ive been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years, just a couple weeks ago i found out that he was dating a girl out of town for 9 months he was on the net with her the phone he went down there to see her behind my back...told me he was going out of town with his parents... but it turns out that even after he broke up with her they still talked ans stuff im in love with this guy i love him with all my heart and i need help i dont know what to do he says he was stupid and didnt love me then but he loves me now ... i dont know what to believe please help me
2007-03-15 07:38:00 · 25 answers · asked by jennifer l 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
DROP HIM!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-03-15 07:47:32 · answer #1 · answered by mcmur7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That all depends. How long ago was this? If you have been with him for two years and he didnt love you, there is a problem right there. Secondly, if he felt the need to be sneaky behind your back once, what makes you think there isnt other things, or he wont do it down the road. These days people need to realize there are SOO many diseases out there, what if he passed it on to you not knowing the other girl had something. I would walk away or make him prove to you that you are the one he wants. It takes a lot to trust someone but it takes alot more to gain that back.
2007-03-15 07:43:53 · answer #2 · answered by kyle0027 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry this guy hurt you, but now you have to figure out what is in your own best interest. It's doubtful that you'll ever truly trust him again, although you may be lonely enough to put that thought at the back of your mind. But just b/c you are able to crowd out the doubts doesn't mean that he will be loyal and faithful. Don't you want someone that cares as much about you as you do them, someone that you can trust with your heart, someone that understands the value of loyalty?!! He has shown his true colors and his character flaws. I hope you and the other girl both dump him. He's trying to be a player, he's just not very good at it. I'd bet that the other girl has turned her back on him, and he assumed you'd be 'waiting in the wings' to take him back. Believe what you know is true (in your heart and in your mind) and don't ignore the evidence in front of you. He can't be trusted and you are aware of it. You are allowing your emotions to control your decisions about this matter.
2007-03-15 07:47:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is it that guys think that all they have to do is say, I was stupid and made a mistake, and they think that we should just believe them? Since when is stupidity, an excuse? And, cheating, a mistake? He's been playing you if you've been together for 2 years! Dump him and find a guy that knows how to treat you, and more importantly, knows the value of honesty and trust in a relationship!
2007-03-15 07:50:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations, you just completed the very purpose of dating that skum. You have determined he is unworthy of you and being your husband and the father of your children.
To go behind your back and pork another girl is way beyond a mistake, it was cold hearted premeditated cheating about the worst thing he could do other than slap you in the face and put a bullet in your head. Drop him so fast he gets a ticket from the dating police!
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2007-03-15 07:49:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He cheated on you once. He will do it again. He lied to you for a very long time, almost one year. He stole your heart. and threw it away. So, he's a cheater, a liar, a thief, (just to name a few). Think of yourself more highly. Is this really the garbage you deserve? You'll never be able to truly forgive him for the deception. And if you do, will you ever forgive yourself for going back?....... Find someone more deserving of your love; Not someone who already used you. Be proud. Hold your head high.
2007-03-15 07:47:23 · answer #6 · answered by Mimi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know this is a tuff one because he kept this a secret for 9 months thats a long time!!! And NOW he loves you??? what is up with that??? The question here is can you trust him, if not then deffinately break it off im telling you now if you cant trust him it will never work out!!! You will just be causing more problems for yourself!!!
2007-03-15 07:43:08 · answer #7 · answered by Priscilla R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you love yourself? do you have feelings? do you think that you can't get any better? the answer to the first two should be yes and the answer to the last one should be no. If these are your answers then dump him and get a respectful guy because you do have feelings, you should love yourself and you can always do better. This guy is just using you till something better comes along and when it doesn't work out he knows that you will be waiting to take him back, have some self respect and dump this looser and show him that you can do better
2007-03-15 11:10:08 · answer #8 · answered by halcry_4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if i were i you i will sooo not take him back after what he did to u noo way!!And how could u take him back after he told u that he didn't truly love u???
well,
if he really loves u , u will see a difference on how he acts with you. if he acts the same like how he did before i don't think he really loves you ... but if he starts changing for the better may be he regrets what he did to u in the first place. Good luck wish u the best
2007-03-15 07:56:10 · answer #9 · answered by svetlana 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You dont need us to figure this out on your own, but since you posted the question im gonna answer it, leave him. This isnt a good relationship, and you deserve better than that. Dont believe what he said, just let him go and find someone who deserves you and will treat you with respect.
2007-03-15 07:45:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he did it once, he will end up doing it again. The trust you had has been broken and you will always suspect him of it even if he never does it again. He's been with you two years and didn't love you then, but does now? I don't personally buy that crap. If you love him, then keep a close eye on him. But, if it were me I would save myself alot of heartache for later and get rid of him.
2007-03-15 07:44:48 · answer #11 · answered by pruittwithkids 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋