Match.com date (lame I know) which started off the usual way: several emails which went well, several phone conversations which went well. Even offered support since she was going through a family problem before we ever met ("call me if you need anything..."). She saw what I look like, my pics are accurate. So finally I drive 45 minutes to her and take her out to dinner, spend like 4 hours, pay for it etc. Seemed to go well. She seemed interested, laughed etc. End of date, told her Id call her after she returned from a weekend trip, and I did call her sun night, again monday night and left a msg saying nice to meet you call me back when you get a chance. Never returned my call. Blew me off cold. To me, not responding to initial e-mails or a phone call is one thing, but after all that to not even have the decency to call me back if even to say not into it, is BS and shows a complete lack of respect for me. Is it me or is this BS?
2007-03-15 05:39:46 · 30 answers · asked by Atlas 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
P.S. Asking about her behavior, not whether or not to "move on" etc. I already know to do that.
2007-03-15 05:40:25 · update #1
I just want to say, thanks so much for all your responses. I feel vindicated, like it isn't me and that many people maybe still know what decency and respect are about (except for the 1 or 2 females who said "so what she wasn't into you"). You made my day. I'd give you all 50 pts if I could.
One more thing for those of you who think match.com is worth a try, it isn't. Match.com is a joke, filled with ******* and game players. Plus if you are a guy the ratio of men to women is like 20-1 so you don't stand a chance. Even guys who are beautiful and have tons going for them strike out most of the time on that godawful site. I will never ever again go near match.com. Beware!
2007-03-15 06:24:45 · update #2
Not only bad manners on her part but dishonest and rude. The mature thing to do would have been to be up-front with you at the time. "Thank you for taking the time to drive down, take me to dinner and spend some time with me. I do not think, however, a relationship between us ...blah, blah, blah." She wanted, obviously, to think about it and to keep her options with you open at first, and then decided it was "easier" to blow you off. I hate this behavior in anyone, it shows they are immature cowards. I feel for you. Hang in there...do you live in Colorado by any chance? (wink)
2007-03-15 05:46:15 · answer #1 · answered by smecky809042003 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she's shopping around for more guys. If she hasn't called you back she's probably busy meeting other men she's found on the Internet. It is totally unacceptable and childish for her to just blow you off like you don't deserve a simple email saying she had a good time but felt no spark and I hope you find someone special. It doesn't take much of an effort to do that much. Be thankful you found out that she has no class right away and didn't waste anymore time on her.
Keep looking for love, it will find you when you least expect it.
2007-03-15 05:48:21 · answer #2 · answered by . 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, it's disrespectful and rude but it's also pretty common behavior. At the very least she could make up an excuse about having a lot of stuff going on or even just tell you that she wasn't feeling it. Unfortunately some people are just cowards about this type of thing.
2007-03-15 05:43:30 · answer #3 · answered by Vivita 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
yes it was rude but now you know she was not the girl for you. Think about it would you want to be with a women who blew you off all the time. Hypothetical situation let say she calls you back after the 4th or 5th time you call her says that she'd go out with you goes out you have to call her ANOTHER 5-10 times to get her to return your calls...would that be the type of women you want to be with? You could find someone so much better and it was one date....let it go my friend
2007-03-15 05:44:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
nope. her behavior is disrespectful and an insult. An explanation is not an obligatory but common courtesy would be second nature to most mature females. It reflects poorly on the rest of womanhood. Especially those of us who would love to date someone who is willing to spend time and energy. Funny, I avoided Match.com, perhaps I should check it out if there are men like you on that site.
2007-03-15 05:47:47 · answer #5 · answered by cookie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Move on. Either she didn't like you and her non-responsive behavior is her way of blowing you off, or else something has come up and she hasn't had a chance to get back to you. If she eventually contacts you, you can question her about it all, but there is no reason to pass up on someone else that may be a better match.
2007-03-15 05:44:48 · answer #6 · answered by McB 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She did not behave well if the intention is to stop the relationship from progressing. She should have had the decency of calling you and saying so.
However, we wouldn't want to be too hasty here as we have not heard from her yet. Who knows, she might be encumbered somehow or she is probably trying to sort out her feelings about you ok.
So, be patient and wait.
2007-03-15 05:48:51 · answer #7 · answered by comradechris 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
she should at least have the decency to tell you that shes not interested... but i will admit i have dont this too.. let a guy take me on a date, and if i didnt click with him, i would ignore his calls. but.... again, she did also sighn up for match.com as well. so dont even bother with her, im sure you will have better luck next time.
2007-03-15 05:44:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
She is obviously too immature to tell you she is not interested.
People have motives and are attracted to certain people.
The family problem was one little red flag, Her lack of decency is another big red flag, it shows what she was taught as a kid.
She probably does that to others as well.
She's someone else's problem now.
Move on.
2007-03-15 05:45:51 · answer #9 · answered by tito_swave 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a taker to me not to mention lacking in manners.
You deserved a thank you for the long drive and dinner at the least.
2007-03-15 05:45:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋