I have a problem with my stepson's girlfriend. She makes false accusations about me thats damaging.?

Question

The allegations that she uses could turn out to ruining my good reputation.If it gets in the hands of someone of authority, then it could become a legal problem. To make a long story short, Our granddaughter had lived with us for two years before my stepson and his girlfriend moved in. our granddaughter is my stepson's little girl. He had asked us two years ago to watch over her due to hard times he was having. His girlfriend is not the mother, Her mother is nowhere to be found.Anyway, after they moved in , his girlfriend started making a big fuss over our granddaughter sleeping with my wife and I at night. My granddaughter is four years old. His girlfriend started a rumer that i was sexusaly molesting our graddaughter because she slept with us. She went blabbing her mouth to everyone on my wife's side of the family. Well they knew better, Because they know that i'm not that type of person. That is the god honest truth! To make such an accusation is demeaning,and evil for anyone to say

Answer 1

I HIGHLY recommend you have a family meeting TODAY with your son, his girlfriend, your wife and a friend who you can trust implicitly. Get this out in the open.

Do you know that Dept. of Family Services doesn't care if the g/f is lying or not, they are mandated to investigate ANY and ALL allegation of molestations. If this chippie tells a friend and the friend tells a cop, the cop calls DFS and reports it and bingo.....a knock on your door. They can also remove the child from the home until the investigation is complete.

This investigation WILL stay in a state file with YOUR name on it for eternity. Whether it comes back "unfounded" or not, it is STILL a file the state keeps.

Then there is the question: Why do let this gal tell you what is right or wrong in your house? Does she provide any financial help for her room and board?

Since the child is a female, she should be in a bed of her own except in rare occasions where she may have some fears or feel ill and need a little extra TLC. It teaches the child they need to sleep in their own bed and it WILL preclude false accusations.

I encourage you to handle this IMMEDIATELY. Let this gal know what the consequences will be if she continues to cast aspersions on your character. Some things are a lot easier to live down, but given to the climate regarding child molesters, it is one rumor mill that does not die easily despite innocence.

You also need to make it crystal clear to your son, that he will have to find new accomodations in light of his g/f's mouth. Actually if it were my son under these conditions, I would tell him he needs to find a new g/f. I would also set down stringent guidelines in the house. He can live there, but she can't. She also cannot interfere with the upbringing of this child as she has not shown honesty or responsible behavior.

This is not diffficult stuff to to deal with. But it WILL be difficult if DFS gets involved. If your son gets angry, too bad...it's NOT his house. And he has not shown great responsibility by dumping HIS child on you. He needs a dose of reality. You need to be free of a malignant mouthpiece spreading rumors about you.

We all tend to want to help our children in time of need, but it would be a cold day in hell before I allowed a kid of mine to move their lover in also.

Answer 2

1. She is way too old to be sleeping with you. If she can't sleep alone then you will need to find another way of dealing with that issue. Ask a doctor. As far as the accusations; you need to sit the girlfriend and your stepson down and have a calm conversation in this regard. You may want to explain the pain that a family can go through with these false accusations.

Answer 3

what she did is so wrong on so many levels. i know that the girl is a part of your family but to keep this sort of thing from being able to be spread around, you need to find a place for the girl to sleep. if i were you, i would tell my step-sons girlfriend that she is not welcome anymore and that she is a bad person for doing what she did. it wouldn't matter to me or not if it made the step-son mad. that is a very serious accusation and it could land you into a lot of trouble. stay as far away from her as you can and let the girl sleep somewhere else. keep people around you when you are with the girl that way if someone tries to get you into trouble, you will have people to back you up. obviously this person has issues. just do your best to cover your bases when around the girl or the girlfriend. hope this helps. good luck.

Answer 4

If someone was living in my home and they were making such false accusations about me with the intent to harm me, they would not be living in my home any longer. I know you love your stepson, but what does he think about his own mother sleeping in the same bed as his daughter and step-father? Why is your wife's reputation not at stake? If you were allegedly molesting your granddaughter while she slept in your bed WITH your wife, was your wife just lying there doing nothing while this was going on? Of course not. What sane woman would do such a thing? These are things that need to be mentioned to your stepson. The very fact that he allows his girlfriend to say such horrible stuff about his mother and stepfather, is shameful. Even if the girlfriend wasn't saying anything about your wife, by saying the molestation was occurring because the child slept in the same bed as you AND your wife, then she is making your wife guilty for doing nothing while this alleged molestation was taking place.

I think you need to have a family meeting in your home, with someone in your family who DOESN'T live with you present. I think you should sit down and discuss with your stepson and his girlfriend how hurtful the girlfriend's rumors are and you should tell them that this kind of behavior will not be tolerated in your home. I think your wife should do the majority of the talking since she is your stepson's mother, and this will add more validity to your position because she will be speaking in a matter of defense of you, to her own son and his girlfriend, rather than you, the stepson's stepdad, defending yourself against allegations made against you. Does that make any sense? Anyway, it sounds like the girlfriend has a warped mind, is either someone who has been molested herself and therefore is hypersensitive to any "appearance" of such activity, and she lacks maturity. She needs to be told that she should exercise maturity and self-control when opening her mouth because to make accusations about someone without solid proof, is very hurtful and damaging and it is an extremely bad thing to do.

My ex-husband called CPS on me to make false allegations about my fiance. My ex-husband had threatened to kill me, so when I refused to tell him where our children and I were living, he retaliated by calling CPS and telling them that my fiance was a registered sex offender. This of course was false, and my fiance was cleared of any wrongdoing. Still, it caused him and his children and ex-wife (who happens to work as a CPS case manager) undue stress and pain because of the malicious actions of my ex-husband. Your stepson's girlfriend should be given an ultimatum about her behavior, and if it doesn't stop, then the stepson and his girlfriend should be asked to leave. Just my opinion.

Answer 5

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Answer 6

kick this trouble making person out of your home why do you allow her to stay there if it is fear that the step-son will go too then so be it but she needs to go today not in a week or a month

Answer 7

your home is no place for your son's girlfriend to be living.

it would be a cold day in h*ll before my son's girlfriend moved into my home!

you opened this can of worms.

perhaps your stepson and the girlfriend need to find their own place...

Answer 8

Wow! I wonder if you could get her for slander, or tell your step son if he doesn't stop they will have to go?

Answer 9

Sorry to hear that.... She's probably looking for some attention

Answer 10

show her the door,and dont say good bye