Ok, my american fiance asked me to marry him. Our wedding is programmed to happen there. i know the bride's family is the one in charge of most of the expenses. But my doubt is.... not all of my family will be able to go cuz they doesnt have a visa to travel. the only ones attending are my mom/husband, two of my brothers & some relatives2 . I know, its sad bc my family is super big and like from more than 70 ppl just like 10 will assist. Otherwise, my mother in law is the one getting in charge with the expenses. I told my bf i would not accept that even if its super nice. his dad already gave us an apartment. i mean.... his family is being super nice with us. Not just that, my bf told me more than 100 ppl prolly will attend our wedding.
is this right from his family making all this?
I understand that they wanna help cuz they know my family is not rich and idont have enough money too.. Plus his family lovess super big partys.
it is right to accept all this??? Whats the best?
2007-03-15 06:15:40 · 16 answers · asked by *live,laugh,love* 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
yes except it and enjoy
2007-03-15 06:18:57 · answer #1 · answered by sukis 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Let them help. If they didn't want to or couldn't, they wouldn't have offered. They enjoy this type of thing and love you both so let them do what they can as long as they are letting you and him make decisions. I wish you both all the best. This is a happy time, don't let it turn into a real stressful time. I know you will have some stresses, but don't add stresses to the mix.
2007-03-15 13:22:31 · answer #2 · answered by mom of 2 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your fiance's family is being very generous and considerate of your circumstances and finances. The best way to repay them is to graciously accept the offer and be the most beautiful bride on your wedding day. Congratulations and best wishes!
2007-03-15 13:20:09 · answer #3 · answered by JADE 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
as a mother i can tell you that if i could afford it, i would give my child the best start in life, and that i would try give him a little help on a long road ahead that you two will face.
its very sweet of them to offer you this, as it takes the load off paying rent or installments on whatever future home you were planning on living in.
as for your families go, i suggest that you have 2 weddings one at home with all your family that couldn't attend and one with his, this way you get to be married twice to the man you love, it doesn't have to be something fancy, it could be a get together with the people you want to share this special day with.
good luck.
2007-03-15 13:42:31 · answer #4 · answered by injie w 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
go for it, they want to make the day as special for you and their son as possible and I'm sure understand your situation....if you didn't ask and they just offered it you shouldn't feel any guilt about it either, thats very nice of them and it may hurt their feelings if you dont accept, but know that when other people are paying, you have to give a little of what they want on things, so be prepared for that, but I think its a fair compromise! congrats!
2007-03-15 16:03:16 · answer #5 · answered by ASH 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be gracious and accept it. You should sit down and ask her what your family can help with...like maybe the flowers. You are very lucky to be marrying into such a lovely family...My in-laws helped us a lot too.
2007-03-15 13:20:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It this causing them a hardship? Is this putting them in debt for years to come?
If they are being generous, go to these people & tell them how much you appreciate their help in letting you and THEIR SON have a wonderful wedding & start.
They could have told you "tough luck" & made you do this all on your own.
2007-03-15 13:27:47 · answer #7 · answered by weddrev 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They're willing to host a nice wedding for you and their son- that sounds like they are welcoming you and supporting the marriage.
2007-03-15 13:21:33 · answer #8 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why dont you have two cremonies- one here in the US and one where you are from, that way both families can celebrate and none will be left out?
2007-03-15 13:24:15 · answer #9 · answered by glorymomof3 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ur bout to be a part of their family so i suppose they r doing it to be nice to u...but dont let it push too far,,,even if not intentionally, it might hurt the feelings of ur family...dont make an issue out of it...but dont let ur in-laws take all the charges....it luks rude...you may not be financially as well off as them, but i think they shd respect ur self esteem :)
2007-03-15 13:23:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i know it may seem wrong to accept it, but there's really no harm in it. they sound like very nice people who want you to have a beautiful wedding. just don't let them go completely overboard with it.
2007-03-15 13:20:10 · answer #11 · answered by LoriBeth 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋