We have been together for about a month and a half. I know he is REALLY into me wich is great cuz I am really into him too. To be honest, he is the best guy I have ever dated! :) Everything I would ever want in a man.
One thing that is confusing me though... Sometimes he tells me he loves me. But I don't know if it is an "I love you" or more of a "luv ya"... Last night when I dropped him off at his car when he was getting out he kissed me and said "love you baby", then today he sent me a text message and at the end of it he wrote "love you babe".
My question is do guys throw around the "L" word? Or when they say it do they really mean it?
I have not said it back to him because to be honest, I don't love him YET. I can tell I will, but I personally need more time. Is it rude not to say it back? Should I because I know I am heading down that path or keep my lip zipped for now?
Thanks :)
He is 23 I am 21.
2007-03-15 07:24:40 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i think its hard for a guy sometimes to say the L word
2007-03-15 07:27:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I see what you are saying. You are not sure if he is sincere when he says it. You sound like a deeper thinker and feeler and not willing to be flip or insincere. If you like him sayingn it make sure he knows it, tell him that is so sweet and smile at him. It may make him a little insecure if you are not saying it back. It might mean that he does not understand you, really know you, well enough to know that you don't use words casually. If he seems put out tell him how you feel and what using the word means to you. But try to keep it light and don't make it a big deal as it is relatively a small thing in a realtionship that is going so well. Ifit means anythingn I say and write love you to almost all my family and friends-I jsut mean it in a light appreciative way.
2007-03-15 14:33:48 · answer #2 · answered by beachloveric 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might really mean it, but is saying it to you in a casual way to see what your response may be. I would text him and maybe put a luv u babe at the end and see how he responds to it. The only problem is if that is what he is waiting to hear from you, you might have to continue saying it, and you aren't ready for that. I don't think it's rude not to say it back if you choose not to, sometimes people just fall in LOVE faster than others. PS-I don't remember dating a guy who said the L word unless they really meant it, or they were just trying to get me in bed!!!
2007-03-15 14:35:58 · answer #3 · answered by cat12 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From my personal experience, men do not say I love you, unless they believe they really do love you. And to a certain degree, love means something different to everyone. I don't think men, generally speaking, like to show or admit that they are vulnerable. Loving someone is putting yourself in the most vulnerable position there is, getting your heart broken.
There may be some people who aren't sincere when they confess their love to someone, Actions speak louder than words. Time will tell. And good for you, for not telling him you love him, if you aren't feeling that yet. Also, when the right person comes along, you can feel love for that person almost immediately.
2007-03-15 14:37:10 · answer #4 · answered by labsims 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say it all depends on what kind of guy he is. There are the extroverted type who will throw it around when they don't really mean it and the introverted type who would take 2 years to say it once. I personally never throw it around casually.
Part of me wants to say he's just throwing it around because of the fact that he hasn't noticed you didn't say it back. This makes me think he kind of just slipped it in there (like when getting out of the car) rather than a serious, eye to eye I love you. I don't know if that makes sense but that's my $0.02.
2007-03-17 01:52:42 · answer #5 · answered by Timmay! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for some people the fact that u r not saying it back might make them feel that u r not into them, and for others it is rude and cruel for them as guys to put it out like that and for u not to say it back can really be an insult. on the other hand if u r not ready to say it then don't say it and make sure he knows how u feel and if he ever ask u why u never say it back just tell him that u want to make sure that what u feel for him is real and that u will say it eventually.
2007-03-15 14:57:12 · answer #6 · answered by ivelisse 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's fine if you feel as if you don't love him just yet. If it should come up, just tell him not just yet and he should respect that. Let him know just because you don't love him doesn't mean you love someone else. That's possibly every man's greatest fear in a relationship is losing the one they love to someone else. I personally think he really does love you.
2007-03-16 01:24:25 · answer #7 · answered by Icebox -0: Never Again 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should ask him that.Only way to know for sure. No it's not rude not to say it back. If he really loves you then he should understand that you love him but aren't in love with him yet and won't get upset with you. Communication is all you need. â¥
2007-03-15 14:33:03 · answer #8 · answered by FML 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some guys fall hard and fast...but i would talk to him about his deffinition of love because there is a difference between loving someone and being in love...but you have the right idea to wait until you feel that you are in love before you say i love you...you have to really feel it or else its just words.
2007-03-15 14:35:43 · answer #9 · answered by sun_shine8907 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don know
a lot of people throw the word around like nothing.
u r right. if he means it have him say the 3 words over n over again.
sh*t happens...don get caught in the fan
2007-03-15 14:30:04 · answer #10 · answered by willow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋