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Question

I've been with my bf for 2 months(im 20,hes24)When we first i could tell he was really into me,always wanted me around,introduced me to his family..now he seems more distant.when were together hes very affectionate and attentive,but we dont see each other as often as im used to.Me and my ex saw each other almost everyday.We do live about 30min away from each other,but he doesnt have his licence only i do, which means he doesnt even have to drive to see me. I usually see him once during the week and then we go out and party during the weekend,or we are with his parents. he lives with 2 other guys,so its hard to spend alone time with him.He tells me all the time how much he cares about me and that he has 'really strong feelings' towards me,but don't u think he would want to see me more?I am his first gf in 2 years and i know he's been badly hurt by girls b4, so do u think he's just taking it slow or that he's scared to get too attached, or is he just not that into me??

Answer 1

Well, it sounds like he might have some trust issues. Your going to have to talk to him about you wanting to see him more. Tell him how you feel. He needs to work on trusting girls again. He just does not want to get hurt.

Answer 2

Not that I am defending him or anything but, I think that he is taking it slow, is he calling you everyday? If not then he might be considering his options about being in a relationship. If he works a lot then he just probably wants to relax. I work like 50/60 hours a week, so I could tell ya about that. Men are a pain in the a*S they always think that we are here to serve them anyways. Men are always scared to get attached unless they are like majorly jealous type then they want to get married right away. I know what you're going through just in a different situations. Sounds to me like My ex-bf and me, same age gap, too. Good luck and just ask him out right, there's plenty of fish in the sea.
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Answer 3

You both very young especially him. He probably is scared by his ex. Need more info why did they break up. If it was a trust issue it will take time for him to trust again. And besides you have only been together 2 months and you 20 years now if you my age 27 or older you don't have much time for the games

Answer 4

Ironically i went through what he is going through 9 years ago, so I hope this helps. On wanting to see you more, it seems the difficulty of being around other guys and being in a relationship has caused a problem. I constantly tried to be "cool" with my buddies and pursue my love for my girlfriend and being the age he is, it is hard to do. Later on I realized girls mature faster than guys and decision making is easier for them. He wants you and he wants to be accepted. I would find out where he is headed with things in his mind. If he wants something on down the road go with the pace. If you are ready to speed things up (engagement,marriage, etc.) then shoot it to him straight. It might wake him up or something else. If you are afraid this might push him away find simple ways to relay it like: "hey my girlfriend and her guy are talking about.... " "hey look at so-and-so in the news they are *same thing you are going through*). Depends really on how you feel in your heart. My opinion on your last question on is he into you and the attachment issue is find out his life story and his trials and obstacles. "listen" as though you were going through what he did and see it through his eyes. This will show you what you need to know and strengthen your love at the same time. Hope that helps and Good luck.

Answer 5

If there are any doubts in your mind about him, about how he feels about you, you're probably right. He's 24, not 20, 21. He's a big boy. If he loved you, you wouldn't be asking about him...you'd just know without a doubt. It sucks and I've been through it many times. If you leave and he comes back then he realizes he's hurt you, and wants to make it better. Or maybe just talk to him and ask him what gives. Be honest with him.

Answer 6

WELL iF HE SAYS THAT HE HAS BEEN HURT BEFORE BY OTHER GiRLS AND STUFF MOST LiKELY HE WOULD WANT TO TAKE iT SLOW B/C HE DOESNT WANT TO GET HURT AGAiN. AND i CAN TOTALLY SEE WHERE HE'S COMiNG FROM BECAUSE EVERYTiME i FALL FOR A GUY i GET MESSED OVER WAY BAD. AND iM SCARD TO GET TOO ATTACHED BECAUSE i ALWAYS AM HEARTBROKEN iN THE END. SO MAYBE YOU SHOULD TALK TO HiM AND ASK HiM iF HE REALLY DOES LiKE YOU, BUT iS JUST WORRiED ABOUT GETTING HURT AND DIFFERENT STUFF LiKE THAT JUST SO YOU GUYS CAN BOTH BE CLEAR ABOUT THE WHOLE SiTUATiON. TELL HiM THAT YOU DONT FEEL AS THOUGH HE REALLY DOES LiKE YOU BECAUSE iT SEEMS LiKE HE DONT CARE ABOUT YOUR GUYS RELATiONSHiP AS YOU JUST MiGHT.

Answer 7

With him being older, he should have a license or find ways to get to you. My best suggestion would be to sit down and talk it over with him to see what is really going on- let him know your concerns, fears, eeds, wants etc. See if he is going to get on the bandwagon and make an effort to maintain the relationship.

DO NOT compare bf's to exes... exes are ex for a reason and should be left there.

Answer 8

You need to take the initiative to see him more often, especially since you are the one who can drive. He may not even be aware you want to see him more often and might like to see you more during the week.

Answer 9

2 months is not a long time

sounds like he is taking things slow and trying to see how he really feels about you

guys don't want to be tied down 24/7 by a girl and they need their space at times to be well, with the guys (burp, fart, scratch, watch horror flicks and sports....---stuff most girls are like EWWWWW about LOL)

Answer 10

You need to stop thinking about him all of the time are get your own social life. Nothing you have shared indicates there is a problem, only your desire to know that he wants you - you sound a little needy. Enjoy your life and he will want to share it with you.