Okay he was my first everything(Love,hug,holding hands,and my first kiss) I loved him so much.I was really good friends w/him for over a year.we talked 'bout datin' 4 'bout a month.we started datin' 'bout 5 or 6 weeks ago.he broke up w/me 'bout 2 weeks ago.after a week I got a new bf.(Lets just say its not workin' out)I can't stop thinking 'bout him.He had got kicked out of school last year so I Know its love cuz I went a year without seeing him but I still said I loved him.So how do I get over him?And do you think I can?
2007-03-15 07:31:49 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
and Im 16 and he's my first everything...
2007-03-15 07:39:47 · update #1
Yes, you will for sure get over him. You just have to meet someone else that is right for you. We always end up with Mr. Right, so the other one was not for you, because you didn't end up with him. If the wrong man felt so right, just imagine how good the right man will feel.
Meanwhile, do other things that you like. Get into sports, hobbies, goals in school. Concentrate your efforts somewhere else.
2007-03-15 07:38:39 · answer #1 · answered by Mimi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like you have a broken heart and I'm truly sorry if that is the case. You certaintly do have the capacity to 'get over him' though and it will require a lot of self-determination on your part. This may sound strange....but if you really want to get over him it may help to pretend that he died or fell off the face of the earth. Think about it...if that were the case you would not have the option of every calling him or communicating with him again, you would grieve and be left with memories and that's all. In the meanwhile, you'd figure out what was in your own best interest, you'd develop more self-love, accept support from those that care about you, and you'd move on with your life eventually. Staying stuck in the same 'ole cycle where you pine away for someone that you think you love, that you think has changed, that you think has now developed the necessary skills to have a good relationship with you....it's basically just your own imagination at work. Deal with the realities and go from there. You're strong enough to stand on your own if you need to--good luck
2007-03-15 07:40:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can get over anyone, if you allow yourself to. If you choose to cling to the memory or the hope things will change, then you won't get over him until you let go.
What benefit are you getting out of hanging on to this? Why not let go and move on? It's normal and natural to be upset for a period of time, but most people have multiple boyfriends or girlfriends during their life, and nobody is worth stopping enjoying life because we cannot be with them.
Understand that you and he were not a good match, and that's okay. Treasure the good times you had together, learn the lessons that were there for you to learn, and move forward down other paths in your life.
Don't miss out on the great things that are ahead, because you've allowed yourself to become stuck in a past issue that is over.
2007-03-15 07:38:15 · answer #3 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me help you understand something important. There really is no such thing as getting over someone.
If you love him, then you love him. All you can do is just accept it and proclaim it and just live life. I had to learn this lesson, and few do. Don't live by emotions, live through them, acknowledge them and pick up something else.
Listen, You have the world at your fingertips! Stop stressing and just look around you and try to notice everything. I had to do this myself. Try to focus on others and try not to worry about emotions. If you have to cry, do so. If you get angry, do so. Just don't get so boxed up in it that that is all you think about. it has to be a concience effort.
Try this: go outside, close your eyes and try to feel the air with your fingertips. And then look at the sky, and notice it's color.
Then take a slow deep breath and try to taste the air. It's gotta be a concience effort.
It's not meditation, it's living life and finding your place in it.
2007-03-15 07:44:52 · answer #4 · answered by larua_2005 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seem like you really do love him so this means that you need to go get 'em! But, if you just cant then you just have to try and put him out of your mind. I dated a guy for 3 yrs and he was my first everything too but then i had to move over 2000 miles away and we lost touch... i love him still but i just know that there is no way i can be with him so i just try and focus on life here and have fun with my girlfriends, but i do have a new boyfriend and i love him i think too, but all i have to say is to make your new relationship work and move on...
2007-03-15 07:39:09 · answer #5 · answered by sexy_golfer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time. In time it will come eaiser. I take it you are young because of the school thing. You may always love him and that is ok just let go of him and the only way really is with time. Move on though and have fun. If it is met to be yall will be.
2007-03-15 07:38:12 · answer #6 · answered by Sarah G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's funny becouse I just wanted to ask the same thing, I'm exactly in the same situation as you are but what I say to myself to make me feel better is that why loving someone who just doesn't love you ?????
2007-03-15 07:45:11 · answer #7 · answered by shiva m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
O hon, get over him. It looks like he used you. Bastard. Be smart and really think about it. There is someone out there for everyone.. when you break up.. prolly means something..
Move on!
2007-03-15 07:36:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had the same problem. the first guy i dated id di everything with, and i've known him for almost 4 years. we've dated on & off since then and i cant seem to get over him. even tho we both try to move on, we cant. idk how to get over first loves, but you will. i have hope for me and anyone else who needs it.
2007-03-15 07:38:26 · answer #9 · answered by Kelsey K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋