I am against it.
2007-03-15 06:16:11 · 42 answers · asked by Un-Happy Gilmore 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
As someone that had sex before marriage and married someone who had also had sex before marriage, I think it was somehat detrimental to our marriage as we came in and have a "monkey on our back" because we know the other person has been intimate with someone else. I think it is better for people to not have sex before marriage, as there is so much of an emotional connection to sex and it can't be approached casually.
2007-03-15 06:21:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Marriage isn't in everybody's future. In fact, marriages really have a bad track record these days. Sex is a natural biological need. As long as you practice "safe" sex - no disease or pregnancy. As long as you don't look for a relationship where it is just sex. Sex was usually discouraged before marriage because a single girl usually couldn't afford to raise a baby by herself. Also, some single people have multiple sex partners and don't use protection. There is nothing "evil" about sex before marriage. There is nothing "magical" about sex after marriage. Sex is Sex.
2007-03-23 06:20:53 · answer #2 · answered by kathy s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well since marriage is a commitment for life, I believe on waiting, but I also understand that you don't always end up marrying you're true love, and if you think you are ready and you are so so sure that the other person loves you more than ever, that you should go with your instinct. I, personally am waiting until marriage because sex and marriage go hand in hand in my head, but then again I WAS brought up catholic, so once I get to college, who knows.
2007-03-22 23:38:35 · answer #3 · answered by LuvUrGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st to reply to 'mellow'... have you never heard of married people infecting each other coz 1 of them has an affair??
or getting pregnant when married but still unwanted as wrong time??
think people should wait until 18 ideally, but we dont live in an ideal world and maybe if people had sex when engaged b4 married they may find out things about each other that would make them want to get married quicker, or indeed cancel the whole thing...some people have weird sexual tastes and what if you dont find oput til your wedding night that your hubby only likes anal sex/sex with rubber masks or whatever , that maybe DOESNT turn you on at all?
sex is a very important part of any committed relationship, married or not, so maybe a trail run b4 the day is a good idea!!!
if you want to wait, great, if you dont, great. its really a personal opinion and nobody should berate others for having differing views.
2007-03-23 03:53:00 · answer #4 · answered by hedgewitch 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I try to respect other's people decisions but in this case I say that if get married virgin you just don't know what you are missing... I would never meet or even go out with a girl that is virgin and I am 24... I believe that if a girl my age is still virgin she is just not worth to be with... I am not saying to have sex when you are 12 years old but after 16-17 its all natural... You love the other person and you want to share that with him/her... I think that if I would get married with a virgin girl after some years she will ask her self if she can have a better one than she is getting... Grow up
2007-03-23 06:10:16 · answer #5 · answered by ermal_2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don`t see the problem with it, I was married for a long time, but before that I had quite a bit of sex. I don`t see pre marital sex as the problem, the problem is the STD`s& HIV for starters, the other problem is the number of unwed mothers. Being in a commited relationship and stepping up to the responsibility is the answer.
2007-03-23 05:52:43 · answer #6 · answered by Heather 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
every one has an opinion.... i am not against sex before marriage.
2007-03-23 02:21:31 · answer #7 · answered by wongfiehung2003 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm against it and I know that it is wrong but I still do it because I am a sinner and I know better, I used to preach on the subject, bottom line God says pre-marital sex is a sin but the marriage bed is undefiled. So my advice don't do it, don't be an adulterer like me... Gods speed !!
2007-03-15 06:28:18 · answer #8 · answered by Lil' K. 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
When you meet the right person you will know.
Don`t think sex is the answer to everything, its often not and can lead to all sorts of trouble.
Just be true to yourself and I`m sure you`ll do what is best for you.
Don`t listen to some of these crazy answers you are getting.
Good luck to you.
2007-03-23 05:48:12 · answer #9 · answered by Archie. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not wrong to have sex before marriage. I've had sex, am not married...oh and guess what I had a child out of wed lock...Am I going to hell...no. To each their own. If you don't want to do it...good for you, but as for me I'd rather test drive before hand.
I'm not knocking the people that do wait...I think its awesome that people do that, more people should wait, it would lessen the amount of diseases and such out there. But here's a question, what if you waited and they weren't as up to par in bed as you might've hoped? just a thought :)
2007-03-15 06:30:51 · answer #10 · answered by L♥G 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋