How can I raise my self esteem?

Question

I sound like a silly little teen when I say that I think I am not "good enough" for anything or anyone.

Answer 1

In order to raise your self esteem, you first must love yourself. Love yourself for who you are and don't worry about anyone else. No one is perfect but God and know that he loves you. You are special in his eye sight and wonderfully made. Do things to make sure yourself feel good whether it is going out shopping or doing your hair. Pamper yourself and enhance your beauty. Everyone has beauty in them but you have to bring it out and remember if you don't think your beautiful then no one else will. Say it to yourself. I'm beautiful and wonderfully made in God's eye sight and he loves me.

Your not silly for asking this question either b/c believe or not there are some many grown adults with low self esteem whether they admitted or not. Their actions tells it all. Hon, Enjoy your life and have fun. Stop worrying about what others think of you. Love yourself.

Answer 2

You sound a very normal teen going through that very hard growing up stage. You will no doubt turn into a beautiful young woman. What makes you think you are not good enough, of course you are, keep telling yourself that. Have a wonderful life, I hope all your dreams come true.

Answer 3

Focus on your good points and your accomplishments, not what you haven't accomplished. Set short-term and long-term goals. Each success adds to a new one. Use your talents even if you think they are foolish. I was an excellent artist in grade school, then convinced myself that I could never make a living at it, so I only took one class in HS and none in college. Stupid. Now, I constantly have people asking me to paint them something and the sad thing is I needed those classes because I could be so much better.
Also, stay away from negative people who put you down. Most are idiots and jealous, especially in HS.
And like your profile says, focus on yourself, not what others perceive of you.
Peace

Answer 4

Graphotherapy can help - that means to change your handwriting. Look at it right now... are the horizontal lines that go through the vertical ones (the letter "t") really low? Bring it up... and do that from now on.

Look at your "y" - when you go down when making that letter does it end short? Make it longer and add a loop (the healthiest letter "y" to make).

Go to a site about graphotherapy for more information.

Answer 5

Step One
Stop comparing yourself with other people. There will always be some people who have more than you and some who have less. If you play the comparison game, you'll run into too many "opponents" you can't defeat.


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Step Two
Stop putting yourself down. You can't develop high self-esteem if you repeat negative phrases about yourself and your abilities. Whether speaking about your appearances, your career, your relationships, your financial situation, or any other aspects of your life, avoid self-deprecating comments.


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Step Three
Accept all compliments with "thank you." Ever received a compliment and replied," Oh, it was nothing." When you reject a compliment, the message you give yourself is that you are not worthy of praise. Respond to all compliments with a simple Thank You."


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Step Four
Use affirmations to enhance your self-esteem. On the back of a business card or small index card, write out a statement such as "I like and accept my self." or "I am valuable, lovable person and deserve the best in life." Carry the card with you. Repeat the statement several times during the day, especially at night before going to bed and after getting up in the morning. Whenever you say the affirmation, allow yourself to experience positive feelings about your statement.


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Step Five
Take advantage of workshops, books and cassette tape programs on self-esteem. Whatever material you allow to dominate mind will eventually take root and affect your behavior. If you watch negative television programs or read newspaper reports of murders and business rip off; you will grow cynical and pessimistic. Similarly, if you read books or listen to programs, that are positive in nature, you will take on these characteristics.


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Step Six
Associate with positive, supportive people. When you are surrounded by negative people who constantly put you and your ideas down, your self-esteem is lowered. On the other hand, when you are accepted and encouraged, you feel better about yourself in the best possible environment to raise your self-esteem.


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Step Seven
Make a list of your past successes. This doesn't necessarily have to consist of monumental accomplishments. It can include your "minor victories," like learning to skate, graduating from high school, receiving an award or promotion, reaching a business goal, etc. Read this list often. While reviewing it, close your eyes and recreate the feelings of satisfaction and joy you experienced when you first attained each success.


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Step Eight
Make a list of your positive qualities. Are you honest? Unselfish? Helpful? Creative? Be generous with yourself and write down at least 20 positive qualities. Again, it's important to review this list often. Most people dwell on their inadequacies and then wonder why their life isn't working out. Start focusing on your positive traits and you'll stand a much better chance of achieving what you wish to achieve.


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Step Nine
Start giving more. I'm not talking about money. Rather, I mean that you must begin to give more of yourself to those around your. When you do things for others, you are making a positive contribution and you begin to feel more valuable, which, in turn, lifts your spirits and raises your own self-esteem.
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Step Ten
Get involved in work and activities you love. It's hard to feel good about yourself if your days are spent in work you despise. Self-esteem flourishes when you are engaged in work and activities that you enjoy and make you feel valuable. Even if you can't explore alternative career options at the present time, you can still devote leisure time to hobbies and activities, which you find stimulating and enjoyable.


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Step Eleven
Be true to yourself. Live your own life - not the life others have decided is best for you. You'll never gain your own respect and feel good about yourself if you aren't leading the life you want to lead. If you're making decisions based on getting approval from friends and relatives, you aren't being true to yourself and your self-esteem is lowered.


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Step Twelve
Take action! You won't develop high self-esteem if you sit on the sidelines and back away from challenges. When you take action - regardless of the ensuing result - you feel better about yourself. When you fail to move forward because of fear and anxiety, you'll be frustrated and unhappy - and you will undoubtedly deal a damaging blow to your self-esteem.

Answer 6

34% best answers,not good-no,you are good to me.
Does this raise your self esteem

Answer 7

You need to see a psychiatrist.

He will have you admitted to a psychiatric facility where they will make you wear pajamas. Tie you in restraints and medicate you with about fourteen different types of pills.

The pills will make you gain a hundred pounds but that is a small price to pay.

http://www.cchr.org/index.cfm/8771

Answer 8

Volunteer at a children's shelter or hospital...you'll feel better because you're helping the community...

Answer 9

go for jogs and tell yourself ' i am great ' ..................