My boyfriend was everything I ever wanted when we started dating 2 years ago. He was sweet, loyal, kind blah blah blah. Anyway, now it's 2 years later and he has totally changed (or maybe we both have). Also, we live together..I am 23 and he is 22. He only tells me loves me when i say it first and doesn't make any efforts in this relationship to make it better.
Does it sounds like maybe I should move on? Or stay and try to make things work?
2007-03-15 06:37:55 · 26 answers · asked by deborah g 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You guys are passed the honeymoon phase of your relationship. Guys tend to get comfortable and stop trying. Trust me I am going thru this same prob right now. It is hard and it is confusing. My advice is to do what I am trying. Just continue being you and the be the you have alwayys been. He will come out of his slump and things will get better. They will NEVER be the way they were in the beginning because now he has you and feels he no longer has to try to impress you. But he will notice how "unloving" he is being and it will turn around. Hang in there. Love is for the long haul.
2007-03-15 06:45:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may be in a rut. Make a date to go out with girlfriends once a week to be away from him a bit. Then make it up to him the next night.
You might also sit with him sometimes and ask him what he wanted out of life. Maybe you can set some goals to work on together. Start a business, go to college, whatever you both like to do.
It's only time to move on if it becomes an endurance contest.
2007-03-15 06:45:15 · answer #2 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where is your heart in all this? Do you want to move on, does your heart tell you to move on?
I suggest changing your focus. Don't think about what he doesn't do that you don't like (doesn't use the L word unless you do), but think about what he does do that you like (makes you laugh after a long/hard day, takes out the trash, cuddles you when you need it, etc etc). I know things have changed since the beginning of your relationship, but that almost always happens. That's okay. But seriously, focus on what you do like. If after doing that, you are still disapointed in him, then talk to him and from there you may need to move on.
Whatever you do, look out for your happiness. Make sure you are happy with you and fulfilled.
I know this stuff is hard. But try out what I've suggested, it will help. Good luck =]
2007-03-15 06:47:09 · answer #3 · answered by *apes* 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It takes two to tango. If he is unwilling to make adjustments now it will only get worse when you are married. I am not a huge fan of living together. Especially when its open ended with no thought of getting married in the future. If the two of you cant make the adjustments necessary to please both of you it may be time to cut your losses and move on. I would tell HIM that at the start of a serious conversation so he hears the gravity of the situation. That may solve the problem.
2007-03-15 06:45:57 · answer #4 · answered by Devdude 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It can happen that two people can love each other but still fall out of love with each other. Neither person has to do anything wrong, you just grow apart over time. Let him know how you feel and what is going on. Make sure he understands you. Then you can make a better decision. Maybe it is time to move on.
2007-03-15 06:44:47 · answer #5 · answered by broc_lyrain 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why is there always a but?can't anything ever be just perfect?maybe you need to bring back some of the fun, you had while dating in the beginning, you know spice it up a little-do tings you wouldn't normally do, he's pro bally gotten IN that bored humdrum life stuff already, put a little excitement into your lives, it better it happen-snow, instead of being married then getting s divorce, ya i would stay, you've trained him like you like him, now all you gotta do is put the spice back, be Little wild and crazy sometimes, be real sexy, give him a reason to say,
'i love you
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2007-03-15 06:52:07 · answer #6 · answered by debbie d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girls mature faster than guys. Part of loving a person is taking them the way they are.Talk to him about your concerns.Listen to what he has to say.To him there may not be an issue. There are options if you both are committed to making your relationship work.Ultimately you must decide if the relationship works for you.
2007-03-15 06:47:26 · answer #7 · answered by wildrover 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you didn't mention any major problems though. communicate with him and make efforts to change what you don't like about the relationship before you move on. there is no guarantee you'll find a better man after this!
2007-03-15 06:46:45 · answer #8 · answered by xyz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him about it first before you jumped ships. See how he feels as well.. maybe the relationship is becoming boring or somewhat plain. Talk first before you do anything. If all else fails, then its time for you to move on
2007-03-15 06:49:44 · answer #9 · answered by Jon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
fresh in r/s is like tat.doing tis and tat for luv. in process if u wanna kp such event to happen ..both of u shld have improvished in ur r.s to spice things up nt in sex talk i mean.u r still yg and have a very lg way ahead. if u wanna stay in e r.s., then try to do sumting surprising tat mite plz him n make the failing romamnce come back to LIFE! if not..shake each other hands and say ur goodbye and move on! remember r/s needs team building! wif out the other party, u cannot work out anythin!also since u n him r juz in ur 20s ur r/s cld also juz be in the phase stages and tat he juz grew tired and bored of e r/s n wanna look for annother thrill r/s of wic he had shared wif u 2 yrs ago.it happens. all is up to u.
2007-03-15 06:45:01 · answer #10 · answered by aw_farid 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋