my dad is an alcoholic and when i tell him it bothers me, he tells me to shut the H up. What should i do?

Answer 1

You probably should shut the h up. Otherwise he could fly into a drunken rage.

Answer 2

My husband is an alcoholic.The only thing you can do is to let them know how you feel and they need help and where to get it.AA Alcoholics Anonymous is in the phone book.And so are rehab centers all over the U.S.A. He went through rehab and done good for a few months.And is now drinking again.It's just a matter of time before I get a divorce from him.Anyway,you are just as sick as him because of his illness.Because alcoholism is a disease.You don't see that now Al anon or Ala teen meetings would be the thing for you to deal with problems &will have someone to talk to.Call the AA number in youre book and talk to someone about this.If you dont have a way to the meetings.Someone will be glad to meet you somewhere and talk.Or even talk over the phone.

Answer 3

Depends, how old are you? Do you live at home?
If you live at home, are you old enough to move out? If not, can you call an authority figure to help?
If none of that applies and you are an adult and not at home, there's not much you can do, he can't be helped unless he wants to be helped. Staging an intervention might work, even better if you have footage of him drunk. Posting up pictures of what alcohol can do to the body might do something.
Oh, and next time he tells you to shut the hell up, give him a slap. Tell him it's from me.

Answer 4

I had this same problem. I 19 so i got away (moved out). It may sound selfish but its not, you have to worry about yourself. Take care of yourself. Maybe you can get support from someone to talk to like a grandma, mother aunt or teacher.

If your dad does not want to help himself unfortnatly there's nothing you can do. He can only get help if he wants it. Maybe he has to hit rock bottom before he realizes it.
He would probably need to go to Rehab or AA meetings.

But do NOT take care of this by yourself.
There are meetings for people who live with alcholics too Alanon or Alateen (for teens). I have never worked it up in me to go, but maybe you can. I hear they are very helpful.

Keep your chin up!
you can email me if you want :)

Answer 5

Is he physically violent? Maybe you should see if you can find an AA place somewhere close to your house. Try to get some pamphlets and see if you can find a way to tell him about AA.

"You cannot change what you don't acknowledge" He won't change unless he wants to...I know that hard to hear, but it is true.

Answer 6

There is not much you can do with him. He chooses his own path in life and is responsible for himself.
You can start to attend Al-Anon meetings to get help for yourself though. These meetings are provided for familys of alcoholics, to learn how to deal with the alcoholic and get support for yourself.
They usually place ads in the local paper with a phone number or meeting time and place.
Good luck and take care of yourself first.

Answer 7

i'm sorry to hear you have to live in an alcoholic home. i was raised in one, too.

it's very difficult.

there are groups out there to help YOU. Alanon and Adult Children of Alcoholics are two groups who provide care and support for people who live with an alcoholic. they are free to join, also.

you can search on the internet, also. sometimes there are free online meetings.

unfortunately, you can't change your father... he has problems which HE has to work out. Alanon or Adult Children of Alcoholics might be a great place for you to start.

all the best ...

Answer 8

Please realize that alcoholism is an illness, the same as cancer or diabetes. He needs a little compassion and understanding. If he is your primary caretaker, you need to tell another adult about it, and get him some help. Perhaps a teacher or guidance counselor. If you have a responsible other parent, tell them how you feel. Have you tried talking to him about it when he is sober? Trying to reason with someone who is drunk is pointless.

Answer 9

Pray and ask God to strengthen you to be able to handle his verbal alcoholic abuse. If you are of age, begin to think about relocating to a place of your own. You want be able to change him, he will have to want to change. If you are godly, you will find that in the book of Galations 5:19-21, seventeen works of the flesh, these are 17 main visual evil spirits that bring people into bondage. Drunkeness is one of them. It takes God to set people free. Therefore do not let it drage you sown, but strengthen yourself

Answer 10

If he drinks and drives, call 911. Let him try telling a cop to shut the hell up.