any one from here know of any services offered to woman whom are starting over w/ nothing to start over w/? I'm in the typical B.S. relationship w/ the man whom would rather party and gamble, until you want to leave him, then it's all above love and loyalty. Ha! Anyway, years of depression later, I've lost everything, wrecked my credit, let my daughter move in w/ ex- (he's awesome and way better than me, right now) have no job and no money. I have an interview today and a few more set up in the next week but if i stay here much longer he'll work on the sympathy, and convince me to stay. I don't want welfare, nor a homeless shelter because I'm not homeless, Just in a crappy home. I once had a place w/ a very nice lady recommended from a church that had a finished area totally set up for an abused woman trying to start over but like an idiot, I let it go. Any suggestions for here in Grand Rapids. P.S. I'm not a drug user or criminal or any thing like that.
2007-03-15 04:49:55 · 3 answers · asked by soo funny girl 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Community Service
I bet there are a lot of temporary shelters for women just like you waiting to get back on their feet. Can you call the same church that set you up before? Social Services or even The United Way might in the least be able to steer you in the right direction. I don't live in GR but I used to and a city that size has to have the resources you need! I hope someone that really knows answers you and you get some help. Meanwhile start thinking of yourself and realize you are totally worth a change for the better meaning leaving the so called man you have the relationship with. Good luck and hang in there!
And when you go to interviews look clean and neat, give a firm hand shake, speak up and make eye contact!
2007-03-15 04:58:08 · answer #1 · answered by AKA FrogButt 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to get yourself stronger. If anything would motivate me to make a change, it would be that you allowed your daughter to go back to your ex because your life is a mess. I raised a son alone, so it can be done.
You need some help to figure out why you are so addicted to this guy? He is obviously using you and you are enabling him to do so. I don't mean to lecture, but this topic is touchy with me because I was in bad relationships, til I realized the pattern of people I was choosing....had addictions. I never made the connection between someone in my original family who was an alcoholic and the people I was choosing. The drama and chaos was almost 'normal'. To me, I finally realized that nothing is as scary as living with someone who doesn't care about you one bit...you mean nothing. There is no rationale. They will say or do anything to get what THEY want. Until you start to live fully, things will remain the same. Please get out while you can. You said he will work on your sympathy, why would you feel one bit sorry for this low-life?
You must stop being a victim. Crying wolf too many times, won't cut it.
2007-03-15 05:13:36 · answer #2 · answered by Dgirl97 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Call the Salvation Army Church closest to you, they have lots of resources
2007-03-17 14:34:14 · answer #3 · answered by ma 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋