i mean when they're busy
my girlfriends nan is having her leg removed tomorrow.
should i expect alot of distance between me and charlotte.
2007-03-15 05:25:49 · 12 answers · asked by rjhamuk 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yes as she will feel as that hapened
2007-03-15 05:28:30 · answer #1 · answered by cutemarv 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Charlotte is involved in something that is taking a lot of her time and energy. Even if she wasn't very close to her Nan, right now everyone in her family is focusing on this situation. They will be first, worried about how the operation is going to go. Even if it goes well, Nan will still need a lot of attention. All of the things she used to do for herself, she will now require help with. For the next six weeks -MINIMUM the immediate family will be thinking of nothing else. What you might do is stay home, sulk and feel sorry for yourself. OR
you might try being more involved in Charlotte's life offer to do what you can. Can you go to the grocery store? Can you go over there and oh, say take out the trash? Feed the family dog? Whatever you can do for Charlotte and her family will pay off big time for you down the road. (1) She will be grateful and love you for understanding the pressure she is under and not abandoning her in her time of need. (2) Her family -her Mom and even her Nan will be grateful and impressed by your maturity and generosity of spirit. This will come in handy later when you want to take Charlotte on that overnight "camping" trip next summer. (3) Even if things go nowhere with you and Charlotte, other girls will be impressed how you are being there for that Charlotte when she was hurting, so he will be there for ME if I ever have a hard time, and not run off like MOST boyfriends do.
2007-03-15 12:44:41 · answer #2 · answered by roscoedeadbeat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should understand that when something serious like this is happening, and family goes to be with the ill person, you are last on the list of tasks for the day. You could say to your girlfriend that she can call you anytime (if you leave your cellphone on, anyway) if she needs to talk to you. But other than that, it is about the anxiety of surgery and someone else's health. Your girlfriend may need you or she may be so busy helping other family members to cope, not to mention her nan's needs, that you fall by the wayside in her thoughts for awhile.
Just be considerate and leave it up to her.
2007-03-15 12:31:03 · answer #3 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
between you and your friend since her nan (aunt) is having her leg amputated? is that the real question?
Well I don't know where your from but if you use the word nan your either in the south or another country besides the u.s.
In the south if you use the word nanny or nan over aunt you are extremely close with your aunt...therefore shes going to be by her nan's side in this difficult time.
I don't know how well you would deal with losing a limb but I would be a wreck so don't be selfish about your friends time...in fact you should be asking her what you can do for her or her nan.
2007-03-15 12:30:51 · answer #4 · answered by colie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her as much space as she needs. Let her know you'll be there whenever she needs you, and be supportive of the fact that her mother will at least for the immediate future, be depending upon her daughter for help.
If she is the only daughter, or the only person available to help mom, you can bet she will be quite busy with follow up appointments, home care. Prothestics fittings, physical therapy, etc.
Help out as much as you can, when you can and try not to be offended by being placed on the back burner for awhile.
Send her mom some flowers with a nice card saying you hope she makes a speedy recovery.
Good luck.
2007-03-15 12:38:23 · answer #5 · answered by Firespider 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your girlfriend will be very worried about her nan just now and will be spending a lot of time with her. Give her support, and contact her. If she is busy with her nan and not in the mood to go out, then understand and give her time.
2007-03-15 12:32:37 · answer #6 · answered by thepurestone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ummm.. that a serious operation and not to mention a close relative. I would assume if shes very close to her that you may be put on the back burner for awhile. You sound a little selfish the way you asked the question. Remember the golden rule.. family "ALWAYS" come first..
2007-03-15 12:30:24 · answer #7 · answered by gregory_usa83 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her space - just send her a text and let them know you are there for them if they need to talk.
Send Nan some flowers.
2007-03-15 12:29:27 · answer #8 · answered by barneysmommy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She may be preoccupied with her nan so you might have to be a little patient with her
Well done for thinking ahead!
2007-03-15 12:35:06 · answer #9 · answered by hector b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe this is her way of dealing with the situation - everyone is different & what may seem completely ridiculous to you is normal to someone else. You need to speak with her!
2007-03-15 12:29:20 · answer #10 · answered by Jay A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who on earth is Charlotte ?..
2007-03-15 12:29:23 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋