REALLY CRYING I REALLY NEED ADVICE please!!!! (part II)?

Question

Im really REALLY UPSET!! PLEASE ANSWER ME PLEASE I'M LIKE CRYING!!!

i'm sorry if this is long and for those of you who do not want to read it that's fine but please i ask for honest open answers!

I am graduating this year and i feel like this is the year i have found my "best friends" Lets call these friends Person #1 Person #2 true colors. Sadly enough there colors are black and not a pretty color like orange or green. I am looking for advice as to what i should do in this situation. I hope that someone will be able to help me understand what's going on. Thanks a million :)

Person # 2 got me involved with a group called "REBEL" it's people against smoking. It used to be a county based even but now was put into every high school instead to get kids to stop smoking. My Best friend was put in charg of the club who became president vice president etc. I had asked her if it was possible for me to become a member of the board because i was involved with the club for 4 years. She told me she felt it would be better if she allowed freshman to become members of the board because that would make it easier for her and this other girl who was president to train them so that they would be able to lead the club next year when the seniors graduate.

I respected her decision and said that was fine and if she ever needed help to call me. At the next meeting i found out that she put 3 other seniors who were also her friends onto the board. She never put any freshman on and those 3 seniors were NEVER in the club EVER this was there first year joining it. I felt really betrayed!I also ran for a position in another club that she is involved with me in and she told the person who was in charge of choosing who should be president etc. that she objected me being president and though there was someone who could do better for the job. Her other best friend. She got the position on the board. I felt betrayed again.

She ALSO allowed her best gay male guy friend to call me using her cell phone to tell me that i should go commit suicide and die and how the whole school wants me dead and how the world would be a better place with me dead.She knew he was using his phone and when i approached her about it she said "yeah i don't know why he did that" I never got an apology or anything!

PLEASE tell me what you would do in this situation??

alot of people think she has changed. She's gotten really rude to everyone! Not just me!! I don't know what to do i want to still be her friend HELP

Answer 1

Oh My! First she is not..with a capitol "N" NOT your friend.
Open your eyes, she is out for herself and those she thinks she can control.

If you want to be her friend...and I cannot think of one good reason based on what you wrote, why you would want to.. then you will have to take her for who and what she is. Swallow your own pride and self respect and allow her to treat you like crap. Be her doormat and watch her ruin the rest of your senior year.

If that is not something you want..which I hope you don't. Then back off of your friendship you have with her, treat her the same as you have always treated her and be the bigger person. Gravitate to the other seniors in school who are worthy of your friendship, share the same likes as you do and enjoy your last year in school. Make new friends and new memories and hope that one day the person you originally became friends with returns.

She may have problems that you have no clue about. Just keep being you and keep being the better person while still treating her the same as always.

You also should talk to your counselor at school because of what the boy did and what he said. That was uncalled for and visious.

Good luck to you now and in the future.

Answer 2

so i have now read both your posts that you have written and i can see that you are going through A LOT of crap! That i myself wouldn't put up with.

Maybe the first time you ran for the board for that first group you were in she really thought someone else could do a better job I'd respect her for that. But when someone goes behind your back twice that's when the friendship would END. It's obvious you are not the only one who is realizing she has issues as you stated other people are realizing it too. So maybe she's just changing.

As for her allowing her friend to call you say all that mean stuff to you over the phone.....i wouldn't have even let it escalate that far...i would have ditched her LONG before her "friend" or whomever called me.

and considering he did call you or she or whomever the person was...and say all that mean stuff that's when I'd dump her completely because who wants a friend who isn't going to have your back and isn't going to even apologize for the actioions of other's that they knew were wrong.

I think it's time you go to college and find some real friends. High school is almost over. Even if you have NOBODY right now i'm not saying this is the case but even if you do have NOBODY right now who cares? it's only a few months.....let everyone go block everyone out if you really feel necessary y if you feel it will keep you away from the drama. Because da*n girl you don't need this

-stay strong!

Answer 3

You need some new friends. From your last post and this one, it seems like they are neglecting you and treating you very poorly. Friends don't always last because people change. Things you had in common a long time ago may not even matter anymore because you've all changed so much. I would ask your friend why she chose her other friends over you. I would go with who I thought was the best person for the job;whether they were my friend or not. But it sounds like she just lied to you so you wouldn't feel bad. That's not what friends do. I've always had problems with having more than one best friend. Because they end up having another best friend and then you have to choose between them. I would just leave them and find some new friends. Hang out with people who have the same interests as you and you'll meet some people who will treat you better.

Answer 4

To start off...no one needs a friend like this!!! There are too many other people out there who will value you for WHO you are and what you are about. I too, had a lot of people who acted like my friend to my face, but then turned around and they were the ones who were doing the worst things to me. It is a terribly hard thing to deal with, but I promise life does get better. Look at it this way, you are a senior...you have your whole life ahead of you and there is a big world out there just waiting to meet you. If you think you need some help getting by on the day to day for a while go talk to your doctor, there are some wonderful medications that can help get you through this tough time and soon you will be out in the world with unlimited possibilities. Look forward to that instead of concentrating on the present.

Answer 5

Think about this rationally. If she told you to jump off a cliff, would you do it? If she told you to eat a live rat, would you do it? It's obvious this girl isn't your friend if she tells you to go commit suicide. I hope you don't think the whole school thinks that either. AND I hope you aren't considering suicide. She's the one with a problem, not you. I'd leave her the hell alone. So stop crying, buck up. Tell her to jump off a cliff and eat a live rat. You deserve much better.

Answer 6

Obviously she not the friend you thought she was. High School is the cruelest arena of live, your in your senior year and in a few months you will be free of life's hell.
The remarks of suicide were the meanest I have ever heard and I sure you will find some way to pay that one back.
Once leaving H.S. you will find that life will much more enjoyable and rewarding. Look forward, life just beginning and fulfillment is coming your way.

Answer 7

You just need to get the hell away from her. She is psycho and will try to make you feel like the crazy one. It's hard when you go to the same school and are trying to do things that she's involved in... make new friends, find something else to do, but she's SUPER toxic and I wouldn't spit on her if she was on fire if I were you.... Oh and don't go all psycho drama and have a big falling out - just back away slowly and don't talk to her anymore.

Answer 8

If the friendship is really worth it to you, try to sit down and have a heart to heart with her. If she doesn't listen, or keeps stabbing you in the back....move on. You can't change her. It all sounds like a lot of drama that you could do without. This may not be what you want to hear, but trust me, you're only hurting yourself to continue to be involved in a situation like that.

Answer 9

leave her alone for a while, pick yourself back up and then deal with situation with a clear head. you cant think straight when you are overly emotional

Answer 10

im sry but its way 2 long 2 read.