2007-03-15 07:28:38 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Check with the town hall in your area. They should have a procedure... you may need to be married first. Also, the father has to have given up all parental rights, which also means you will no longer get child support from him.
2007-03-15 07:32:12 · answer #1 · answered by Some Lady 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Each of the 50 states has their own laws and procedures for adoption. If you meant you would like your fiance to adopt your son, I assume you mean after you two are married. If so, that is called a "step-parent adoption" . This is common procedure, and is easier and less complex than adoption by an unrelated couple, since one of the child's birth parents is staying with the child, agreeing to the adoption in the interest of having the presence of a couple to bring up the child.
As with any adoption, the connection with the other natural parent ceases, and the step-parent steps in to take over the rights and duties of a parent for all legal purposes, including support.
Be aware that in all step-parent adoptions, you must obtain the legal consent of the other parent,( the natural father or mother), if they are still living, unless they have abandoned the child. If they still pay child support and have legal visitation rights, or joint custody for example, this will change with an adoption, and they cannot be forced to give up their parental rights if they do not wish to do so.
Check with an attorney when you are ready to begin the procedure. The time delays and procedures before a court will act on the petition varies from state to state.
2007-03-15 14:50:23 · answer #2 · answered by JOHN B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think he should adopt your son until you are married. You have to ask yourself a few questions..is he a responsible individual, with a good job and that he has shown caring and interest in your son? If you can say yes, and he is willing, then my answer would be yes. But while you are still engaged, No is my answer. It is not the time. Also be aware, your ex husband would have to give up his parental rights if your future husband would want to adopt him, so it is complicated. Take your time.
2007-03-15 16:48:05 · answer #3 · answered by cardgirl2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obtain an attorney who handles adoption, make sure all your paperwork is in order, i.e., your son understands and wants to be adopted by this man, and your son's birth father has signed off on all his paternal rights. Then your attorney will handle the rest with the courts. Good luck!!
2007-03-15 14:39:11 · answer #4 · answered by Cindy Roo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The most important thing to consider is: Has the natural father relinquished ALL paternal rights? If not, then that would be a problem.
If there's no paternal issue, then you would need to consult an attorney because there's a legal process that's involved; its not simply a matter of changing the kid's name to your fiance's. Call around to attorneys who specialize in family custody law or contact a lawyer referral service through your local (state) BAR association (found in your phone book).
2007-03-15 14:42:18 · answer #5 · answered by Brutally Honest 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This happened to me and my now husband so first of all we went to a solicitor to set the wheels in motion and believe me you also have to adopt your son even though your his Mum unless the laws have changed in 21 years. We found it easy enough to do and your Son has to tell the person [not a judge] that he wants this person as his Dad. Hope this helps
2007-03-15 14:46:30 · answer #6 · answered by sunshine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your fiance should express a desire to want to adopt your child - he should bring it up, not you. Second, wait until your child is old enough to make a decision. Also, forcing, I mean, convincing him to adopt your child won't change their relationship. If you think that this will help him feel closer to your son, it won't work.
2007-03-15 14:55:26 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find an adoption agency; most likely they'll know how, as far as paperwork and the rest of it goes. Also, if he's able to form sentences, you should definitely ask your son how he feels about it.
If he's too young: as one who is adopted, I can tell you that the best thing my parents did was to tell me when I was so young that I never felt as though I wasn't supposed to be with them.
2007-03-15 14:34:36 · answer #8 · answered by Nathan C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think maby you should ask your son first! Because it is a very big decision! or maby you could talk to your fiance about it and see what he thinks! After all it is sort of their decision! You should also see if it is ok with the sons real father! Good Luck!!!!
2007-03-15 14:34:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to see a Solicitor who deals with Family problems. You MUST have the father of the childs permission in writing. If he doesn't give it, you cannot adopt.
2007-03-15 14:58:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋