bad decisions can cost a lot if you dont know what to do.
2007-03-15 05:39:41 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
She will join the club of the millions of other girls who had a baby at 16. If she wants her baby to grow up with high self esteem and feeling loved, she will not join the pity party you seem to want to invite her to.
She can continue her education, care for her child and learn that life isn't all about having parties and proms. She can lead an amazing life. She will have a beautiful soul looking to her for love. The only cost I can think of is being able to identify the religious zealots in her life, so she can ignore them.
2007-03-15 05:47:28 · answer #1 · answered by Sara 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
a lot could happen, it all depends on the girl. she could grow up way too quickly once that motherly instinct kicks in and really enjoy taking care of that baby and do a great job at it! but she could regret later on having to grow up so fast, not that it was her fault. the baby is the most important thing. or she could continue being a child and live her life as usual and possibly put the baby in harms way, or neglect the baby, or leave the responsibility up to the grandparents. the life of the girl all depends on who the girl is and how strong she is and how strong her motherly instinct will be. my best friend had a baby at 18 and she was not ready at all! she kept drinking and partying and lost her baby to the state because she took the baby with her to a party when she couldn't find a babysitter. She drove home and got into an accident, and therefore lost her baby. My cousin, on the other hand, got pregnant in high school and, with the help of her parents, raised a beautiful little girl and loved every minute of it. She was there to breastfeed the baby and even volunteered to do locan infomoercials about teen pregnancy and how it can tear apart your childhood. She never speaks bad of the experience and has two children now. I got married while still in high school and had a baby just after I graduated. I love being a housewife and would not change it for the world! I never did like the teen scene. (I am only 24). So it all depends on the girl and the support she has surrounding her. I wish this girl the best of luck and to remember, that baby loves her with all of his or her heart no matter what!
2007-03-15 12:54:41 · answer #2 · answered by jess l 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A 16 year old who is pregnant has put herself at a big dis-advantage.
It is not impossible to return to a life that would be more suitable for a teen-ager BUT it will take seriousness and hard work.
Getting pregnant at such a young age indicates the seriousness is not there, for the moment.
Perhaps the baby-making experience will add the necessary seriousness.
So, if that person gets adult real fast, it will end up a 3 or 4 year detour and then the light gets brighter and brighter.
2007-03-15 12:49:10 · answer #3 · answered by Uncle Thesis 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mom had me at a very young age. With little help from her family and a lot of work on her part, she managed to take care of the two of us. She worked two jobs and went to night school. She went to nursing school and now works as a Nurse Practioner. It all depends on what you make of the situation. Bad decisions can cost a lot, however, if you can keep up a fight for your own future and work hard then you can make something of your life. Life is struggle. You have to put up a good fight.
2007-03-15 12:46:43 · answer #4 · answered by zeitgeist_moscatov_cocktail 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF she has no family to help her then she will end up being one of those people who can only get part time jobs b/c she doesn't go to college but u never know she might take a course over the internet or find a cheaper way to get regular college course. But if she gave the child up then she would end up having one small regret in her life as she goes through life till the child contacts her or she contacts the child.
If u are pragnant I suggest u let your parents know. IF u decide to keep this child try to stay in school or at least get your GED so u could try a internet course or something in college.
Good luck if u are pragnet or one of your friends is.
2007-03-15 12:46:14 · answer #5 · answered by missgigglebunny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People use to tend to do the wrong things instead good it's easier. but it's always an alternative not abort does is defenilly one but learn from mistakes, besides that girl just turn to be a women an as so she must think in what are the priorities no that she will have more responsabilities life can be so good if you always fail with sucess may be this is the door to a better life cuz the girl will have one good strong reason what to fight about.
2007-03-15 12:47:03 · answer #6 · answered by LOLA 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life as she knows it will be different. She won't be a teenager anymore, she'll be a mother. There are options that she can choose if she doesn't want to raise the baby. The best is to have the baby and then offer it for adoption. But she'll probably feel guilt and depression from separation no mater what she chooses if she doesn't raise the baby herself. The best option, if it is still an option, is to not have sex until she is ready to be a mother, but if that option is passed then she should offer the baby for adoption. She'll at least make another couple happy that way and give the baby a good life. Check the source for a good adoption agency.
2007-03-15 12:42:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Her responsibilities will increase many fold. If she has good family support, she can continue and finish school, and maybe even do college. Her party days will be severely limited. The father of the child will have to work to help pitch in for the diapers, Similac formula's, clothing, etc.
If she's not mature enough to handle this, then don't have unprotected sex.
Her life will not be her own anymore, but for the child.
2007-03-15 12:48:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't listen to these people. Especially geoffrey.
The girl's life will depend upon the girl. Her actions will guide her through to success and failure. I will not lie, you will face negativity. But, it will depend on how she handles that negativity. She will have to grow up in a hurry and that isn't always an easy thing to do.
My son, had an "oops" with his 16 yr old gf. They struggled with life and peers and even sometimes family. But they were strong. They are now an extremely happy family and expecting their third child.
2007-03-15 12:49:16 · answer #9 · answered by JORDAN 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some might tell you she's an old maid! 14 is the average age these days. 10 is the youngest I've heard of in modern times.
I sometimes wonder more about the kid they have.
Some girls are good mothers no matter what. Others aren't.
MOST PEOPLE don't undestand when you have children YOUR LIFE ENDS and THEIRS begins and you don't get rid of them until YOU DIE.
I've seen 40 year olds live at home with their parents!
2007-03-15 12:53:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋