role playing?

Question

Why why what happened between us?
recently me and my best friend had sex
we tried this to fulfil our fantasies. The moment i beg him to lost control (role playing) of himself to "roughen" me up .. everything went haywire.. i felt i was rape/humiliated and fighting for my life never been so scared in my life ..he was totally a different person(like a beast).. i guess it was a major disaster.. and after the whole thing .. i cried and cried partly coz i was bleeding and felt so dirty.. i'm shocked that he even cried too .. i'm not sure if he's really crying ...

does it happen to any of u in any role playing thing.. why is fantasy so much different from reality..

i'm not underage.
we are both in late 20's

Answer 1

Did he take you seriously re role playing? Sounds as though you did not gauge his interest in the subject well. I think I would have waited to get a better read on him before going in this deep. Role playing can be enormous fun but it also be scary.
I once asked my girl if she wanted to tie me up. She was holding a scarf getting ready to put it on. She changed immediately and began to use the scarf to bind me, followed by more scarves. Apparently she had finally had the opening she always wanted. I must say it was a bit scary but turned out to be lots of fun.

Answer 2

How old are you?
Role playing between best friends sounds like children play mom and dad.
Couples can have a lot of satisfactions out of role playing if both of then set boundaries and know, knowing how far they want to go.
You gave him permission to go wild with you, and that's what he did without measuring his potential. A man will most of the time will be stronger than you, that's why they say that a man will go as far as we let then.
If he cry is because he felt he lost control and let the heat of the moment take over him.
But, the moment you felt you were fighting for your life you should put a stop.
If you two have a moment to talk about this event make clear how painful was, and of course not something you want to experience again. There are fantasies that went out of control for many people and there are also many fantasies that gave so much pleasure, the important is setting some boundaries.

Answer 3

Maybe it's time to put that fantasy away. Also, ask yourself why you would want to be 'roughed up'? There are a lot of people who will tell you that's a great fantasy and they like it, too (that's why it's a great fantasy to them). But if it gets out of hand, you could get hurt and that would not be the first time that has happened. In Massachusetts, a professional S&M sex partner actually went on trial for getting rid of the body after she and her partner said that a guy they were servicing died. It was so creepy. I don't know if they ever even found the body parts.
Also, you were having sex with your best friend. Are you a guy or a girl - even though you may think it doesn't matter, how hard up must you be to be asking your best friend to act out your sex fantasy of rough sex? It's not even the role playing that seems weird (even happily married people jazz up their sex lives by sharing fantasies) but the fact that you're so bored you entertain yourself by screwing a friend!
Think about a real relationship, ones with a future, and aim for that.

Answer 4

Sadly, sex shouldn't "just happen". You said you were best friends. To me , if you're going to cross the friendship line than the most important thing to do is COMMUNICATE. You should have set boundaries for role playing. Always have a "safe" word that either one can say, at any time. It immediately stops what you're doing. It tells the other person that you do NOT like whats going on. Lots of people use a safe word during sex. That way if things get a lil too rough it wont be misunderstood as part of the role playing.

Sounds like you two need to sit down and talk about it. If you're best friends and dont want to let this come between you, you're gonna have to openly discuss it in order to put it behind you.

P.S. most safe words have nothing to do with sex. Words like Orange" or "Dinosaur" etc are easy to understand and definately wont be misunderstood for something sexual. I hope!!

Good luck to both of you

Answer 5

Perhaps you werent clear enough in explaining what you wanted from the experience, also he shouldnt have gone that far. There is a big difference between playing around and really hurting someone, if you were bleeding, then it went too far. I think you have to chalk this one up to experience and think very carefully before playing this game again.

Answer 6

I thought I would check out your other questions on here. You sure do have a lot of questions about rough sex. In my opinion, you are using this site to fulfill your fantasies and none of this stuff is true at all.

You aren't even a woman are you?

Answer 7

are you 12?

Answer 8

Why didn't you tell him to stop? I'm sorry that you felt that way. I hope now you don't do role playing with someone that you are comfortable with. Please be smarter in the future for you....

Answer 9

when you are roleplaying both you and your partner have to agree on the roughness and stop when one of you felt uncomfortable. What happened here, was that he got too rough and you didnt stop him.

Answer 10

Playing domino would be safer next time !!