A month ago I met a girl from the net, we hit it off and we seem to be becoming serious. She Lives 3 hours from me and we rotate to each others house every other weekend. Before we started dating I was mainly with family on weekends. Now that my situation has changed and I have a GF now, I have been spending the majority of my time with her and much less with family. Now I am getting critisicm from family "they never see me anymore" " they dont matter" and they are saying that I for got about them. Am I making the wrong choice? I am 27 yrs old and looking to my future as far as planning for my life and as far as marriage. How can I make my family understand that my life is different now because I have started dating again? My only free time is on the weekends because of my work, I am out of town M-F so the only time that I have for myself to date or be with family is on the weekends. Like I said my weekends lately have been spending quality time with GF rather than with fam.
2007-03-15 05:46:09 · 10 answers · asked by cdoubie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I put off having a true personal live until i was 29, always helping with family drama and such, and it was a hard thing to make everyone understand that I deserved my own life. You are not wrong, and you need to express yourself to your family and let them know that you love them but you need to make a life for yourself outside of the immediate family. They may not like it, but they'll have to respect it. Good luck!
2007-03-15 05:50:53 · answer #1 · answered by McB 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
More than likely your family is jealous of your new relationship b/c you are putting someone else first. That's the way it's suppose to be. Bring your girlfriend over for dinner at your parents once a month. Then spend the rest of your weekends with her. They should feel privileged and hopefully they will understand how important it is to build on your relationship. Not to many people spend every weekend with their parents at least not since they were 16. Don't worry they will get over it. Best of Luck.
2007-03-15 06:52:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know it's hard for you being put a situation like this. How about spending at leat one weekend with your family. If this relationship is serious you and your gf has to start to come out with a better way to date.
2007-03-15 05:54:08 · answer #3 · answered by lemonade 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I accept as true with you in this one. Like your gf i've got had a shitty, discomfort filled existence using alcoholism and drug use via others in my kinfolk, inspite of the incontrovertible fact that that does no longer excuse any of my habit neither is it a stable explanation for me to have a temper tantrum. tell your gf to develop up. we are each and every in charge for our very own movements. If she needs a extra clever existence than the place she got here from then she desires to make it ensue on her very own. She ought to end pushing people away. Wallowing in self pity and pulling the 'abused' card each and every of the time does not precisely make people want to help or carry out for long.
2016-10-18 11:06:41 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should bring your girlfriend to meet your family... and she should do the same. Then you would be spending time with both, and if you seriously think your relationship will work out and be long term with the girl, she is going to have to meet the fam sometime or another.
2007-03-15 05:50:13 · answer #5 · answered by s..... 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i agree with tenji..
your family will have to learn to understand you can't spend all of your time with them.. thats what happens when we grow up.. we make our own new families.. but that doesn't mean we cut out our families all together
introduce your gf to your family and maybe spend some weeknds all together.. :) or at least parts of the weekend..
2007-03-15 05:51:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Introduce your girlfriend to your family but I think it is every parent's ability to guilt you through the good times... Tell them if they ever want grandkids, to just understand you're young and in love!
Good luck!
2007-03-15 05:52:49 · answer #7 · answered by CharlotteDenee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all u been with ur family for ever and this girl u barely met her so go for ity ur 27 and they need to understand that u need to be happy just talk to them and tell them u feel lonely and want a spouse to love you differently than ur family does
2007-03-15 05:52:20 · answer #8 · answered by Smiley17 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
your family needs to understand that you are looking for someone to have a family with of your own , still make time for then but they need to understand you are growen and have a life of your own
2007-03-15 05:51:14 · answer #9 · answered by cowgrl3611 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldnt cut your family out completly so i can understand what they mean
how about you do things with both? introduce your GF to your family :]
2007-03-15 05:49:05 · answer #10 · answered by tablesalt 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋