If you met someone online...?

Question

If you met someone online who lived in a different state and you guys really hit it off, would you travel to see them or move to be with them?

It's a hypothetical question, but for those of you showing concern for my mental stability, thanks. I'm just asking people's personal opinion.

Answer 1

I would totally go to them, cause I think he/she may just be worth the risk. Even if it was just to see them face to face to just make sure its right, cause I honestly think when 2 people connect they know right away that they are to be together in one way, shape or form. Either as soul mates, lovers, or best friends the whole thing will be worth any trip no matter how far away he/she is. To the writer; all of the feelings are mutual and then some. Endless hours or thought and losing sleep.

Answer 2

I met a guy on line by way of Yahoo Personals, and right this moment is our 4 3 hundred and sixty 5 days anniversary. only met in a public place the 1st time, using fact there are some unusual ones obtainable.

Answer 3

I would do what I did do. We met 1\2 way. Got to know a bit about each other, had some fun. Then if you both really hit it off in person & want to see more of each other take turns going to see each other for a while (you to his state, then him to your state). After that if you find you really love each other then talk about moving to be with him or if he could move to be with you.If he cares about you he's not going to push you to do things too fast. Don't rush things, take your time, cuz if things are meant to be then it will all work out.

Answer 4

Well, I met a man online and we dated for over 2 years before we actually met. When we fet it was time i had him come meet me, i did have that fear of the crazy people thing, especially since woman are sometimes easially harmed. He understood and I ended up moving in with him. I know it wasnt a mistake. Just remember..not everyone is crazy or weird there are some honest people out there that had their chances ruined by the other disgusting people out there.

Answer 5

i actually met my fiance online, and the first time i met him in person is when i moved to a different state to be with him. it was RISKY but i did it anyway. (i have the mentality that i only can get killed once, so why not enjoy life) it turned out to be for the best but i wouldnt of done it if I had kids. if it didnt work, i could of always went back home and just had a mini vacation. i dont really see the difference of meeting someone online and someone offline. yes people lie online, but they also lie offline. a liar is a liar. its true they can lie to you easier online, but people lie offline about who else there daiting, where they work, if they are married, and other kind of things. plus you can run into a "crazy" person just walking down the street.... so i guess its really up to the person. but like i said, i would of NEVER did it if i had kids.


also when i went back home to visit, i actually met a girl who was moving to my old state to be with someone she met online.

Answer 6

How well do you know this person? How long have you known them? Has he visited you first? have you met his friends and/or family?

People can tell you anything they want to online. It is the non-intrusive playground where you can truly be anything you want to be if you are that type of person. There are many bored men out there with wives and girlfriends (as well as kids) who use the internet as an escape to stroke thier ego's. Hey, they feel they have nothing to lose since it is just online.

In my "many years" of experience, trust me, I would NEVER move to be with someone. if you truly have done your homewrok and feel they are the one for you, let them move to be with you. Or, negotiate between you two and really discuss jobs and families that would be affected.

Overall, please just protect yourself and use some common sense. Don't jump into something that you may end up regretting for years, or maybe a lifetime.

Answer 7

If we'd met in person and there was a good connection, then yes...I'd travel to visit them (after they'd traveled to visit me).

Would I relocate to be with them? That's a tougher question...it would depend on a lot of factors. I really like where I live now, so it would take some serious circumstances and/or a really remarkable man who could not relocate for me to even contemplate the idea...and of course, he'd have to live some place I had a reasonable desire to live as well.

Answer 8

I agree with JCMC. All safety issues aside, I would regret missing out on a potentially amazing relationship. I too believe that you know when you know. When you get older and you've settled your whole life, isn't it worth it to see if this person might not be "the one"? Some people might never experience true love based solely on their location. Plus I believe that God brings people into our lives for a reason. But that's just me....

Answer 9

Like any other relationship, you need to spend time with the person to find out what they are really like. With that said, if you cannot spend a great deal of "regular" time with them, eating out, meeting with friends, etc. then you may risk having unrealistic expectations when you do travel to meet them. Long distance relationships rarely work, because good relationships take a lot of time face to face.

Answer 10

I have never had this come up; however, my friend met someone online, and she took a day trip once to meet him. They are now the best of friends. IF you decide to meet them, make sure you meet them in a crowded place the first time. Who knows? This person could be your soul mate!