i feel like a burden to my mum...I feel like my life is not worth living wat do i?

Question

I'm only a teenager and i feel so depressed help me ...Give me some answers

Answer 1

first, we need to stop feeling sorry for ourselves. i know it's very hard as a teenager. emotional ping pong balls those teenagers they are! so the key is to understand yourself and how you feel and why you feel that way. all teenagers feel this depression, it's the hormones, much like the hormones after giving birth to a child. hormones that turn you into an adult, a woman, hormones flying all over the place. you get so depressed, not because you actually really think you're worthless, but because the hormones make you feel sad. when you know this bit of knowledge, it gets easier to observe it in yourself which will help you control it.

2nd, as a mother I know my 17 y.o. daughter feels this way at times. and I'm going to admit, it's hard. teenagers don't come with instructions, and when you're a single mother, you're playing mother AND father. once you know this, you'll understand a mother's frustration, but it's not out of animosity or anything like that. HECK NO! a mother's love is so strong we can't even explain it. our job is to make sure you grow up well adjusted and competant and ready for society, and like I said, we have to wing it. we look at mistakes our own mother's made and try not to make the same ones, plus, we have to recover from making our own mistakes. it's not always easy, we wish we could put you guys in a bubble forever so that you won't feel any hurt or pain. the hardest thing for us is to let you guys make your own mistakes so that you can learn from them, and unfortunately, it's easier on us emotionally to fix the mistake for you. and we will always be there for you no matter what, it might not always seem that way because we are human and get angry or hurt, but a mother's love supercedes all that.

you'll understand this inexplicable feelings a mother has when you are blessed with your own children. nothing can compare, not even a father's love. I'm not saying that a father loves his children less than a mother, but they can't feel what we feel. from the time that we learn of you we love you with all our heart. that first kick to our tummies brings tears to our eyes. the minute you pop out of us all we want to do is wrap you up and shelter you from the world. the extreme joy we feel when you first smile at us., and all the other firsts- walking, talking, scraped knees, school (the first time you go to school is one of those hard things for us to go thru), graduations, adulthood, marriage, YOUR first child. it's never ending for a mother. so you see, all those frustrations and so called "burdens" become null and void as soon as we look at you. they are not burdens AT ALL! and I'm going to admit, it's a little insulting to think that. I don't like when my daughter thinks that cause if it was such a burden, we wouldn't do it, we wouldn't go out of our way to provide you with what we can. it's basic instinct, all mother's care for their young.

so if you're wondering whether your life is worth living, look at your mom and remember all she's done for you. and remember that when we get angry, it's only because we love you so much, and that anger actually stems from fear since it's illegal to lock you guys up so that no harm comes to you which means we actually have to let you guys out into the world where we can't always protect you. we just want you to be happy and when you're sad or hurt (emotionally or physically), it breaks our heart..

Answer 2

You are not a burden. I promise. Ive gone through bouts of depression in my life, most severely during my teen years... I know it gets better. I wish though that I had talked to someone earlier... It has made all the difference. Tell a school counselor, a doctor (any of them can put you on the right path), a teacher, or a parent...believe me they understand better than you think. Keep a journal of days when you feel like this... many times its connected to food, seasons, hormones, etc. and a journal will help you determine your triggers. Remember some days you need to just let it out. If you feel like crying, CRY! You and your body need the release, and you wont be able to function well until you do so. Also remeber that depression is a disease just like anything else... you would go to the doctor and/or use medicine for an ear infection, so why not for depression? Keep in mind that it is easier to do nothing and feel this way, but you are stronger and smarter than that. Own it, solve it, and enjoy life the way you should.

Answer 3

It sounds like things must be really hard for you. There is so much more of life to come, and things do change, so life is definately worth living......
Why do you feel this way, I'm sure you are no burden, this is just the circle of life, parents and kids are alwayz dependent on each other. Thats what a family is !!

Btw engage in Some activity that you like to take your mind off things and It is important to talk to someone about all the stuff thats been happening lately. Is there a friend or family member you trust? A school counselor that you could talk to? Plz consider these things ...

Answer 4

You can end being depressed by starting to love yourself.You are worth much more because you are born here with a purpose.I too was depressed and felt worthless some months ago.But then i realised my true worth and started to love myself not matter what.You are special and you deserve a lot of love from the universe.
Depression is like a road hump,it slow you down a bit but you enjoy the smooth road afterwards,Dont stay on a hump too long.Move on.
You have a great future ahead and get all set to experience it.
I feel for you and know what you are going through.But i can assure you that you will get better.Just keep going.Time will heal you and open door for a brand new life.

Answer 5

There is no magic answer to make it all go away. But even without knowing you personally, I know you're not a burden to your mom. She probably sees that you're depresed and doesn't know what to do to help you, making her feel even more helpless. I've been dealing with the same thing from my parents. You just have to remember that the reason she's acting the way she is, is that she wants you here on this planet so much, that she doesn't know how to help you, and she's more frustrated with herself, not you.

I know it's difficult to deal with this, and if you haven't already seeked out help, please do. It can make a world of difference and just make dealing with depression a little easier.

Answer 6

I'll give you some good advice - get some professional help as you are scaring me, and I don't even know you. There are places out there that can give you some counseling or get you on some medication that will help you out. There are always alternatives. Life is certainly worth living or it would not have been given to you in the first place. DO IT.

Answer 7

i i have been in your shoes . but with help iam still here .talk to someone.. a dr. or someone you trust to tell whats going on . iam 50 and been through so much it took a while and sometimes it feels like this will never end but dont give up you can always write me and i will listen and not judge i have been depressed since i was 10 and their was nothing out their now their is so much .before you couldnt ask a question like this their is a big world of help out their and i am sure their are others who are willing to listen and help.

Answer 8

Trish,can you sit down and talk to your Mom and tell her how youfeel. I hope she would take time to listen and really take you serious. Being a teen-ager is so hard these days. It truly is and I see so many every week that are having such a hard time-with school friends and peer pressure like crazy.Darlin- find someone to talk to- confide to someone you can trust, it helps sometimes just to talk things out. I pray you can feel better and find some hope -and find your own Worth and see that Life is worth living, and sometimes you have to fight like hell to get through it but in the end it's worth it. God Bless-Darlin-Hope you Feel Better Soon.

Answer 9

The sun will come out tomorrow.

But seriously, find an adult to talk with at school or a family member. You may need some counseling to get through this rough time. Adolescence is a difficult time but just remember that things can change for you quite easily.

Answer 10

read all you can about learning to love yourself.get in touch with the spirituality within yourself. If this sounds a little "not your style" than I would see someone who can help you figure out what anti-depressant will work best for you. You can even go to your nearest health food store and try one over-the-counter anti-depressants. St.Johns wart. for ex.