I've been with my bf for 2 months(im 20,hes24)When we first i could tell he was really into me,always wanted me around,introduced me to his family..now he seems more distant.when were together hes very affectionate and attentive,but we dont see each other as often as im used to.Me and my ex saw each other almost everyday.We do live about 30min away from each other,but he doesnt have his licence only i do, which means he doesnt even have to drive to see me. I usually see him once during the week and then we go out and party during the weekend,or we are with his parents. he lives with 2 other guys,so its hard to spend alone time with him.He tells me all the time how much he cares about me and that he has 'really strong feelings' towards me,but don't u think he would want to see me more?I am his first gf in 2 years and i know he's been badly hurt by girls b4, so do u think he's just taking it slow or that he's scared to get too attached, or is he just not that into me??
2007-03-15 07:46:31 · 21 answers · asked by sallyh 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He probably likes to have his space and time to hang with his buddies.
I wouldn't get too worked up about it. If you like him, stick with him, if you don't...then move on.
2007-03-15 07:51:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most probably he is doing it slow..he might have trauma with his past relationship and by this time he wants everything to be smooth but sure. Besides it is only 2 months..you guys still have a lot of time to observe and feel each other. And if he is not into you why would he let waste his parents time with you. Actually, that is the basic thing that you can assure yourself that he likes you and he is serious with it.
But if you are really bothered with that, communication is the key. You both must have cellphones or landlines. you two can bring up this issue and resolve it. But don't show that it really bothers you. Just say it nicely and better if you just want to be sweet with him.
Actually, no one on us can give the definite answer in your question coz no one feels the same as what you feel and we no one knows what your guy truly feels..there might be instances that we experienced the same situation but we both have different perception on this.
2007-03-15 15:17:28 · answer #2 · answered by glam gail 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi ** (I don't know your name) !!!
I think he cares about you, but I think that he could be a little scared because some girls hurted him b4.
But you should try to make him feel better with you. Show him (like he does to you) that you care about him, maybe he's just scared of be attached (as you said) or maybe not!
If he doesn't see you as much as he used to, could be because he doesn't have his license yet. So, why don't you try to go more to his house or go out somewhere? movies(or something both like) out of the house you know.. It could be a bad thing not spending time alone with him! Always somebody around right?? I know what this is... You should try to talk to him about it.. I know that you figure out and get better with him. Where you find Love you find everything!!
Good Luck!! ;))))
2007-03-15 15:00:43 · answer #3 · answered by Sheila 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he's done a lot for you already. Meeting his family is a big thing. One thing you need to do is not to bring your past expectations into this new relationship. He is a different person with different attributes. You will love new things about him and you will work to overcome certain issues. Just remember that as you resolve conflicts, you will grow closer to each other. I only see my sweetheart on the weekends but we talk on the phone every night before sleeping. It's great to have intimate in-person time together but also to have that independent time for myself or with my friends. It develops trust and character this way. We have an awesome relationship and have recently been engaged after 6 months of dating. We have never fought or argue. We just love and respect each other. Blessings to you guys!
2007-03-15 14:59:11 · answer #4 · answered by tektonium 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he just need a little off time. Maybe you could arrange a blind date between your friends and his roommates so that you two can pick youre own seat at the movies. I almost don't want to say this but, for now, go with the flow. If things don't change in about a month, tell him how you feel. If he really likes you and trusts you he'll understand. If not, then he's not worth it and make sure that he knows your side from start to finish.
2007-03-15 14:53:18 · answer #5 · answered by Lefty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he did not see a girl for 2 years i think he got hurt real bad by the girl. Try to spend time alone with him. Back at your place or even a hotel room for just talk. Go slow and try helping him and best of luck
2007-03-15 15:06:04 · answer #6 · answered by sara a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh my god!!!! when i stareted to read this i look to see if i was the one writing this... im 20yrs old and my bf is 22 but he lives 30min away and im the only one with a licence. and everything your going threw i am too... well im in the same boat... yes he does love you and you guys are hitting a ruff patch right now but things will get better. its just that guys are sometimes scarred of committment. you see my boyfriend and i are very open with eachother (or at least i think we are) but anywho i told him everything you wrote and he said, yes i do love u very much and i care for you a whole bunch too and its just that they get scared because they start to think WOW!!! we finally found her and its just fear... but on the other hand were thinking the opposite.. dont worry everything will be ok....
2007-03-15 15:00:29 · answer #7 · answered by alizah2005 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats why you have an ex you seen him to much and for your bf he is just being smart and careful of not getting hurt and staying away and testing you 2 see if u will cheat or do ther wrongs,so be patient and have fun in life sounds like he is a winner .
2007-03-15 14:52:13 · answer #8 · answered by pirateron 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's likely taking it slow. It's only been two months, give it time. He's probably just getting used to you, it takes a while. Whenever I enter a new relationship or meet someone for the first time, you don't know what to expect. Relax, if your relationship hits six months and you still feel this way then it's okay to wonder if he's really feeling you. Good luck.
2007-03-15 14:50:38 · answer #9 · answered by Dusk 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sorry you are hurting!
But I believe that a man that loves you has time for you. It can be many of the things you wrote above, but the bottom line is that this is not making YOU happy. A man that loves you makes you feel confident, a man that loves you will never give you a situation where you have to ask yourself these kind of questions.
2007-03-15 14:55:46 · answer #10 · answered by Flyinghorse 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure he's into you...he just doesn't want to spend every waking minute with you. Chances are that as much as he enjoys time with you, he also enjoys his "guy" time. A lot of men are like that. They need time to themselves as much and some times more than they need time with their partner. And women, well let's face it, we tend to want to spend every minute of every day with our guy. If he tells you he cares about you, and hs strong feelings, I think you're reading way too much into this. After only 2 months you can't expect him to give up his entire life so that he can be with you all the time. If he's "not that into you", I don't think he'd tell you how much he cares about you.
2007-03-15 14:52:29 · answer #11 · answered by ♥♥Mrs SSG B♥♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋