i have a serious fiance problem?!?!?!?

Question

im engaged to this guy..im only 16 i know you prolly think that im took young but i have never felt this way for a guy and i want to feel this way forever so we got engaged but we arent gettin married until after i graduate..hes 18..but yea heres the problem..he displayed his affection and stuff about me toward other ppl by putting all these things on his myspace but he took them off and put up the girlfriend application ..and i have not talked to him in like a day...the last time i talked to him he told me i was his everthing and he wants to be with me forever and he loves me so much and he is so afraid of losing me and he cant wait for me to get out of school so we can get married...but what is up with him not talkin to me and the thing on his myspace..i mean there is like nothing up about me any more and that application?!?!

this is not the first time i have been in love..lets see..first there was Justin who cheated on me by sleepin with my older sister..then there was Sean who just stopped loving me..then there was Bradley who is just too stuck on hisself to worry about anyone else and only thinks of me as a friend but he use to love me...yea w/e

Answer 1

I got married when I was only 17. I have been married for 20 years now, however I would not recommend this for everybody. I think you are VERY smart to wait until you finish school before getting married. Take things slow you have your whole life ahead of you. As for the boyfriend I would keep my eyes wide open if I were you. I'm not saying break up with him but be cautious. Who knows what will happen between now and graduation. Just stay in school and if it is meant to be he will want that to and will be willing to wait for you. Good Luck.

Answer 2

Kendra, you said yourself that 16 (and 18) is too young to be engaged. You said that "you've never felt this way for a guy" well sweetie, you are only 16! Trust me when I say that it's not the half of what you'll feel when you get older and discover what "real" love is. I'm a mom of 4 teens and I know that "forever" is teen-talk for "until something better comes along or about a month". You have your whole life ahead of you. Nevermind that he's playing games and is apparently looking to replace you (girlfriend application) but you'll find out that "not talking to you in a day" is not the end of the world - it's only magnified now because you are young. What I suggest you do is have some fun! Date a few guys, hang out with your girlfriends and start looking at college applications because I sincerely hope by "graduate" you mean from college and not just high school. I know this seems like this is all there is right now (him) but TRUST ME there is more out there! Free yourself up to see some of the world before you tie yourself down with marriage and responsibilities and babies. I beg you. Enjoy being a child while you can because once it's gone, it's gone. Good luck.

Answer 3

Yes u r way too young. Just wait till u have a kid with him which I think will be very soon. My friend girls all have gone through the same situation. They think they're in love at 16 by they're 20's they have a kid or two and r seperated. Usually puppy love never lasts forever. Especially since your barely in high school and he sees a lot more girls at school and the myspace is a pretty good hint. A guy says anything to get into a girl's pants but you'll see that it's true later in life.

Answer 4

Those feelings that you are referring to are not guaranteed to last just because people get married. If you think you can corner him to keep his love, you are wrong. You're young. Enjoy this time. Meet people, go out, have fun now and save marriage for later. He is exploring on Myspace. He's trying to hook up with other girls because he is young and looking for new experiences. Don't expect him to admit that to you. Learn to take a hint.

Answer 5

I really don't know or understand what your talking about, but first of all you are a child. You are not ready to be engaged. Why aren't you thinking about what college to go to when you get out of school? He's a child, so he's going to behave like a child, which he's doing. He's only acting his age. Please rethink your position. You will fall in love a few times in your life, this may be the first time but it's definitly not the last.

Answer 6

This is why you are to young you fight about myspace, and he is not mature enough to not put things like that. Yes you have never felt like this with anyone else because there have not been that many others. If you dont go though with it, and I pray you dont, I promise you will feel even more about another person.

Answer 7

Yes you are too young. You've never felt this way in your whole life???? What whole life, you're still a child. I know you think you're mature and all, but honey believe me, you have a long way to go and a lot of things to learn. You're not mature until you get to at least 25...You probably won't believe me now, but you'll think about that answer in a few years a realize it was true.
Take it easy you've got your whole life ahead of you.
Good luck.

Answer 8

Since you asked. Sixteen is way to young to be engaged. Going steady is the most you should be doing at this stage. Even that has a downside. But slow down, it sounds at though he is not committed to this engagement as you.

Answer 9

You are right...You are too young to even consider getting married...But I do understand the feelings that you have; therefore, you need to talk to this boy...either that or fill out the application on his my space account. This will force him to explain what the deal is.

Answer 10

your way too young and making a mistake, but anyway, there is a problem. If you haven't spoke in a day, and are engaged. Maybe you should rethink this situation. He is not mature enough for marriage thus showing you.