding my son everytime he used it. Finally I warned him that if he said it again I would put soap in his mouth, he did and so I followed through on the promise to put soap in his mouth. He cried and spit, but he stopped using the word. Now you may think this is a good thing, but on the contrary, to this day (he is now 23) I feel bad when I think back to how he cried, spit, and gagged. I feel like I was abusive. I later worked in the school district with young kids and now realize that there are a lot of productive ways to discipline children without yelling, spanking, or putting soap in their mouths. I have since learned that taking away a privelege is far more effective and it should always be age appropriate. So, sit down with your child and calmly explain to him/her that it isn't nice to talk that way and you don't like hearing it. Tell him/her that you would like him/her to stop because it makes you sad when he/she talks like that. Then say that the next time you hear a bad word come out of his mouth, you will not allow him to _________. Fill in the blank with something you know will be important to your child that he/she will not want to lose. Example: no cartoons for the rest of the day, or bed time will be a half hour early, or one of his/her favorite toys will be taken away...you get the idea. Then make sure you follow through each and every time. Soon your child will realize that this isn't working for him/her. Also, be sure to give lots of praise and hugs when your child has a good day. Just remember, if you don't want your child to use this language, then you and other adults must refrain from this language as well. The child will not understand that you are using this language, but he/she cannot. Hope this helps. Good luck.

Answer 3

That depends were she got the dirty mouth, were would a 4 year old hear these things? If it was you or family members then its you to blame. If she hears it in school then thats different, tell the teacher about what is going on. and if u really want to wash her mouth out give her a warning first, tell her that it will happen the next time, then if she swears again maybe u could try washing her mouth out.

Answer 4

Most people who I know that happened to only don't curse in front of their parents. But still curse.

Kids usually repeat what they hear. In our house sometimes kids say weird things. We don't punish them for that. Instead we talk. We ask them if they know what they mean with that word, and most of the time they don't. Then we ask them why would they want to use an offensive word at the first place. Ask where they heard, and make them think about it, with us.

In fact, with my 7 and 10 years old we even developed a dictionary game. Whenever any of us is frustrated over something we look for a word in the dictionary. When we cant find a good one. We make it up. And in the end we all laugh about it.

Answer 5

First you need to find the source of where the 4 year old is learning the language. At this age, he can understand the words "bad" and "word"...tell him that you don't want to hear him say that anymore and you might have to remind him a few times...but don't soap their mouths...

Answer 6

The first thing you have to do is remove the source of where you child is picking up these words....if its you, you have to really watch you mouth....if its the tv, change the programming until the child is asleep....kids will repeat everything....the next thing is to give warning....if you don't want them to use that word, give them a chance not to...talk to them first....then if they continue to use it after the source is removed and you have given warning, then use the soap, vinager works well also.....but remember, if you warn, use....if you don't follow through with anything they will pick up on that also, the you will have even more problems.

Answer 7

That's just mean. Why do people get so worried about language? Words are words. Where did the kid pick this language up? We might curse on occasion around our kids and they've never ran around yelling obscenities. I think it's better to be an example and teach kids better words to use. Sadly, now your kid will probably get a mouth full of soap because he's modeling someone else's behavior.

Answer 8

I dont see anything wrong with using soap. As long as it isnt not an over abundance of it. I have found that the bar soap is best. Rake it across their teeth so they taste it for a while. I can guarantee they will taste it for quite sometime, even after they brush their teeth. It works....lol.

Answer 9

i hate to say it but it worked for some.. a long time ago.. thing is the world we live into day.. doing that may be considered child abuse...and children often talk to other children and family members.. see where i am going with this one..now personally i don't really consider it child abuse .. but the laws can be a little funny about things..you could use time out or ever time he says a bad word he has to do a chore.. like taking out the trash or sweeping the kitchen.. something that he can do.. not necessarily well just something small.. or he cant watch tv for 30 minutes.

Answer 10

I don't think soap works any better than any other type of discipline. Just tell them no and let them no it isn't acceptable. Maybe spank him then, but soap in the mouth is sort of weird and creepy to me.