how should i tell my son that he was an accident?

Question

my son wanted me to be truthfull about everything and i wanted to have a clean slate with him, he was just a mistake from a night of passion and i think that i should tell him that, we had him at 16 years old and the condom broke. i even tried to sue the condom company!!! i told him i wanted to put him up for adoption, because with my new ferrarri and with my new hdtv i cant afford to keep him around, so he asked me to be honest on why i was putting him up for adoption, so i want to tell him, how should i tell him should i be outfront about it?

Answer 1

no child was an accident! its the parents fault for not using protection! maybe its the best to give him up for adoption with attitudes like yours. be sensitive and tell the child that you are just not mentally or physically able to care for him and that there are people that can provide a whole better life for him..

Answer 2

How can you have a ferrarri and compare it to a hdtv. I think you might be lying and starving for attention. You truly are a deprived creature craving for attention.

Well, if this was an honest question, how can you have a clean slate with him if you are putting him up for adoption? That kinda adds another layer to the problem.

Answer 3

1. NO child is an accident to GOD!
2. Children should only know the most basic answer possible, to the questions they ask, as long as they are satisfied. example. Where do babies come from..... sex..... no, not sex, where do they come from....mommies belly....oh , OK.
3. Personal property should always come after the welfare of a child. IF giving that child up for adoption is the best thing for the child, then I agree that is what you should do.

I would say. I am a looser. I want worldly goods instead of the responsibility of a child, therefor I give you up, so you can have love and a better life than I can offer you

Answer 4

Boy, YOU won't ever get Father of the Year Award. Shame on you. Just because you didn't double up your condoms, or use secure birth control methods is not your son's fault.

Pregnancy is a blessing, and a miracle. To classify your son's conception as an accident or mistake is just plain horrible.

By the way, just tell him you are self centered and very selfish, due to your comments above about your "toys"...........They will eventually lose value, rust, break down, your child will continue to grow, hopefully in to a much nicer, kinder, wiser , responsible adult than you are.

Answer 5

You are right to give this child up because you do not need to be around children at all.You are so self centered and selfish. I wish your son the best life he can have and may God take care of him. Do you not realize what a precious gift that has been handed to you from God above? It's women like me who sit and read what people like you write about not wanting this child, with tears streaming down my face because i would love the chance at having this blessing that to you is a hassle and a mistake. I would gladly take some one else's mistake and cherish it for ever. I suffer and cry daily for what you just want to toss away like a piece of trash, your pathetic material crap means more than a human being what a piece of work you are. I will pray for your son and for you for that matter also, because you really need to find God and you really need help from him cause only he is able to help you.

Answer 6

You should start by analizing why you would write something so horrible in a public forum. My instincts tell me that this post is nothing more than fiction designed to illicit strong emotions out of well meaning readers. So that implies that you crave some sort of attention or that your life some how has lost its focus and meaning and by creating emotion around you, you will feel something for yourself. God loves you as you are now, but most people will think your a jerk. Why would you want people to feel negative about you? Find some time to talk to God, and pray that he will address your emotional needs.

Answer 7

You should never tell a child that they are an accident, and that you told him you want to put him up for adoption because of a car and HDTV? Are you trying to ruin his self esteem or are you just that self involved and retarded that you don;t know any better?

Answer 8

I think the best way is to give him the Ferrari and the HDTV, talk about how selfish you've been, and apologize, promising to love him with all your heart for all his life.

You should drive a used Yugo or something similar, while he enjoys the Ferrari, just to make the point that you're not only interested about yourself.

Answer 9

I think you need to come out of your trailer once in awhile and get some therapy or maybe a job. ferrari? HDTV? you're probably driving a ancient Pinto and feeling rich because your rabbit ears are actually getting reception today. get a job, stop living off the state and stop wasting everyones time. you're kid (if you even have one) is better off without you, and so is this site.

Answer 10

God I hope this is a sick joke...ferrarri and hdtv? Priorities????

At any rate, joke or not.....a child should never be told they were a mistake....children are never mistakes...unplanned maybe, but the children shouldn't be considered a mistake.....In the words of my inlaws.....sometimes they are just unexpected suprises

Answer 11

You are so full of Chit how old is your son? hdtv have recently come out they are kind of new maybe 3 to 5 years they first started to come out and you should never ever tell your son anything like that you are an insensative person who should protect your son instead of making him feel bad about life shame on you.