im a nice normal 25 year old girl and i think im at least decent to look at (ive been know to turn a few heads). ive tried almost every dating website there is (but i didnt pay all the money, i dont feel that desperate yet) and all the guys ive dated over the last 2 years have all been freaks or jerks. i dont get asked out on dates by guys i meet out in the world and when ive tried to ask them out i never got a call for a first date or if there was a first date, i didnt get a second one cuz i didnt put out. where do you find decent guys? i give up.
2007-03-15 05:56:12 · 12 answers · asked by ezrawillow 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm not too sure you're gonna find a decent man online.
There are some decent guys out there, but they are few & far between. It's very hard to find them. They just kinda sneak up on you when you least expect it. You're still young, so don't get too worried about it.
Focus your attention on something else like getting involved in something you've been wanting to try, join a group, or take lessons for something. There you will meet all kinds of people that have the same interests as you.
The more activities that you're involved in, the more opportunity you will have to meet people. It will take the pressure off of 'finding a guy' too, because you will be enjoying something that you are interested in.
Good luck!
2007-03-15 06:06:31 · answer #1 · answered by mrauscher74 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on where you live... but, these online dating sites seem to supply face/stories/people, so why not keep them current? in real-life, you have to get out.. you need girlfriends, otherwise you'll never find the right guy -- that's a big secret. I'm not talking about bimbo/sexinthecity types, but women that share life-experiences, and can go with you to movies, bars, shows, museums, walks, parks, parties and events. Stay away from drinking (to excess). Talk to people, even men that seem not worthy. You never know where a spark can start -- even an older lady, might have a timid grandson that might be your Prince Charming. Just don't wear it on your sleeve -- keep in mind that you "don't need a man", you simply want one. There's a big, big difference.
2007-03-15 06:01:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Giving up too easily doesn`t help,depending which part of the country you are in there are plenty of guys down here who would jump at the opportunity to go out with someone the best bit is trying to sort the wheat from the chaff!
2007-03-15 06:02:55 · answer #3 · answered by edison 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good. Give up, follow the "lost keys" theory. In the meantime, what's decent to you? Try thinking about what a guy you'd like does with his free time, and then go to a place where that happens. If you like fit guys, spend more time at the gym. If you like spiritual guys, get thee to a nunnery (okay that's extreme, but a regular church, temple, or mosque would be appropriate). Prefer party guys? Hit the bars. Generous guys? Volunteer at a charity!
2007-03-15 06:02:36 · answer #4 · answered by Beardog 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I wish I knew. I am completely frustrated with the entire dating scene. I keep getting emotionally distant, committment phobes or complete loonies. The "stop looking and he will find you" advice comments are annoying but there might be some validity in that. I give up either way. Good luck to you :)
2007-03-15 06:03:23 · answer #5 · answered by cookie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Join a gym and go to church. Those are two good places normal people go. Just don't expect to find someone the first week, it takes a little while to make good connections, but it just may be what you need.
2007-03-15 06:02:35 · answer #6 · answered by . 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girrrrrrrrrrrrrrrl...you are worrying far tooo soon. You're 25. Unless you're dating out of your age group...and I do mean OUT of your age group, you're gonna keep running into jerks. You should be hangin out and sampling the chocolates instead of looking for one good one. They don't actually grow out of being jerks until they get older anyway. I'm 37 and I like to go out with younger guys...but..when I go out with them, i'm usually using them for sex or they know it's nothing that will last...when i'm in the mood for a serious cat...i go for the older ones. so enjoy those idiots while you can,. just don't sleep with them. when you get a lil older...you're gonna be like..OMG why won't these men leave me the hell alone. geeeez...
2007-03-15 06:02:06 · answer #7 · answered by cyn d 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Not in a bar or at a party, that's for sure. Dating sites are not a bad idea. You'll know you have something in common with them and you'll have an idea of their personality.
2007-03-15 06:07:15 · answer #8 · answered by t1riel 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't give up, there's somebody for everyone. The thing is, the right guys come when you least expect it, when you're not looking.
Good luck!
2007-03-15 06:00:37 · answer #9 · answered by Lexy 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
join a dance group or just go for a walk.. it happens when you are not looking for it!!!
2007-03-15 05:58:37 · answer #10 · answered by miss.fotiou 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋