How do you all feel about it? Sometimes it makes me sick at my stomach to think about it? Guys you all can throw in your opinion too!
2007-03-15 06:33:44 · 9 answers · asked by hotdog 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I have a friend who married a man who had been married before, and she had breakfast with his ex-spouse before becoming engaged to him. I complimented her on this, and she replied that she would never think of marrying a divorced man without talking to the ex-spouse. First, to get her side of the story, and second, to see if the ex-spouse was someone that she could get along with regarding the kids he and the ex-spouse had in common. As it turned out, it was a great idea in that she then seemed less of a threat to the ex-spouse, and they now enjoy a good relationship.
My daughter married a divorced man (no children), and she did not meet the ex-spouse. She now very much wishes that she had because she and her husband relived all the problems of his first marriage, and are now looking at divorcing. Good luck.
2007-03-15 06:58:30 · answer #1 · answered by Tricia R 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My best friend married a divorced man. He was actually 2 times divorced. Both lasted 3 years (he was VERY young with the first marriage, mid 20s with the second) each and she is petrified for the three year mark.
I didnt know either of the former wives, but from what i have understood, the first, they were just too young for it to work out and the second wife was very much a homebody and not compatible with him at all. (although he had to have loved and liked her when he married her) My best friend is very compatible with him, they share alot of the same interests and enjoy alot of time together. But still she is very scared of the 3 year anniversary. I think it will last though, I dont see any reason that it wouldnt between the two of them. Third time really does seem to be the charm.
2007-03-15 07:36:40 · answer #2 · answered by kateqd30 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been married three times and this one will be my fourth.... I am marrying someone who has never been married and he has no problem with it... when his mother talked mess about me he was the first one to stick up for me and tell people that I had made poor choices in my past. Which is exactly what I had done. I did not know the difference between good love and bad love and it was not until I went to some therapy that I was able to determine the difference. Don't let it bother you... If you do it will eat you up inside and then cause problems....
2007-03-15 07:19:22 · answer #3 · answered by Lizzie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes my husband was married 2 times before me! Once to his High School Sweetheart which he felt thats what he was supposed to do. And the second girl was pregnant & told him that it was his baby & he was basically forced to marry her. But that was some time ago & now we have a great life together & he chose to marry me not because I was pregnant or because thats what he thought he was supposed to do but because he loved me & didnt want to be with any one else but me. Yeah Im not his first & only marriage but hey 3rd times a charm & we are very happy & in love & thats all that should matter! It was hard for me at first but as you grow together & learn to love each other & each others flaws aswell & the flaws sorta seem to disappear & sooner or later things will be just fine! Just try & forget about it & pray about it & just love him for him & things should turn out great! I hope this helps! Good Luck :)
2007-03-15 07:31:15 · answer #4 · answered by She is Beautiful! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My fiance has been married before and this has caused us a lot of trouble because she still lives with his parents (four years after the divorce). His mother loves his ex and despises me. She always has something bad to say to my face and behind my back about me. Between the two of them and one of his sisters, they made our first two years together hell on earth. The ex also has a child that turned out not to be his. We have gotten into numerous fights over this and the only solution we found was for him to have nothing to do with his parents. Which is sad, I know. It can be rough to marry a person when an ex is envolved.
2007-03-15 08:45:10 · answer #5 · answered by orangeflameninja 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I have both been married before. It's no big deal . . . happens all the time.
I wonder why this is such a problem for you . . . why it makes you sick to your stomach? Is it because he has been intimate with someone else in his life? If so, please do your best to let go of this . . . you can't change it. The only thing that matters is that he is faithful to you now, and loves you now. Thinking about the past will only upset you for no good reason.
2007-03-17 05:51:19 · answer #6 · answered by Helen W. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My former spouse had been married twice before. I didn't think anything of it; it's so common nowadays it's hardly worth a notice to me. I myself am married for the third time. My husband had never been married before, but even if he had been it wouldn't have been a big deal. For practical reasons, I would never date or marry a guy with kids, but divorced people without children don't scare me.
2007-03-15 06:43:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My fiance has been married before and it doesn't bother me a bit. I've never been married before, but had long term relationships and even lived with someone before I met my fiance. In this day and age everybody has some type of past and if you are thinking of marriage, you should be mature enough to deal with it.
2007-03-15 07:47:56 · answer #8 · answered by bg918 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my fiance has beeb married twice before, but no children. and it really dont bother me. i havent met his recent ex but she dont sound like someone i would like to met.
2007-03-15 07:10:05 · answer #9 · answered by avery's mommy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋