My boyfriend says he would like me to be more aggressive in the bedroom..(I am serious and don't want stupid answers )....I always assumed that guys like to be the aggressor and I quess I am afraid of being rejected...Our sex life is wonderful and he is a very passionate lover...I want to please him so any ideas guys???? ...I am over 35 so please no kid answers...
2007-03-15 05:48:15 · 24 answers · asked by foxygirl29303 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he probably means that you shouldnt sit back and wait for him to set the tone, initiate, or do different things. alot of women sit back and let the guy dictate everything. sounds like he wants you take charge a little more. like initiate kinkier stuff, or share your fantasies, or just jump him when he comes home one day. change your mindset about guys being the aggressor because thats a stereotype anyway. every guy is different. start looking at yourself as the agressor and in charge and do the things you want to do without asking him.
2007-03-15 05:55:38 · answer #1 · answered by asg_is_chillin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think what he's trying to say is that he'd like you to start making the first move for a change. Maybe he's tired of guessing that he's pleasing you...he wants to see you really into the moment. You don't necessarily have to be kinky, but put all thoughts of rejection aside and let all your emotions out. He's with YOU already...you've won him...he already loves the way you look, so there is nothing to be ashamed of. Just let loose, show him that you do have a wild, but yet passionate side and that you're not afraid to let him know what YOU like. Speaking what you like always gets them...go ahead, there are no regrets in this! Hope this helps a little!?
2007-03-15 06:00:13 · answer #2 · answered by Punkie Brewster 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For you to be aggressive what you'll need to do is initiate lovemaking sessions. I loved it when my old girlfriends would initiate stuff! For example, I was on the phone with a family member one time and she just started, uh, manipulating some things until she got a response than proceeded to take care of business while I was on the phone - it was shocking, naughty, fun and felt great. Take charge, do the things 'you' want to do and that will make you seem more agressive.
2007-03-15 05:53:46 · answer #3 · answered by McB 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I think aggressive in the bedroom, I want my wife to strip me down, tie me up and tease me till I beg for mercy. Be assertive, do what you like. Make the first move. Grab him out of the shower and toss him to the bed. Buy a pair of handcuffs and take the "law" into your own hands. You need to find out just how agressive he wants you to be, myself personally, I could spend the evening tied up laying next to my beautiful naked wife while she teases me mercilessly refusing to let me get pleasure or soft, but that's just me. Drop me a line if you need any help (at least with the bondage thing) PS Blindfolds really turn a game exciting!!
2007-03-15 06:06:20 · answer #4 · answered by tyemetght814 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It shouldn't be hard for you at all as you both seem very in love sex isn't the most Important thing in your relationship and I'm sure your partner knows this but you know him better then anyone on such a personal level you should know what he likes and what he likes you doing if not just ask if u don't who is? he will tell you don't be afraid to ask him he is your partner. And you don't need to be aggressive to take control just relax and do what you want to him please yourself using him i bet he will like that, that's taking control. Gd luck*
2007-03-15 05:58:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When a guy says "more aggressive" he means he would like for you to at least initiate sex. Guys feel a lot of pressure if we have to always initiate sex. We have a fear of rejection too. One of the biggest reasons guys like women to initiate sex is because they want their partner to want sex as much as they do. I am sure your man appreciates it when you tell him how much you enjoy your sex life but he wants you to show him.
There are other things that would fall under the category of "more aggressive" but this is a good start for now. Ask another question when you want to go to the next level.
2007-03-15 05:57:47 · answer #6 · answered by David 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What he's saying is that he's tired of the same ol thing. IE: he being the aggressor, or maybe you not being creative, Blow him out of the water one day and take him down. Dont ask just do. I cant tell you how to do it thats up to you. just remember your the boss. Remember if you have the same thing for dinner every night it tends to be less enjoyable regardless of how hungry you are.
2007-03-15 06:40:20 · answer #7 · answered by Troy G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He means that you need to take control and decide whats going on in there. If he is always choosing how you make love, he wants a suprise and a change to be totally turned on by you wanting him and making the decisions. Dont be shy about it, and just give him a suprise. I suggest looking at a cosmopolitan magazine for ideas
2007-03-15 05:52:26 · answer #8 · answered by s..... 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you want to be more aggressive, then stop acting innocent. Lets face it, you are 35, you are not a spring chicken, and everyone knows this isn't your first rodeo. He knows this, and he is tired of you laying there watching the home shopping network while he does his business. He is also tired of hearing about how big your ex boyfriends were. What he wants if for you to do to him what you use to do with all these other random guys before you decided to "finally" settle down with just one guy, instead of being that last call girl at the bar that you were for the last 15 years of your life. Just loosen up a bit is what I am saying, that will make him happy.
2007-03-15 05:55:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
Basically, he wants you to be the one to initiate playtimes now and then.. and more then just asking "do you want to fool around"
Tonight, before you normally go to bed, go and put on something sliky, or even just your robe, come out and take the TV remote in one hand.... his hand in your other, pull him from the coutch, turn off the TV kiss him and then lead him to bed.
Don't be afraid to tell him what you want.. or even better show him
2007-03-15 05:55:16 · answer #10 · answered by Lost in Merryland 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋