I was engaged from 6 months and my wedding was after two mounth. when i took the decision to be engaged bec i felt that this person is nice, responsibe, has a strong character. There was a problem bet the two family but really it wasn't our fault but their. my fiance didn't try to solve this problem so i decieded to end this relation but i have been shocked in him he didn't even try again to fix this problem. i thought he loved me. i thought that he will return to say sorry for this but this didn't happen. now i am trying to forget him after i was seeing him every day . i want to be strong. i am strong but everyday i think about him and about what happened and i think that he will return to say sorry bec i thought that he loved me.
2007-03-15 08:18:48 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
maybe he didn't try to solve the problem because he knew the family wouldn't listen. if his family is truly at fault, they're not likely to want to listen to common sense. however, if you or your family are at fault in his eyes, he didn't try to solve the problem because he doesn't think there should be one.
at any rate, it's possibly better that you didn't get married, because when you get married, you're instantly a part of that family and have to mold (at least in a little sense) to what the other person prefers... and usually people prefer what they were raised with. even if he did completely agree with you on everything (highly unlikely... believe me, i'm married! :P) your families wouldn't get along and that would be a constant strain on the relationship. thankfully, i have wonderful in-laws. i don't know what i would do if they were any different.
2007-03-15 08:33:07 · answer #1 · answered by jenn w 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is probably that this person loves you but the question would be: Does he loves you the right way? Marriage requires a lot of work and getting into one-side marriage will be grounds for divorce in the future. This experience will only make you wiser and cautious for the next one. Love itself is not enough because unnurtured love fades away.
A person that loves you the right way should have the following characteristics: responsibility, commitment, loyalty, integrity, sensitivity, strong and open communication and above all should never hide from problems or misunderstandings and protect you at all times. You should have this characteristics as well.
You will have a brighter future.
2007-03-23 10:48:45 · answer #2 · answered by Abby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Problem: You took this decision because you thought he was nice, was you first reason for becoming engaged. Marriage requires a advanced level of maturity and love to work.
Perhaps you did not consider this decision well enough.
2007-03-21 23:34:49 · answer #3 · answered by Tyson 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just remember " You can do all things through Christ that strenghtens you!" this is just a valley before you get to the hill... God was showing you that you can do better you can get someone stand up for what you believe is true also.. And honestly God only gives you what you can handle...It may seem like to much but God knows how strong you really are... God bless.
2007-03-23 11:32:48 · answer #4 · answered by Americasgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ge greatful you found out now. Then sell the ring and take a nice vacation.
2007-03-15 15:27:51 · answer #5 · answered by lillilou 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Be strong. If he truely loved you he would have fought harder to keep you and make you happy. Sell the ring and try to move on. Good luck, your in my prayers. lol
2007-03-15 19:11:17 · answer #6 · answered by CJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the only thing that should have mattered was if you two were happy, who cares about anything else.
2007-03-15 15:25:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Careful what you ask for, looks like you got it.
2007-03-15 15:47:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not possible that fast, in the true sense; and he proved it to you.
2007-03-23 13:27:16 · answer #9 · answered by Icewomanblockstheshot 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋