mom expects me to call?

Question

So my mom isnt unreasonably overprotective but she expects me to call every hour or so when im out...im 14. And she lets me out on weekends with my boyfriend and friends and such and she asks me to check in every hour...perfectly reasonable except she refuses to buy me a cell phone. My friends get kind of annoyed when i have to rotate and use up their minutes between their phones. I just wish that if she expects me to check in, which is fine, then she could at least provide me with the things in need to check in. I overused minuter in 7th grade and thats part of her phobia of giving me a phone. But thats when i was 12. Its been two years and ive proven to be responsible when i use her cell phone. Sometimes she lends me her phone but she cant all the time and I dont expect her too. Its just I need some help convincing her to get me a phone if she's so insistant that i check in!

Answer 1

take some change with you and use a pay phone, your mom is just looking out for you, when i was your age my mom didnt even let me go out with my boyfriend, we were restricted to hanging out in the living room with her presence, so consider yourself lucky!

Answer 2

If your mom already has a phone, she can probably add a line to her existing plan for $10 a month and have unlimited minutes between users on the same service. That would make it hard to go over on minutes, especially since minutes between you and your mother every hour would be free.

Express what you have written here to her and offer the options of a roll of quaters and using pay phones, the prepaid minutes phones, or adding a line to her plan.

You could even show her your post on here if you needed a way to break the news to her. Good Luck and if your mom is as reasonable as you seem to be, I'm sure she will see the logic.

Answer 3

You sound like a good kid, especially since you don't have a problem with having to check in. I would encourage your mother to buy you a cellphone that has a prepaid plan. T-Mobile has many phones to choose from and you pay for your minutes ahead of time. You can purchase $10 worth which gives you about 30 minutes, on up to $100 worth. If you run out of minutes, you don't have to worry because the phone will not work until you refill your minutes, which can be done online. That might be a solution for you. Good luck.

Answer 4

It's great that you understand that she just wants to keep you safe. I applaud you for that at your young age. If you don't feel that you can talk to her face to face without getting into a heated battle or something. Write a thoughtful note that explains just what you said above. Explain that you would like to get another cell phone and that you promise to control the minutes and even research and suggest a few plans that are pay as you go plans. I'm sure that you can come to some reasonable terms. Emphasis that you respect her wishes to check in and will continue to do so. You sound like a good girl!

Answer 5

do what i did just be like mom think about it how am i supposed to check in with you if i have no cell phone?

and if she says use a friends then say "mom think about this too their parents have to pay for the minutes i use and if i was one of those kids that had to let me use the phone you would get mad at me for using minutes....and plus ive matured"
and if that doesnt work reason with her to give you a pay as you go phone so you can prove you are responsible

Answer 6

you do have a valid point and if you talk to your mom and tell her the way you presented it here she might change her mind and if not ask for a allowance increase to cover the cost of the payphone use as your friends cant keep letting you use their phones,now from a mother of a 14 year old myself i worry about him when he is out too we moms have a way of often thinking the worse and praying for the best it comes from loving our kids so much and sometimes its hard to let go even a little to see if what we have been trying to teach you has worked that comes out of fear that it has not,try to be patient with her.

Answer 7

at wal-mart they have nokia phones for about twenty dollars also you can get calling units as low as twenty dollars which you set up this track fone for thirty days ,two hundred units for forty nine ninety five for sixty days, also you can get a one year track fone card with five hundred units for one hundred thirty seven dollars this way the phone is good four hundred units,during that year you receive double Th units, but again if you ask your mother if you would be able to Surat with a monthly card for twenty dollars and a track phone for twenty nine dollars ,she would be able to call you anytime, ask her if you can work or help pay for it by doing some work ,they are not used for long talks just for 911 or emergency

Answer 8

There are telephones everywhere. Have her give you a roll of quarters. And ask her if she can make it every two hours. Or a tracphone with top-up minutes that you only take with you when your on call-in-to-mom-time.

Answer 9

Well you have to call her , it really hearts not to feel needed anymore especially now that you are in a critical age.
I used to think that my parents were really chasing me , but now with all whats going on around us i don't blame them.
Never hide a thing from her no one really cares about you as she will do not believe that ,you are still young but trust me the boyfriend you have will be gone ....she won't.

so call her please an advise from a mother

Answer 10

YOUR 14, YOU SHOULD BE CALLING EVERY 30MINUTES.... DEAL WITH HER, ALL SHE IS DOING IS PROTECTING HER LITTLE BABY....STREETS ARE CRAZY NOW DAYS.. BE HAPPY THAT YOUR MOM CARES A LOT ABOUT WHAT YOUR DOING AND WHO YOU ARE DOING IT WITH... LET HER NOW HOW YOU FEEL SHE WILL UNDERSTAND. ALSO EXPLAIN TO HER HOW CONVENIENT IT WILL BE FOR HER,,CAUSE SHE WILL BE ABLE TO ALWAYS KEEP TRACK OF YOU... STAY SWEET!