We have been together for a year and a half. He says he loves me and we live together. I always see him looking at other women. When we are out together he tells his guy friend to talk to girls he thinks are attractive. The other problem is I am a plus size. My boyfriend met me like this but I was a few pounds heavier when we met. He said he is attracted to plus size women but everyone he checks out is so thin. I have been going to the gym and working out to loose weight. He seems suportive. I just have this instinct that he is going to cheat on me or leave me. These feelings make me very depressed. Lately he is a little different. He dresses better when he goes to work, like he dresses when we go out at night. I don't know if I am being paranoid but it makes me feel so bad I can not concentrate at work.
2007-03-15 07:16:54 · 14 answers · asked by badgirlplease 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
WOW, sounds so familiar except for the fact that I am very skinny. I used to be paranoid about that stuff, my man looking at other women but truth of the matter is, it IS HUMAN. I've been with my husband for 13 years now and he and I both look but we don't act upon them. Beauty catches the eye. It may not be their body he's looking at, it could be the eyes or mouth. The lips are the big eye catcher for men.
The downside to this is that depending on where he is in his life with maturaty, it's possible he's becoming attracted to the thinner framed woman. Women change their taste in men as well during certain points in their lives.
Now, in my marriage, when we go to concerts and such, I'm not paranoid about the other girl getting the man. Heck, I point at the girls with their **** hanging out for him to look and we both laugh out loud together.
After being with him for 13 years I feel that after all that I do for him, if he want's someone else, they can have him. Lets see that younger girl take care of 4 kids, a house, 2 dogs, wash his dirty shorts and wait on him hand and foot. It wouldn't last long and he would come crawling back, not that I would take him back. I figure I will have less laundry to do, less cooking and cleaning up after and one less demanding person on my back as I'm the giver in the relationship and not often the receiver in more ways then one.
2007-03-15 07:36:06 · answer #1 · answered by Tell It Like It Is! 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well lets see here. I think what you should do is tell him that it bothers you that he stares at other women and i think you should have a "Heart to Heart" with him. I also want to point out that he is still with you so he must love you. Yeah guys are gonna look at other women BUT they are like Famous people you always look but know you can't touch so you are content with the person your with. So I think your good and if he does cheat on you then LEAVE HIM IN THE DUST. O and kudos to going to the gym and loosing weight!!
2007-03-15 07:26:55 · answer #2 · answered by NavyBaby09 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound very insecure. Don't be. Everyone is beautiful in their own way. He sounds like a total jerk. Be careful about him. Go to the gym for you.. and to make yourself feel better about yourself.. Not for HIM. Start paying attention to him more and how he acts. People in relationships tend to avoid looking into stuff so they don't find out the real truth... please don't be one of those people. Recognize the signs..
Feel good about yourself! Be happy!
2007-03-15 07:24:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is probably cheating dont be naive.. But when you loose enough weight maybe you will meet a better guy in the gym who knows ??
2007-03-15 07:25:30 · answer #4 · answered by Lil' K. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looking is part of being human, don't you look too? At movies do you look at deCaprio? Or whomever? I have watched women look at men and they are so careful, unlike men the move just their eyes, men tend to move the whole head and then it is obvious. If he says he likes you (does that mean love you?) Then believe him.
2007-03-15 07:20:10 · answer #5 · answered by bigjohn B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let the green monster out! Girls check out guys just as much as guys check out girls with the exception that they start to drool and have respect for the girl they are with. As long as he is still treating you right just relax. Don't try changing yourslef to please someone else! It will never end...
2007-03-15 07:22:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
All guys do that. He won't leave you. Lots of guys like plus size women. No fear.
2007-03-15 07:28:11 · answer #7 · answered by kayaress 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys will always look at porn and at other women..
They are allowed to look but not touch...
You can't stop them..
Just keep an eye on him...
And try to lose a few pounds..
2007-03-15 07:22:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
it's hard to predict whether he'll do what you're afraid he'll do. however, it sounds like his wandering eye really hurts your feelings; if i were you (and yes, i have been in your situation), i would let him know how it makes you feel when he checks out other women in front of you. his response (or lack thereof) will speak volumes.
2007-03-15 07:22:53 · answer #9 · answered by Haiti Cherie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hard to say.
Do your best, and don't worry about it, okay? If he leaves, then that's okay. You wouldn't want a man that doesn't love you, would you?
This will tear you apart, if you let it. Please get hold of yourself.
2007-03-15 07:22:28 · answer #10 · answered by one_dog_grinning 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋