Okay well i'm really confused...I guess...I have been 'talking' to this guy for almost 2 months. Ya know, he's asked me to come over to watch a few movies but everytime something has happened so I had to cancel. He's not the kind of guy that would pressure you into anything so don't worry about that. Oh i'm 16 and he's 17 btw. So about a month of just 'talking' he asked me to be his girlfriend and I told him not yet. Well about two weeks ago, he brought it up again, and asked why I wasn't ready for a boyfriend yet. I didn't know what to say to him. I like him A LOT!! And I really like being with him, it kinda seems like we already are, so why do I have such a problem with being called his girlfriend? It just doesn't make sense...Can anyone help me with this? Lol because now it's really starting to kinda bother me. Thanks
2007-03-15 07:22:56 · 15 answers · asked by Katie 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't worry about it. you're young and have the rest of your life to have a boyfriend. make a life for yourself before you involve someone else in your life you will be a much happier adult. don't let him pressure you in to anything kid just stay true to what you believe in and you will be fine.
2007-03-15 07:32:25 · answer #1 · answered by bluemist 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry so much about this. Tell the guy that you want to get to know him better before you decide. You are probably an independent and secure person that doesn't need to attach herself to a guy. That's all good. You also have alot of other things to focus on at this point in your life, such as figuring out a plan for after highschool, education, family responsibilities, etc. I think it's wise to take your time considering such things. Most young girls panic if they don't have the 'essential boyfriend' and are willing to settle for anything. This guy is going to have to 'kick it up a notch' if he wants to hold your attention though...movie nights just aren't going to get it. He sounds like a nice guy you could count on though and maybe you should communicate to him that he has your trust. But I wouldn't sweat the small stuff. There's no law that saids you have to have a boyfriend--now or in the future. Keep your options open sister. Good Luck
2007-03-15 14:31:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have had the same problem my friend. At the time fear of loosing the friendship was way more important then anything else. But I regret it know. Me and him could of would of had something really special. He is the kind of guy I can't forget. When I finally thought I could do it, it was to late. He already had some one and I was there wish I had him. Indecision is a decision. Don't regret the choice like me. go for it. Even if it doesn't work out you'll always know for a moment in time you had something truly real. Good luck.
2007-03-15 14:51:13 · answer #3 · answered by eyesoftheredmoon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you've been reading Answers too much! Reading about all the boyfriends who live with their girlfriends and have their problems may make it sound scary to actually have a boyfriend! He might want to just have his role clarified with a name 'boyfriend' - he's close to you, likes you a lot, and spends a lot of time with you and knows that he would be really, really hurt when you drop him because you find a 'boyfriend' - wow, he's just asking to be your boyfriend and he rightly thinks that you like him. You may think that he's actually asking for sex! He might not be trying to rush that at all. So why not just ask him what he means by 'boyfriend' and maybe he could be yours if you both just take it as slowly as you have been taking it already.
Sounds like he's nervous and just wants to know where he stands.
2007-03-15 14:31:16 · answer #4 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it's because you're afraid to commit or afraid of what other people may think. Either way you shouldn't worry about it too much cause I know lots of people with these kind of problems. So if you're not ready, it's OK plus if he really likes you he'll wait.
2007-03-15 14:47:24 · answer #5 · answered by diva 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your just not ready to be confined to being with only one person. Or maybe you don't like the label "his girlfriend" You are the only person who can answer the question. If you like him, and he likes you, then tell him that. Tell him your insecurities, and why you don't want to be his girlfriend, but still like him. Search deep down and tell yourself, what is it that you want. Otherwise, you could be a lesbian.
2007-03-15 14:28:45 · answer #6 · answered by Adrian G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some guys are great, but all the same you just don't want to date them... One of my friends was like that - he was cute, funny, smart, but when I started to think about dating him, it just didn't appeal - I only liked him as a friend!
Don't try to force yourself into wanting to date him - either it happens or it doesn't. And if you force yourself, you just end up making more trouble in the end!!
2007-03-15 14:30:55 · answer #7 · answered by Megs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're doing the right thing do not allow him to rush you into a decision continue to give it time and just enjoy him company. If someone realy cares about you they will be patient!
2007-03-15 14:28:50 · answer #8 · answered by Khalil 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
does it matter why you don't want a boyfriend?
truly you don't have to give anyone an explanation.
maybe you are just not ready for a boyfriend at this time...
take care!
2007-03-15 14:32:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope...if you're not ready then you're making the right decision by waiting. Take your time, when it's right, you'll know.
2007-03-15 14:27:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋