2007-03-15 06:14:22 · 5 answers · asked by Sylvia T 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
He understands about her condition but since she was not born this way and only has acquired her illness a year and half ago. He is not aware that he is somewhat jealous. He feels that the rules we set for him should be the same for her. He does not understand it and therefore is acting out. I love all my children but find myself in a terrible ordeal. Help.
2007-03-15 06:46:12 · update #1
By the time a person is a teenager he/she should be able to understand such things. You need to sit him down at the kitchen table, no interruptions (no friends, tv, phone, etc) and talk to him as an adult. Let him know her limitations and what the future holds for her. Let him know what is expected of him in his interactions with her. If necessary go to the library and get a book about her certain needs and have him read it, or get some pamphlets from her doctor describing her needs and how to deal with them. And when he acts inappropriately, call him on it, he'll learn. Good luck and God Bless.
2007-03-15 06:34:41 · answer #1 · answered by tersey562 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can your teenager not understand about your special needs 5 yr old. I have a daughter that is soon to be 14 is special needs and terminally ill. My nephews and neice have always been around her from day one when she came home from the hospital and I told them what makes her speical and at ages 3 and 4 they understood. They are now teenagers and they bring their teenaged friends to my home and all those kids understand. I have a soon to be 7yr old stepdaughter and she too understands. And she even explains to all her friends that Savanna's brain got hurt when she was a baby. And she can even explain to them that her lungs are not good so she is very sick but we love her
2007-03-15 13:31:37 · answer #2 · answered by texas_angel_wattitude 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Next time you go to the doctor's office pick up a pamphlet of the condition your daughter has. Sit down with your son and show him what it is all about. I've had to do this with my little brother's and sisters. I work with special needs children and naturally my brothers and sisters have questions about what the kids have and why they need help. I sat down and told them that they are just like you and I, but they need a little bit more help then we do. Have your daughter sit down with your son and tell him how she is feeling. Hopefully he'll be able to understand a little bit more.
2007-03-15 15:15:40 · answer #3 · answered by Jaime A 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have older children and a bi polar child. My older children do not understand how to handle him. to be honest I do not always no how to understand how to handle him. But I know to have patients. and my older children do not. my husband tries but again he does not.
People do not understand if they do not have the problem. Every one has there ideas of how to handle things. Your teenagers finds it hard to understand your younger childs special needs because he is not able to understand.
Until he is ready to understand you can talk till your blue in the face. I do not have to worry the older children will hurt the younger one. But I do have to have patients with them. because I know they love him.
try to understand your older childs feelings and validate them. He may never understand what your younger child is going through but validating his feelings will help him to validate the younger child.
2007-03-15 13:27:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you might need to elaborate on this question...
what doesn't the teenager understand?
2007-03-15 13:20:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋