My mum knows it and i have already told her but she doesn't seem to actually do anything. She just sais "I am going to say the same things when you want to date". (I'm 13) but she doesn't think that I don't have a child to be upset of. I know it doesn't sound right and she is too young to stay alone for the rest of her life but i can't help it: i hate it every time!
2007-03-15 08:07:24 · 10 answers · asked by Angel K 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I also don't want to meet her boyfriends because i get upset, but when she doesn't tell me i feel betrated from her and i feel like she is lying, which she is!
2007-03-15 08:36:38 · update #1
It's normal that you hate it because at some point your mom having a date makes you feel second in her life. It's probably really hard for you right now because of the fact that your parents are divorce, and not only do you have to accept that they are not together but now you have to accept the fact that they will have new people coming around. You have to think though that your mom and dad, have the right to be happy. If they are being nice to you, taking good care of you, then in return don't make it so difficult for them to be happy. Someday not too far away, you will be the one coming home with a boyfriend, now start thinking of how it would make you feel if your parents were to tell you that they didn't like him and didn't want you going out. You won't listen and you will be going out anyways, Believe me you will.
So think about all of that, and if you truly love your parents you will give them a chance to be happy...
Good Luck
2007-03-15 08:36:13 · answer #1 · answered by johanne 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom and dad were married and decided to divorce. In between that you were born but never married or divorced so it's out of line to get into their business. Imagine if your father felt he could use your toothbrush or your mom didn't like the the color of hair on one of your girlfriends. It is only media and drama queens/kings in society that would suggest a child have say concerning their parents business. Many get so obsessed they spend the rest of their life in counseling because they listened to that stuff and I'd bet you don't want that taking up your life. Let your parents be parents and you be the daughter ....trust that things will go much smoother that way.
2007-03-15 17:25:34 · answer #2 · answered by GoodQuestion 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess you must be feeling all disturbed, well, I may not be a great genius,but I guess you would really love to have your parents together once again, and I guess you're really put off by their first divorcing and then dating. I guess you should be calm and not rebel, sometimes words and anger get you no where, I don't know if you believe in God , but I suggest you do, and ask him, to change things for you, I'm sure He'll listen. I may sound like a fool, compared to all the other replies, but believe me, it'll surely work, if you ask God whole heartedly.Be calm and don't retaliate, try to gently explain to your mum how you truly feel. Hope things turn out for the better.
2007-03-15 15:34:24 · answer #3 · answered by RJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents are people...not just parents....and they have the normal wants and needs that everyone does. Just because they are parents does not mean their life has to be put on hold....it's ok to be a parent, raise your children, and still spend time with other adults. They need that.
Face the fact that the world does not revolve around you....stop thinking only of what YOU want and start thinking about what your mother (and father) want as well. It's not your place to tell your parents what to do. If they find someone to be happy with, then be happy for them. As long as that person treats them and you with love and kindness, that's all that matters.
2007-03-15 16:23:22 · answer #4 · answered by Sally G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was the same way. I hated the fact that my dad started dating someone soon after he and my mom got divorced. I hated his new girlfriend. They eventually got married and I hated her even more because she took my dad away from me. As I grew up, my step-mom was always there for me. I would feel more comfortable going to her over my real mom. Eventually I grew to love her as my mom. My real mom dated a lot. The only reason why I hated it was because her boyfriends would beat me and my younger brother. She is content staying at home and raising my younger brothers.
2007-03-15 15:22:32 · answer #5 · answered by Jaime A 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My parents divorced when I was 7 years old so maybe I was to young to care about my parents dating. However, you admit it yourself that your mom is to young to be alone for the rest of her life. Perhaps, you still think that they can get back together...I'll admit that I wanted my parents to get back together. Be happy that your parents decided to end their marriage instead of being unhappy together just to make you happy & their happiness should matter to you.
2007-03-15 15:21:19 · answer #6 · answered by Jen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you might be feeling abandoned when your parents date other people.
please remember that, everyone needs friends and likes companionship... you do too. it's normal for us to feel a little weird about our parents dating... but it is ok for them to do.
your parents still care for you. even so, they have the right to make new friends and enjoy themselves, too.
when she is out on a date, maybe you can do something that you like, to pass the time.
2007-03-15 15:15:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is hard but it is their lives and there is nothing you can do about. All you can do is hope that they find someone who will really love them and take good care of them as they deserve. But it does not mean that they will stop loving you. good luck
2007-03-15 15:16:05 · answer #8 · answered by Missy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your mom deserves to date and be happy
try to be understanding
2007-03-15 15:12:01 · answer #9 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let your mum be happy. and give people a chance.
2007-03-15 15:15:23 · answer #10 · answered by joanna l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋