Whenever i read questions from girls and their boyfriends or asked them myself, some people already have a pre conceived idea that the guy is bad, going to leave you, doesn't really love you, is taking advantage of you, isn't the best person for you etc etc the list could go on forever. Im just curious as to why some people think like this and why they assume a girl who has a boyfriend and is asking questions about the relationship, there is automatically something wrong with the guy and the girl is just naive?
2007-03-15 06:50:26 · 9 answers · asked by Chyme 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Im 18, and i have seen the same thing happen with people alot older, male and female [this question wasn't exclusively about woman putting down other womans decisions, i have seen plenty of guys doing it too]. Why cant people be more supportive and stop judging other people before they know a thing about them, maybe maturity will teach some not to tar everyone with the same brush, but i guess age doesnt equal maturity. If people are still getting into the same messes and bad experiences over and over again, then they really do need to be told and given advice. I guess stupidity is indiscriminate and can affect anyone.
2007-03-15 07:11:38 · update #1
You have a major chip on your shoulder about something.
Also the comments i made weren't directed at you, i never once said you went through the same experiences over and over,so please dont misinterpret what i say either.
You call me immature? you dont know me and yet insult me assuming things about me and my life and my personal relationships.
Yahoo answers are just that, not that meaningful, so why are you getting so uptight about some comments?
And reading through my question history? are you really a stalker, seriously who does that?
Yes maturity does come with wisdom through experience, my experiences which you have absolutely no knowledge of and are therefore unable to make an informed judgement about me or my level or maturity.
Bottom line, you do NOT know me or anything about me and my bf and remember i asked the initial question in general,not just about the answers i have received but about ones others have received.
I think you are the one who needs to grow up.
2007-03-15 08:34:21 · update #2
Oh and how mature is it for a mature adult such as yourself to be arguing with a immature little stupid closed minded child like myself?
Not very.
And im at a loss wondering where you came to the conclusion that my bf 'walks all over me'
And i never once claimed that learning from other peoples mistakes was a bad thing or something i am against doing (i actually agree 100% on that one) i do it all the time from every single adult i have contact with, like you, from whom i've learned alot.
It doesn't cost anything to have a little bit of politeness even though its online and to respect others on here without resorting to name calling and bad insults.
2007-03-15 08:40:49 · update #3
Like i said in the previous post, when i mentioned about people making the same mistakes over and over again, i was not referring to you, i dont know you or anything about you or mistakes you may have made in the past. I was making a general comment and the stupidity comment was a follow up, again not directed at you.
So i apologise if you took that personal, because it wasn't meant as a insult to you or anyone in specific.
I do listen to people when they have sound advice to offer, i used to be the type of person who would cut off my nose to spite my face, but not anymore. I hope your secretary sees sense soon as well, if a guy is making her cry every week, not worth it. Totally not worth it.
And thank you, i will stay with my ''MAN'' because i love him and he doesn't make me cry and as unbelievable as it sounds i am happy being with him.
So anyways, thanks for the advice and not to mention the insults, always get a kick out of them, esp on the computer.
Have a nice day =)
2007-03-15 09:41:53 · update #4
the people that jump to conclusions usually have been hurt in some way and the y dont want others to be hurt in the same way. they are hopefuly looking out for the person and dont want them to get hurt. trust your own instincts before others.
2007-03-15 06:55:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old might you be, most of the time when people answer questions, with such answers is because they have been in the same o similar situation. Life is full of lessons, and some people learn those lessons before others do. So most of the time the answers are due to life experiences.
2007-03-15 13:59:24 · answer #2 · answered by hotmama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
people just dont read the whole thing! adn they dont try to put their selves in the others sitioution. i meand i could title my question boyfriend.....need help! and i would get a million answers saying that he is no good is cheating is lieing, ect. adn my question could be about something like.... we are not agreeing on the same thing for the weeding! people just dont take the time to read.
2007-03-15 13:57:33 · answer #3 · answered by sexy momma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's because they are so miserable and messed up in their own lives and relationships, they feel a need to project that on you. If you're having a successful relationship, they feel it just highlights their failures as a person. Don't take it personally. Just pity them.
2007-03-15 13:55:26 · answer #4 · answered by penhead72 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
speaking for myself, advice is given through experience... take people's advice with a grain of salt, but if it is coming from people you really care about or respect, you should give what they are telling you more consideration... in short, it's all about the source...
2007-03-15 13:56:10 · answer #5 · answered by ragefury 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People naturally strive on negativity. Especially when it applies to others. They feel like if someone is doing bad, then they aren't doing too bad themselves.
2007-03-15 13:54:36 · answer #6 · answered by Jay C 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No the answers are based on the question, maybe you didn't give enough info.
2007-03-15 13:55:18 · answer #7 · answered by James B 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
because it is common behavior,
2007-03-15 13:58:43 · answer #8 · answered by Symbolic User 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's just how society is...Forgive them please.
2007-03-15 13:55:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋