i know this is stupid but i've had a crush on this girl for 5+ years she is a stranger to me i just seen her where she works a few years ago and can't stop thinking about her (not in a sexual way) i really want to get to know her better but i don't know how to do this i have tried to convince myself to ask her out several times but it never seem like a good time to do so (she works at a retail store there's always someone around customer or other employee) not to mention that when i'm in her presence i get all nervous and tounge tied and can barely speak. maybe if i could catch her in an isle by herself i could ask her but i can't seem to do that. do you think it would it be acceptable to just walk in and hand her a letter explaining the way i feel? that way she could read it in her own time and i won't get her in trouble at her work. i feel i should at least let her know how i feel. i know how most guys are & i can't stand the thought of her being with someone who would treat her bad.
2007-03-15 08:04:32 · 5 answers · asked by Brad 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i know her name and i think she likes me as well because the couple of times i have talked to her she was very friendly and smiling. btw very good answer tones the last thing i want to do is come off as a stalker that's just not me and thats why i haven't taken her a letter i was afraid she would think i was some sort of psycho/stalker. if i talk to her and theres even a hint of no i will never bother her again and will try my best to forget her for my own good.
2007-03-15 08:49:45 · update #1
I'd not pursue her. It will come off too much as you being a stalker.
Your only hope is that you bump into her randomly somewhere, and, assuming you can overcome your nervousness, acknowledge that you remember her from where she works and then try to initiate conversation.
The only other thing you could do, which is what I would do if I were you, is to go to her at her work in front of people, compliment her, so that people witness your affection (this at least makes it seem like you are a regular guy and not some psycho-stalker type) and then ask her if during her break, she'd like to have a cup of tea or coffee or something like that.
If she says "no" or any response other than "yes", this means that she is not interested. Although she is not interested, you will make her feel better for the rest of that day because in front of other females, you publicly proclaimed her as the most special, and that always makes a girl feel good inside.
Maybe you won't win her interest in you, but you will at least make her feel special. Wouldn't you say that with approach B, it's a win-win situation for you and her?
You win if she says yes, and if she isn't interested, you win because you made her feel good which is what true feelings for a person is all about anyhow.
Good luck and don't be nervous around her. You shouldn't be nervous just because you find yourself very attracted to a particular female. Just do not obsess over her or become a stalker type.
If you make her feel worse, I'll personally go over there and beat you up. Respect a woman's choice for the man she wants and in the end, whether it's her or someone else, you'll end up with a special female in your life.
2007-03-15 08:14:48 · answer #1 · answered by Tones 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey after 5 years of your precious life, it's time for you to talk to her or let it go. Writing is always easier, so write down on a piece of paper how you feel, don't put too much though, cause you're gonna scare her, just let her know that you like the way she loOKs that you've been thinking about her and that if it's ok with her and if she doesn't have anybody else in her life right now you would like to take her out for a movie or something. I did the same thing a long time ago. I was obsess with a guy and I lost track of him for 6 years, one night I was at some fireworks display and he was there. So the next day I found his address, mailed him a letter with my phone number and he called me. We went out for coffee and realized after all these years we had absolutely nothing in common..And then life went on. We said bye and that was it.
So take my advice, do it, this way if it doesn't work out you can start looking ahead for a chance to meet your real love.
Good luck
2007-03-15 15:12:16 · answer #2 · answered by johanne 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what i think you shoul do is write her a letter inclosing how you feel and your number, find her name out. when you finish the letter close it put her name on the front of the envelop and give it to one of her co-works that is not buys, so they can give it to her when they see her, but make sure that she is working that day. and if she's interested or not in a relation ship most likely she'll call
2007-03-15 15:10:45 · answer #3 · answered by cindy c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you might want to start by sending her a card and some flowers..
2007-03-15 15:07:56 · answer #4 · answered by BigWashSr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont talk
2007-03-15 15:06:58 · answer #5 · answered by giovanni g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋