Alright, what is the darn deal with this man/boy? How do I turn the tables around, where he can do the chasing. What works with a man that likes to play games and be in control?
2007-03-15 07:29:38 · 21 answers · asked by Queenie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have done the whole ignoring thing, it works, but then it goes right back after a couple days. I should probably just move on, but before I do I want to make a point.
2007-03-15 07:44:44 · update #1
Stop chasing him....that's what makes him chase you back if he's interested. If you leave him alone and act busy and stop calling.............he'll have to make an effort. If he doesn't he's not worth the chase in the first place.
2007-03-15 07:33:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
There is quite a few parts to understanding that, which i still don't believe i have a full understanding of but here is my take. First, women want what they cant have. Guys who are commonly known as players or don't give them the respect or attention that they so crave. Most women also desire "a hot body" and typically some form of spontaneous actions. With the two combined (attitude and looks) These guys will metaphorically attach a small string to each of the girls in there little black book by ways of comments or actions that will reel the girl back to them every time. If the girl feels there is hope, they tend to drop the current and go back to the guy. As it usually ends up, the girl gets emotionally hurt sooner or later. It becomes the "Norm" and becomes what they are use to. Guys like this cant often be tamed until the right girl comes along. But until then, every other girl gets hurt. Nice guys are exactly that, nice. They are the guys that the girl will walk back to crying about the failed relationship so they can have someone to talk to that they trust. The trust is based, yes the person them selves but also the predictability of the guy. He may be the guy that that girl could marry but not the guy that excites them. With age also comes the maturity factor, which ranges in a total different ball field. There is more of a trend of this in younger women than older because as people get older they start to realize what they really want out of life and often feel like there running out of time. But while young, they live in the moment. Lastly, Not all women are willing to go for these types of guys. There are many smart women out there that know what they want. But a little excitement never hurt anyone i guess. It is completely possible to be a good guy and still have "Game".
2016-03-16 21:08:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess in some ways it is an newer age attitude. It used to be the exact opposite, where women were always the one to play hard to get, and had the role to try to pursue and persuade a woman into choosing them. It was the womans only power over men in those days. But with women's lib, etc (which I believe is a good thing) women have gained more power and the playing field of relationships became more equal. We have dates such as going dutch, the woman paying for things, etc.
If you want him to chase you, you have to do a couple of things. First, make sure that he is willing to chase. If he isn't, then everything is useless, and most likely he will move on to the next woman. If you know he likes you in this manner, you can go about it a couple of ways. One extreme would be ignoring him. I would go the middle path though, and lessen contact. Maybe cancel a few dates, etc. Don't ignore him completely, otherwise he will think you do not like him and go for someone else.
2007-03-15 07:38:42 · answer #3 · answered by Pauly 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Good luck with that. It is difficult to figure out what makes any guy tick. Ignoring him may result in having no contact at all, so be prepared for that. If he's a player, he won't even notice that you're ignoring him. He'll just try to prove to you that he can date any number of other girls. Accept the fact that he probably will never change, so if he doesn't suit you now he may never do so. Don't settle for less than what you deserve. It's probably more 'his issues' than anything you've done or said. It's frustrating...but probably a fact of life. Be prepared to move on is my only advice.
2007-03-15 07:34:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
well be careful if you play hard to get to much he will think you dont like him and run the other way so here is what you want to do if you want your man to chase after you a little bit
when he calls be busy but not all the time
so lets say you two hang out every day well from now on take about 3 to 4 days and be busy (even if you have nothing to do)
make him think you have a life outside if him and he will want you bad also when he calls be very nice and kind and never get mad and if he bails on your date "say oh well a friend of mine wanted to take me to dinner anyways i think it will be fun to see HIM again"
also flirt a little not a ton and not in front of him just make him think that other men want you that will make him think you are really a catch and that other guys are trying to get you so he now feels he has to step it up a notch
oh and always have confidence dont ever show him you dont have any when he gives you a compliment say "i know thanks"
2007-03-15 07:38:44 · answer #5 · answered by carmelfude2003 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he's fat, don't turn the table while he's eating. He won't be able to reach his triplestacker and fries, would get agitated and might just bite you.
2007-03-15 07:33:30 · answer #6 · answered by DarkLord_Bob 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ignore him. Dont take his calls, don't answer his emails.
If he does catch you "oops, I have to let you go, I'm on the other line, I'll call you right back", then dont.
he'll be frothing at the mouth in no time.
2007-03-15 07:32:41 · answer #7 · answered by Munya Says: DUH! 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Games are for children. Don't play along. If he really wanted you he'd go after you. Ditch the loser.
2007-03-15 07:32:46 · answer #8 · answered by beanie_babymama 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off.. don't deal wit a stupid man who plays games.. It sucks! But, if you want to play games with the rest.... just ignore him and he will start chasing.. act like you don't care...
2007-03-15 07:32:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ignore him. They HATE that! LOL
Or make him jealous...try to make sure he calls you when another guy is around and let him hear it in the background
2007-03-15 07:35:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋