Hi,I am presently 20 years old.My parents don't really abuse me or anything,but I hate them.For years I've been hating them.I need their financial help,so I've lived with them.After finishing my engineering course,which I am attending,I want to get rid of my family and all those responsibilities.I mean,I'll be financially independent so I won't need to depend on them.I'll never see their faces again.I think this is a good plan to get rid of my parents and family.What do you think?I know most of you are going to tell me this is betrayal,immoral and that I am thankless and so on,but don't I have a right to live my own life the way I want to?Why do I have to live with people I hate, against my will?As far as I know there is no law saying that people have to take care of their parents and family.Therefore I'm not doing any crime,so why can't I do this?
What are your opinions on this?Who supports me on this?
2007-03-15 06:54:13 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Firstly,apart from the question, I do not seem to understand the cause of so much anger and so many curses being heaped on this man?Why is everyone so angry with this person?
First of all I would like to make it clear that I am not taking his side.I refrain from taking any single person's side.I regard personal and family affairs as being completely off the limits of society and the self proclaimed "moral watchdogs".A person is free to act as he wishes as long as he does not commit any crime and as long as he not guilty of any legal offence.Clearly,no crime has been committed and this person is just eager to move away from his family.He is 20 years old so quite obviously he is a major and hence there is absolutely no way that he can be forced to live with his parents or family and for that matter anyone with whom he does not wish to live with.
Moral standards are not absolute and change from person to person.Infact what was considered to be moral 30 years ago is now considered to be immoral.Morality and moral choices are subjects best left to the person himself.If the man wants to be left alone and hates his family and wishes to move away from them I do not see what could be wrong with that.
On a general note I am astonished to see such extreme reactions to a question as normal as this.I never expected to see individual rights being so disrespected.If every person is supposed to live with his family and is forced to act in a manner which he sees improper,then what is the use of majority laws,where a person is free to do as he wishes as long as he does not break any law above the age of 18 years?
The answers this person has received stand testimonials to the abusive tretment individual rights are receiving these days.
I strongly support this person and I strongly support his individual right to do as he pleases.
2007-03-16 00:19:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
U hate them without any reason. N living with them just 4 financial support. How rude n selfish of you. Yes there is no law that say that children have 2 live with there parents. What if they would leave you when U was small kid. N what if your children will do the same with U what you are going to do with your parents. How will you feel? I am not against that you want to live alone. Its your choice. But hating those parents who care 4 U n using them for your needs is something which I don't support.
2007-03-16 16:21:34 · answer #2 · answered by Angel 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
'so shall you sow so shall you reap' goes a popular saying.
A young child grows stronger while a young man gets weaker as they become older.
If inculcation of modern education has resulted in obliteration of the frontal lobe of your brain to the exclusion of the basic norms evolved thro' the Ages as exhibited by many like you, than so be it and be ready to face the music of the species of the other kind , Animals.
Everybody caught in the cycle of life and death goes thro' the same phases of life till death finally catches up with them, whenever. Nobody can predict when he would be born as also when he shall die but the fact remains that you do get weaker as you age. Of course, if a chronic disease strikes it can be much earlier. This is the Universal truth which has been recognised thro' the ages.
Humans started living in Groups as there was Security in Numbers and within a group, a Family provided the necessary bonding between the parents and their progeny. So that parents provided the security while the children were younger and the children in turn looked after them when they got older and thus weaker. This in short is how Human Societies evolved with the family forming the basic unit which automatically became the universal truth in all societies looking to the peculiar nature of Prolonged Child-Rearing characteristic of Humans.
Similarly Animals too have their societies mainly catering to their basic needs of food and propogation of their own species, limited only by the absence of the Frontal Lobe of the Brain as compared to Humans.
2007-03-15 09:14:05 · answer #3 · answered by mcmohan40 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you say "hate" what do you mean? Do you really hate them or do you actually just hate living with them? Because these two can seem the same. And I'm assuming your parents don't know that you hate them, because if they did, they'd stop supporting you and kick you out.
If it's the reality of the situation that you really only hate living with your parents, you'll realize this when you're on your own-because you won't be able to not wonder how they are, why they haven't called or visited or whatnot.
I'm 23, still living at home- I ABSOLUTELY HATE IT- and sometimes I confuse it with hating my parents, i'll vent to my boyfriend or friends, complaining how I just want my own life and how I hate them and how I can't wait to just get up and leave- but when I sit there and think about it, i don't hate them at all i just hate living them.
They've been there for me when times were tough, made me feel better on my birthday, when I was sick..so on.
All i'm saying is before you write your parents out of your life forever, really think what it is you're really hating? You parents or just your living situation?
2007-03-15 08:54:18 · answer #4 · answered by paha4u 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wat the hell is wrong with you? They are ur parents and like you said, they were there when you needed financial help, all you need to do is grow up....Being a 20 year old guy, and wining is just sickening. They don't need to go anywhere, its you who needs them, not the other way around, becoz by the sound of it, they'll do better not having a son like you---so unappreciative full of ****.
And plus, whos stopping you from moving out...if you're so big and knowledgeable, than grow up be a man, and move out------and if you can't do that, than just suck it up and start appreciating the little things in life, coz trust me, u'll regret being an **** right now, when your kids feel the same way towards you. Karma is a ***** hun.
2007-03-15 12:33:22 · answer #5 · answered by Nulz 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
From your question, I didn't see a single reason for you to hate your parents. On the contrary, you should be thankful that they spent huge sums of money to bring you up and give you a good education. It is on the strength of that education and upbringing that you can contemplate an independent life of your own now. You have stated yourself that they aren't abusive either. So I may safely presume that they are normal parents who care sufficiently for their son. You are confused and hate them for a certain reason which unknown even to you. And in this way you might end up hating yourself some day and end up doing something stupid. I have no reason to support you.
2007-03-17 07:01:15 · answer #6 · answered by Modest 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey listen you are just one more angry youth and you are no different from the rest. So dont panic
Just graduate, find a job in a far away city (if you have the guts you find a job in the same city are they are living and stay separate) Going away is easier you know... there is more freedom.. no need to meet on weekends, or for special food, or festivals etc
So go away and be quietly happy... Be on your own. Explore the world, find a girl friend.. make new friends... You need love and attention find it on your own
but if u get rid of them, they will go... but you wont find peace... you will still carry the hatred...
So wait patiently, graduate and quietly make the separation
wishes
2007-03-15 17:02:06 · answer #7 · answered by Hungry soul 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You speak as if you are a rebelious 15 yr old rather then a college student. Your parents are doing their job. Shouldn't you do yours? They are providing you with food and shelter, whcih they don't even have to seeing as how you are 20. Be thankful. They are (I assume) providing you with financial means to go to school. They had a child and are doing what is right. Be thankful. They have supported you for 20 years. Put yourself in their shoes. See why they treat you the way they do. What would their question be if they posted one on here? Would it go something like...."I hate my son and he has been mooching off me for years. He disrespects me and hates me. I want to give him the boot, but I feel obligated to keep him around becasue he is my child that I am responsible for until he is ready for independance, and clearly he is not. What do I do?" And replies to that would be, "Kick him out!"
Perhaps it is best to get a job. Many students work and pay their own way through life and school. Get a loan. Move out if you are so unhappy. I realize it is hard to live with family sometimes, but seems as though they made one clear mistake rasinsing you...they did not teach you to respect them, and that is a major failure. They are most likely sad, and want to give up on you and havent. Don't give up on them. And....when you are financially secure and "rich" perhaps give them their money back that they have invested in you. You are getting more then I ever got. If I want to attend school, I have to pay for it myself. Yet I love and respect my mother, late step fatehr and biological father. Seems you are ungrateful, greedy and immature. Time to open your eyes.
2007-03-15 12:00:27 · answer #8 · answered by Ashley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When u say "get rid of them" what do u mean?? are u planning to kill them? u bastard, if they were not here u would have never been concieved to begin with, no matter what they are doing to make your life miserable i'm pretty sure ur at the wrong end of the spectrum, so straighten up your act and stop acting like a teenager and stop with these idiotic questions, no matter what religion u follow i'm sure it will tell u to love take care of your parents !!! am i right !
UR AN F-ing MORON
2007-03-15 07:51:37 · answer #9 · answered by DesiGirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
are u mad r wat? idiot with out ur parents how did u study.. and how did u get ur food.. just think without them can u live for these many days and if u really want to get rid of them u must give entire money to them wat they spent on u.. I know u wont give.. The only persons who helps us without any selfishness is our parents they dont need any thing frm u.. they just want u to be happy and they do every thing to make there children happy..
they r very unlucky to have a dirtiest child like u.. u just get out frm there ... atleast make them happy from now.. i dont know why god will create such stupid people
2007-03-15 08:39:20 · answer #10 · answered by anu 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋