Suppose a man you were with for a couple of years up and marries somone else and then comes back to you wanting to still remain friends (with benefits). What would your reaction be, and would you not care if he was now married and continue to mess around with him?
2007-03-15 04:56:16 · 18 answers · asked by stella 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I hope that woman would say NO...
Then again, I am at a different stage in my life...
I am reminded however of back when I was young and in the military...I hooked up with another soldiers wife, while was stationed over seas. I should say, she hooked up with me as I was out clubbing and looking...that is where we found each other.
If you are married, then don't go looking for it...
After I found out she was married, I ended our relationship...I was pissed...and still am to an extent to this day and that was nearly 20 years ago. I would never cheat on my wife and I would never knowingly be the cheater for someone else's wife.
Back then...I was mixed up between being horny all the time and not knowing how to control the urge, while also wanting to be an honorable man...
Dang this question digs up some old stuff...at least today I am well into my 17th year of marriage and I am confident that we are meant for each other. If I had looked for "Benefits" outside of my marriage, we would not be enjoying the moments we have today.
2007-03-15 07:04:41 · answer #1 · answered by warequalspeace 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! This was my life about 10 years ago. My bf went and married someone else and we worked together so I saw him every day and I was so in love with him. I was weak back then and I continued to see him. He told me after a couple of months that he was getting a divorce and proceeded to lie to me and cheat on his wife for what seemed like forever.(they are still married today) I finally wised up and dropped him like a bad habbit. What I did was wrong. Its my only regret in life that I have. I feel sorry for his wife as I'm sure the jerk is manipulating another innocent woman.
My advise would be to run the other way. Once a cheater always a cheater. You dont need the drama in your life. Love yourself more than him. Men are like the sea.. there are a million of them out there. Just keep fishing until you find the right man for you. One that doesnt cheat or get up and marry someone else.
2007-03-15 12:12:00 · answer #2 · answered by anndee1971 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be an easy trap to fall into, for sure. But I would have to remember that the man married someone else, which is a pretty big diss. So if I'm not good enough for the rest of his life, why should I let him use me? I'd keep my self-respect and tell him to find another playtoy.
2007-03-15 12:00:25 · answer #3 · answered by Kiwi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't do it. You would just be hurting the person that he was with and I'm pretty sure it hurt you when he just up and got married. The friends with benefits thing will blow up in your face and this guy should not be able to have his cake and eat it too.
2007-03-15 12:01:56 · answer #4 · answered by daquiet_one 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really wldnt. I WOULDNT hurt a fellow lady of my species. There are lotsa available men around, why shd I stick with him?? Furthermore, I believe in karma. I still have my self importance and worth and thats not worth compromising with for any man.
2007-03-15 12:23:26 · answer #5 · answered by Wish 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My reaction would be anger. The wife got all the marriage benefits, but now he wants to sex? Forget it. Tell him to go away and threaten to tell the wife
2007-03-15 12:00:28 · answer #6 · answered by Big Momma Carnivore 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No i wouldnt. He obviously wants one thing and im hoping you have some respect for yourself and not allow him to have his cake and eat it too
2007-03-15 12:07:11 · answer #7 · answered by Yankees Fan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be appauled and disgusted......first he saw fit to marry someone else...then comes back to basically use me for sex...i don't think so......
2007-03-15 12:00:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I would not mess around with him. I would be like, "See ya!" I would not want to be his friend at all!!!!!!!
2007-03-15 11:58:35 · answer #9 · answered by Yeah it's me................ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hell no. Don't give him the time of day. He chose who he wanted. So let him go have sex with his wife.
2007-03-15 12:01:08 · answer #10 · answered by michelle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋