I have a 16 year old son and had him very young, i was 17. I have recently become engaged and find myself wanting start another family with my soon to be husband. He has a son also who is almost 18. We are both in our early 30's.......has anyone every faced this situation? Even if you haven't what would you do. I feel like I was so young when I had my son that now I could do it so much better! Not that he didn't turn out wonderful but my whole perspective has changed. Thank you for your answers!
2007-03-15 07:29:41 · 11 answers · asked by klausier 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I had my children at 19 and 21. I am in my mid 30s and they are in high school. I am blessed with well behaved, articulate, smart, trustworthy, healthy, children. I am engaged and in no way would want to start all over, we got a puppy instead. I enjoy having time to do things for myself while I am still young enough. I am in college and 1/2 way to my degree. I am able to make it to all their school functions and extra curricular activities, we can "pack up and go" any time we want on vacation, to our cabin, out to dinner, etc.......no, I wouldn't want to have a baby now.
2007-03-15 11:19:42 · answer #1 · answered by itsjustme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 31 years old, I gave birth to my oldest when I was 18. I became pregnant when I was 17. He is not a bit over 13 years old. I married again and we too have just decided to start trying for another baby. I think that although there is a hug difference in age, it will work out fine. Yes, we will be starting all over again, but if we are both willing to make that change in out life, then things will work out just fine. I feel excited for this new change, I feel I am old enough now to appreciate the pregnancy and the sleepless nights, as for when I was young and didn't know much better, I just felt it was a big burden. I wish I had the knowledge that I have now, back 13 years ago when I was having a baby. I don't feel my heart was completely in it, as for now, I want to enjoy every new step of conceiving, pregnancy and then the childhood. Just because your children are grown, doesn't mean this is a bad choice to make, it just mean this baby will have many more people loving it to death, watching out for him or her. Good luck with your decision, only you can know if this is something you are ready to commit to.
2007-03-15 08:08:07 · answer #2 · answered by Michelle Lynn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, my biological clock just stopped ticking. I have a 12 year old daughter and 18 year old daughter. I met my husband when I was 23, he was 36 when I was bartending. He was never married and never had children. I all ready had a daughter and been divorced!! My second daughter was a surprise, I was thrilled. My husband was very nervous . I ended up having my tubes tide after a c-section. That was the biggest mistake EVER. I wanted more children so badly. I watched the Discovery health Channel, watching all the birthing shows. I surfed the internet about having a reversal on my tubes. I e-mailed DR.s about helping with the cost. LOL. If you can have another child then do it. I understand having more children later in life, you'll appreciate it more and enjoy the experience all over again!! If you can, then GO FOR IT. God Bless and good luck!!
2007-03-15 08:14:10 · answer #3 · answered by Nancy S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear lady....
Congratulations on several accounts.....your wonderful, awesome Son and your engagement.
I will feel free to relate my story.
Perhaps it will help you make a good choice.
I also had children when very young, but my husband past away.....and my youngest Son was 10 then. In total I had 3 Sons. I was 33.
I met my second husband, we married, and we knew that we did not wanted to start another family.
He couldn't wait to spoil me rotten, travel, and just enjoy the two of us.
It helped that we soon had grand children, and where able to get our "baby fix" anytime we wanted.
Now he is past on also......after a long bout with cancer......
and we had the most amazing marriage.....
If we had an another family....these children would now be without a Dad.
I am very happy we chose to live this way.
But this is hind site!!!!!!
I would talk to my soon to be husband and see how he feels about it....
A lot of things need to be considered. Your jobs, your health,
your income....
How would your teenage boys feel?
What ever you both decide, I want to wish you a very happy life together.
I hope I was of some help.
Best regards
2007-03-15 08:01:51 · answer #4 · answered by Sabine5 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was also seventeen when I had my first child. Seven years later I started my "second" family and I have never regretted making that choice. My daughter loved helping with the new babies which really put her in a positive and active role as a family member.
I was 29 when my last child was born. Being older really does make a tremendous difference when it comes to parenting. My comfort zone was warm and large and my patience had strengthened dramatically. I think having babies when you're older is a much more pleasant experience
God Bless! I hope you have the same positive experiences that I did should you decide to start another family! Annie
2007-03-15 07:54:04 · answer #5 · answered by Annie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I had my children young too. I got married at 17. And now I am practically raising my 3 1/2 yr. old grand-son. And I find that I am more patient and am willing to do more. It does help when people wait until they are older to have children. You might be more into mothering now.
2007-03-15 07:41:15 · answer #6 · answered by M.R.M. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had 2 children and wanted more. My husband didn't at first but some years later changed his mind. By that time I felt it was too late, I wanted the freedom by then. I think if I had been in your situation though I would definitely have wanted more children with my new partner.
2007-03-15 08:40:03 · answer #7 · answered by gerrifriend 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had my firstborn when I was 21. My second when I was 23 and my third when I was 25. My oldest is now 13 and my youngest is 8.
I'm in my mid 30's and I'm ready to start over again.
Follow your heart.
2007-03-15 07:38:02 · answer #8 · answered by Valentina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know a lot of people like that who have had childern young then had more like 16-18 years latter. It's actually really common now to do.
2007-03-15 07:36:27 · answer #9 · answered by cowgrl3611 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 15 years old and my daughter is almost a year old i love being a mother but then again i feel tied down sometimes like i cant do any thing i go to school come home and take care of my daughter i love her to death and theres nothing i wouldnt do for her!!!!!!!!!
2007-03-15 08:03:47 · answer #10 · answered by heather w 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋