Should I say this to the girl I miss? I'm trying to plan out what to say to her these words are from the heart

Question

Hey. How are you? You know, ever since we stopped talking, (we haven't talked for 10 months) I had been going over everything in my head, trying to figure out what I was doing wrong. You know, I still remember what you said to me the last time we talked, the things you were mad at me about. It was because of you that I started working on those things. I know you probably still don't want to talk to me. It's just that a special girl like you is hard to find, you're unlike any friend I've ever had. No other girl is as amazing, wonderful, smart, talented, funny, and beautiful as you. No one else has your light brown eyes that sparkle when you're happy and fade away when you're sad, or your bright smile. There was a time when I was feeling down that you could tell something was wrong because you know me. I'm the same way about you. I know you think I don't know you, and I know I don't know everything about you, but I want to know everything about you. I really care about you and like I

said, you're special to me. Without you, I just had to admit that I must be really stupid for not understanding then what you were trying to tell me, that it wasn't anything wrong with me that you didn't like, it was you just didn't share those feelings for me that I had for you.
I've found out for myself it was better when you didn't like me in that way. Now that you don't like me at all, it's alot worse. For the things I've done, I'm really sorry. I was just afraid of losing you, so I did. I only want us to start over, pretend this whole thing never happened and if necessary forget that there was any mention of romantic interest between us. Maybe we could chill and hang out somewhere sometime as just friends, because I know with you I don't have a chance. I just want your friendship back, if it's ok with you. (If sent in a letter) If writing this to you makes how you feel about me worse, then if you'd like to, just forget that I wrote it.

If what you want is to never see me or speak to me again, I will just try to let you go just because I only want to make you happy. (end, or ends before final part if spoken)

Also, I'd like everyone to know that I know she doesn't like me. The reason I liked her in the first place is because she said she liked me online after two weeks of us talking, then I was excited because I felt good that someone finally liked me. I asked her how she felt about me the next day, then she said she didn't really know, she had too many boys in her life and didn't know how to handle it. After a month she told me she didn't liked me but I still liked her. So I kept talking to her hoping she would eventualy change her mind and give me a chance. After a while I noticed she was everything I've looked for in a girl and I fell in love with her. She told me she was falling in love with someone else and that a couple of her friends were falling in love too I implied to her that I was falling in love with her and she kept asking me who. Then she asked if it was with her, but I felt I shouldn't say so online so I changed the subject and found out we were unknowingly both watching the

same tv movie. We were going to be somewhere and there I would tell her. I panicked and told a friend what she said. I was afraid of her liking someone else besides me. I left out the names of her friends when I told him. He figured out who and teased her friends about falling in love, so the girl I like got mad at me and wouldn't talk to me. At the time I didn't know better to not say anything at all that we talked about. After I gave her space for two months, then we had a small conversation until her bus came and I asked her if she was still mad at me. She told me no, she just didn't want to talk to me anymore. So I haven't tried to talk to her but when I say hi to her sometimes she says hi back, and once we did have a very short conversation. I wonder if maybe she cut me off because she doesn't want to get hurt in case I'm too good to be true. Boys have dated her friends and told them they loved them, had sex with them (she's the only virgin in her main group) and dumped them.

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Girls, would you talk to me again if you were her? Are there any changes I should do? How do I compliment her more friendly and less romantic? I just have this feeling if I try actually talking to her instead of ignoring her she might listen. We've been saying hi to each other occasionally. I have not tried to speak to her in the time of us not talking, I've only called once then hung up out of fear a long time ago, basically I haven't tried hard at all, I've just ignored her and see her look at me. The ignoring thing seems like it's taking too long in terms of her coming to me, and that's just not me, but she sneaks glances at me from a distance. I guess I'm just mr. nice guy. I'm going to try to talk to her normally first before telling her this, or writing her this. What I mean by "plan" is I don't want to mess up when try to talk to her, because I haven't tried to yet

Correction, forgot detail, so I added 3 more words: She told me no, she just didn't want to talk to me anymore. 8 months later, I haven't tried to talk to her...

What do I do for her birthday? Ask her friends what she would like?

Answer 1

No, no, no...you haven't spoken in 10 months. She will think you are obsessing, which you are. I would seriously, seriously, try to move on from this. 9 times out of 10, these types of letters are ignored. They have moved on. For all you know, she's seeing someone else. You two broke up for a reason...take what you have learned and use it in a new and healthier relationship.

Answer 2

Wow, I don't know exactly what happened between you two but it is obvious that you care a great deal for this person. I think you should send the letter. What is the worst that could happen. At least you can get some sort of closer. Good Luck I wish you all the best.

Answer 3

Um..i do not imagine you should inform her some thing - considering that she already accused you of being obsessed including her and harassing her, that's gonna freak her out. She has no longer talked to you in 10 months, i imagine that announces all of it. sometime you may get the threat to describe your self, there's a correct time for each thing. particularly start up wondering about some thing else and get over it.

Answer 4

If the words are truly coming from your heart and how you truly feel, than go for it. Personally, you don't have to tell everyone what you wrote. Dont' get me wrong...it's beautiful. But, save it and tell it to the girl that you're missing. People know when you are being genuine and sincere, and people know when you're faking or just trying to get by. I think it's very nice that you want to tell all of this to this special someone....and I think that you should. Everyone can give you as much advice as they want, but it's up to you to decide which direction you want to go in this situation. Also, things like this (writing, diaries, poems) are much more personal than taking someone out to eat, or buying them things. That's materialistic! I think you are headed in the right direction with this situation, especially if you miss this girl like you say you do.

Answer 5

When the day breaks my heart aches for you are not the thing I see. You are on my mind all the time, for you are the one for me. When I am not with you my heart crumbles in to pieces small enough to fit through the eye of a needle. If your beauty could be measured in temperature it would be hot enough to melt my heart. your eyes are bottomless pits that I have fallen in. I miss you like the dessert misses the rain. Like the flower misses the sun, and I but thorns upon your rose.

Answer 6

Good letter. But you seem like to be obssessed with this chick and you have not talked to her in about 10 months? Leave her alone and move on. Esp. since she is telling you that she likes someone else.....why would you waste your time....Peace

Answer 7

I think those words are very nice and detailed. But someone you haven't spoken to for 10 months though? She likely has moved on...worth a shot though.

Answer 8

wow this is really deep man. do u mean all that because if i was that girl i would be at ur door knocking by now. this is good i just hope she understands u and take what u said in the letter in consideration. man i feel for u really.

Answer 9

Listen fella...what do ya think ya doing...just pick up the bloody phone and call her man...it's obvious that you ain't over this one till the fat lady sings.

Answer 10

oh wow. that is a beautiful letter. i wish someone thought all that about me. good luck :)