I don't have any children yet but I plan to within the next couple of years and I'm already thinking about major issues that may or may not come up so I have a question for you parents out there...
How would you react if your kid came home and told you they were pregnant or they got someone else pregnant?
2007-03-15 05:34:17 · 21 answers · asked by Hillary M 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
wow, you are thinking long term.....
prevention is the best policy here. i did instill the responsibility of having sex, along with educating them as they grow, not all at once, when it is probably too late. i started talking to my daughter when she was young, so far, so good, she is 23 now..
you also never know how you are actually going to handle a situation, especially with kids, until you are there.
so, again, i repeat, prevention, education and support....
2007-03-15 05:45:52 · answer #1 · answered by darlin12009 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Excuse me Q-T, or whatever. How could you make your daughter have an abortion. I think thats so wrong. Any abortion is wrong!
1. The baby is a human being, how could you kill it?!
2. Your daughter should be taught to face up to her responsibilities!
3. Could you live with your daughter hating you because you forced her to have an abortion.
4. What if it wasn't even her fault. The contraception she may have been using may have failed!
I am not a parent yet but I am trying to conceive at the moment. I can't say exactly how I would react as I don't yet have children but I would think it would be a bit like this: I'd probably be a bit disappointed at first, unless no.4 happened, then i'd be pissed with the contraceptive company. I would talk to her about it, try to support her with what she wanted to do and make sure she got the correct professional medical and emotional support that she needed. If if the git that got her pregnant in the first place does a runner, strangle the git! LOL! No I wouldn't, but I wouldn't be best pleased.
One thing I know I would definitely NOT do is make her have an abortion! That is cruel both to the baby and to your daughter.
Oh and if it was my son that got a girl pregnant and she was keeping it I would make him face up to his responsibilites and support the baby even if he does not stay with the girl.
2007-03-15 05:47:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there, done that. When my son told me (over the phone) his girlfriend was pregnant they were both 22. I was not happy but, I went to the store and bought the baby her first toy, a Winnie the Pooh and presented it to the new mom to kind of help relax the mood. It was the 1st time I had meet her and she was worried what I would think. We are great friends now and they have 3 children and are both in their 30's now. That worked out well.
When my youngest son told me at 17 that his girlfriend was pregnant I was going through my own trauma trying to deal with an illness that had befallen our 25 yr old daughter. I told him there were much worse things than his girlfriend being pregnant and that although it seemed like a big issue to them it was small in comparison to other things I was having to deal with at the time.
I tried to be supportive of both of them. Pregnancy is not the end of the world. Things can always be worse, it is how you chose to handle these obstacles that make you grow or cause you to stumble and fall. The choice is always yours. Pull yourself up and move on and deal with the circumstances or do nothing and become a failure at the challenges of life.
Instead of it being the end of the world you have to choose your next moves through life carefully and with much planning if a child becomes an unplanned part of your lifes scheme. Education and child rearing go hand in hand.
2007-03-15 05:52:55 · answer #3 · answered by Mee-Maw 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends. If I believed that my child was well prepared to take on the responsibility of a child I would be ok with it. Well prepared means emotional and financial stability with long-term sustainability. Long term sustainability means the experience, knowledge and/or education to enter into career employment. I'm not sure that I've met a teenager that meets that criteria but I certainly haven't met everybody.
The range of emotions for a parent learning they're about to become a grandparent can range from overwhelming joy to devastation. I've seen both in my family and as such learned to not take the decision to have children lightly.
2007-03-15 05:53:42 · answer #4 · answered by Mike 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We are not fully matured until the age of 21, so you would not be fully prepared to give your child everything it needs yet, and what is best for your child is the number one priority of a parent. I have three children, and I had my first son at 19, with this experience I would have to say, I had a great deal of energy for the child, that I would not trade, but that's the only thing I wouldn't trade, because I wasn't fully matured yet, and there is a difference between maturity and intelligence you can be a genius, and still not mature , with maturity and wisdom you have a GREAT deal more to offer your child,
Plus, I was married when I had, all of my children, to THEIR father, this is very important, a child needs the love of two parents to develop properly, and you will need the help love and support, of a caring , and dependable husband, please don't make this life changing decision, without really considering this child's life, and not just your own. God Bless.
2007-03-15 05:49:08 · answer #5 · answered by holdontowhatyouhave 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I would be sad for them because I would know what they would be missing out on in life. Ya, I know having kids is the greatest thing in the world. But teenagers should enjoy the freedom of their youth before they venture into parenthood. I know because I was a teenage mother and I am 26 now. I see a lot of what I missed out on when I look at young people now. You give up all of your freedoms when you have children and you begin to live for them instead of yourself. Thats the way it should be, but a teenager is too young to have to do that.
2007-03-15 05:46:17 · answer #6 · answered by TeresaW 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Respond first by asking about their health , mental health , well being, and how they are doing. In others words, express concern for their well being and what they are experiencing in regards to this. After communicating my love and concern for them, I would let them take the lead in progressing in the disclosure of what has happened. I would be supportive, helpful, and try to offer any kind of encouragement etc to their requests and needs.
Questions that I would eventually want to ask or information that I would want to seek out are:
Who is the father
Was this "planned" or accidental
What are the plans for the future
Etc
Only when they are "ready" meaning stable and the crisis of the event has worn down, would I ever "remind" my child about my values and perceptions of it all. I would never be preachy however.
2007-03-15 05:45:29 · answer #7 · answered by Kerry 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I, myself, am a product of teen pregnancy (mom was 16) and if my son were to get his g/f pregnant as a teenager, I would be supportive to both of them no matter what decision they made. Thats what my grandparents and when I became pregnant at 26 and the father took off, my parents were very supportive of me. I plan to continue this with my son
2007-03-15 05:43:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
First, i would try to prevent it by taking her to get birth control pills or buy him some condoms. And if it didn't works and the baby was on the way, it would be too late to do anything {as I believe abortion is murder}, so I would do my best do help her/him.
My son is 6 weeks, so I don't have such problems yet, but i will try to talk to him about these things before he becomes teenager.
2007-03-15 05:41:30 · answer #9 · answered by Matahari 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think of that some teenage mum and dad are very able to being super mum and dad,my cousins have been teenage mum and dad and there the only right mothers i comprehend... the undertaking with teenage being pregnant isn't that the youth can not be stable mum and dad in the event that they needed too, its the fact it somewhat is its so pointless and if u fairly are a teenage be certain u comprehend how problematical it fairly is, no longer purely is it problematical on the teenager elevating the baby using fact they omit out on maximum of there teenage life yet its problematical on the baby using fact a number of of the time teenage mum and dad are not financially stable so even tho the baby would have the user-friendly desires like nutrients, outfits and so on... they nevertheless are lacking out on a extra appropriate life they perhaps ought to of had if there mum and dad had waited till ultimately they have been older to have them.
2016-09-30 23:20:38 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋