my self esteem is really low right now...i am an international student in singapore and i'm pretty alone. I have a wonderful girlfriend and I live with her... its great and i dont really have the need to have friends.. even when they call me out I dont wanna go.. but i feel there's something wrong in feeling that.. i dont have many friends.. and its really tough to get to know ppl.....
please .. i just need some assuring words and feel good about myself.....
2007-03-15 07:06:12 · 19 answers · asked by Nathan A 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
hey at least you have a girl, i have nothing!
enjoy what you have because others aren't so fortunate. peace out, idiot.
2007-03-15 07:10:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's ok to feel the way you do. You are in a strange land having a strange time and it's perfectly ok to FEEL strange. It doesn't MAKE you strange. There's no requirement to go out and "live it up". It's more than acceptable to want to stay in - even if other people want you to go out.
It's tough to get to know people even when you are out and about.
You're going to be ok. You'll get through this. You're stronger than you think you are. You shoud only feel good about yourself because you are smart enough/brave enough to say to someone (even a "stranger" that you need a kind word). Some people never do. Now, go give yourself a smile!
2007-03-15 14:14:32 · answer #2 · answered by Mrs.M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you're so in love right now that you can't think about anyone else. That's normal. However, you know deep inside that you should try to cultivate other friends. This is not healthy long term if you place all your attention on this one girl, and it's not healthy for her either. Try to make friends with other students. Have you heard, the phrase, "No man is an island."
2007-03-15 14:13:09 · answer #3 · answered by bombastic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know something, sometimes in life we feel that we have nothing but we actually have everything you should appreciate that you have a gf, you know what really helps when i feel like that i talk to my bf and it really helps because he listens to what i have to say and that feeling is so good especially when you know is from your partner so i say you should try talking to your gf. If not then go for a long walk that also helps alot and just think of why you feel like this trust me you will figure it out.
Good luck sweetie wish you the best.
2007-03-15 14:12:33 · answer #4 · answered by only me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well even you have the best girlfriend she can't replace friends. Everyone needs a friend , a person who understands you sopports you , reminds you your mistakes and warns you without judging you. I really understand how you feel...I think that you haven't found interesting people. When you meet someone you like to hang out with you just do it without thinking. So be patient and espesially if you want it the appropriate person will show up. Just be patient and have your eyes wide open.
2007-03-15 14:14:44 · answer #5 · answered by Sissy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people are like that dude. We don't need have allot of friends to feel better. like me I'd rather be alone than surrounded by a sea of people..plus all you need you already got. Your girlfriend see right there you have your best Friend your family and your night blanket that's all you really need man.
2007-03-15 14:12:59 · answer #6 · answered by jessica c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you dont need the friends than you have nothing to feel bad about. you are felling guilty because you are not like everyone else is(in your eyes) and you shouldnt feel this way. you should think about the things you do find important to be happy and ask yourself if you have them or what you can do to get them. be yourself and remember that having someone who loves you is the most important thing bc there are so many people who dont.....how would you fell then.?
2007-03-15 14:11:02 · answer #7 · answered by aandgonline 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm.. You have to feel good from within.
Hello..it is ok not to go out with your friends. Do what ever that makes you happy
if it makes you feel better( and some points for me)
You are awsome..i wish i were you, You are the model example of how a boyfriend is suppose to be ;)
xoxoxo
2007-03-15 14:08:05 · answer #8 · answered by Princess AJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why dont you start working out whether its in the gym or at home. Doing excersise release endorphins which help you be in a better mood. Then force yourself to go out once you are out you will have fun and that will help you snap yourself of that rut u r into.
Good Luck!
2007-03-15 14:09:41 · answer #9 · answered by Tia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ever since I have started dating my boyfriend I have kind of put my friends behind him. I don't believe that anything is wrong with that. You are in love with a girl and you feel completed by her. You are getting older and you aren't a crazy high school kid anymore. It's called growing up adn everyone does it. Don't feel bad about it.
2007-03-15 14:11:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hunny.... listen.... i know how you feel i was going through the same thing. the friends you have right now, you need to try to keep them so go out with them every once in a while if you dont there not going to seem as close to you as they are now, and as far as metting people, go out with your friends, you will start to meet people, good luck!
2007-03-15 14:14:36 · answer #11 · answered by sexy momma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋