At the moment I am constantly flirting/being nice to 3 of my favourite men I see almost everyday.
because I dont want to get my hopes up for just 1 guy.
its been a couple of months now.
but things dont EVER get serious,and we are just plain friends,IS IT BECAUSE IM NICE?
I HATE to make THE FIRST MOVE,on friends
WHAT SHOULD I DO?
2007-03-15 07:13:44 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Make the first move... all Girls are nice... Maybe they see you nice to others, so when your nice to them, they don't think much of it, because "She's nice to everyone."
If you want a relationship go after it... if you wanted a job you wouldn't be nice to the company people hoping they offer you a job, no, you apply, interview and see how you both like each other...
just thought, maybe you work with these guys and they don't try, because they think you may file a sexual harassment case against them... Work and Sex don't mix well, and are taboo in most jobs...
2007-03-15 07:20:47 · answer #1 · answered by Coach White 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Going after 3, sounds like they are all nearly the same or you aren't sure what you're looking for yet. Pick one the that will take care of you the most and make the first move. Have to make the move it may go on forever that nothing happens. And you'll wonder what may have been. Regret is the worst.
2007-03-15 07:18:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A woman now has the "politically correct" right to make the first move on a man. You don't have to do it like you're a hooker, but you can say something with tact to let him know you want more than typical friendship. Men like to be flattered just like we do. Once you let him know where you stand, you leave the ball in his court to be open and honest with you. He will respond one way or another (and it doesn't take forever, either because either you want someone or you don't) then you will know what to do next.
2007-03-15 07:27:47 · answer #3 · answered by cami 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all do they show any signs of wanting to be more than just your friend....if yes...then slowly stary flirting more with ONE (not all three cuse then you can seem like a tease and maybe even a whore and thats not what a guy wants) just test the waters...but really me and my three best freind are guys and we hang out together all the time and I have dated two of them at some point in time but what we all found out is that we were just all better off as friends and sometime we even have tried to hook each other up with different people we know.
2007-03-15 07:23:21 · answer #4 · answered by sun_shine8907 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like you're only interested in being in some sort of relationship, and are open to whoever. Maybe start by trying to see what you want in a guy, then look for one. It would be better to fall for someone rather than just wanting a relationship.
2007-03-15 07:19:27 · answer #5 · answered by fromorto12 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't date "friends". You need to be seen as an approachable woman, not a girl who is always available and around for a laugh. Be a little "hard to get" and make it worth the effort. It's true, you know, men like the hunt.
2007-03-15 07:18:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might be because you are nice. But it could be that there is just no connection with them. Widen your scope, there are other fish in the sea. What is wrong with making the first move. Friends should not be offended. So keep on flirting but widen the circle of possibilities and you will strike gold. Good Luck
2007-03-15 07:16:42 · answer #7 · answered by bigjohn B 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You want 3 relationships? At once? Get you hopes up for one guy? What does that mean?
Is it possible they (the 3 men) can tell your playing them out?
2007-03-15 07:18:31 · answer #8 · answered by Bizpsx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They all SEE you flirting with all of them and they think you "just a flirt". Try making a serious move on the ONE man of your choice and you might be more successful.
2007-03-15 07:21:29 · answer #9 · answered by Devdude 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in case you have been flirting with all 3 for a pair of months, they probably only think of you're a great flirt, and not involved by commencing a 'extra effective than acquaintances' courting with any of them. end flirting and spot what occurs! ultimate desires!
2016-11-25 22:02:34 · answer #10 · answered by shawn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋