How to ask a guy out?

Question

What's the best way to ask a guy out? (and have him say yes!)

I'm a rather shy girl. I don't want a really forward answer or anything. I was really hoping that he'd ask me out, but it's not looking like that's going to happen. If you have any ideas on how to have him ask me out, please tell me those also.

Answer 1

Fact from fiction, truth from diction. You want to get this guy to ask you out, or accept your invite to go out. You have to think outside-the-box. I take it you know him, and he you. Then the battle is more than half over. On the sly probe him as to what he likes; video games, wood working, flying Chinese kites whatever. Learn some things about it. Show some interest(genuine interest, not the fake patronizing kind) Then prime the pump. Prime the pump. And prime the pump some more. The days prior to popping the big question engage him in some short conversations about what his passion is "Hey, did you hear Sony is coming out with this or that new game?" "I hear Nascar is thinking of putting a new track here or there" Anything to get you associated with his passion, and thus in his memory through out the day. Then if there is an event, ask him to go. If not, ask him to go to the mall with you to get that sports memorabilia, or the Chinese fighting kite, whatever. Once you have him there, make some excuse to sit and have some coffee or lunch. Preparation will lead to cooperation on his part.

Answer 2

Its OK to be shy, he must be shy as well otherwise he would have asked you out....what is a good movie out??? not romance...etc... maybe funny....

Go up to the guy while he is alone and tell him you have a problem and you do not know what to do??? he will have to say, what is it???? HE just have to....so you tell him " you see there is this movie that just came out, no one in my family would like to go see it...it is so funny, I have to go see it..." I think he will get the hint, then tell him, my Mom or Dad gave me the money but I just can't go to the movies alone...what do you think I should do>>>>>>>???????????

And sound really sincere...he will either do on of the two:

1. He will offer to go with you.....you got the point...in
2. He will suggest a person that he knows that likes movies...and you are not turned down and you did not really ask him....and it will sound like an advice......you still found out and got the point.

If the second option happens, do not whine and stuff...tell him thanks, that is a great idea...and leave, this way he will feel silly as he turned down a great date and passed it on and I will guarantee you if you go out to the movie with the person he suggested he will be on fire....

Answer 3

I'm kind of in the same dilemma. But from the answers people on here have given, guys like it when girls ask them out. Guys also like confidence, so I say start with getting his number, and hopefully a number exchange will happen. Then, give him a couple days to call, and if he hasn't, then step up to the plate and call him. The rest should fall into place.

Answer 4

Why do you feel like you have to ask him out? If it looks like it's not going to happen, then it is because he doesn't want to ask you out. Are you really looking for rejection or worse, someone who thinks you are so aggressive that maybe he can expect you to want to keep him interested with sex? Sounds like a really lopsided relationship to me, one that will ultimately hurt you, big-time.
A different question might be: how can I be a good friend to this guy and show him how great a person I am and get him interested in me romantically? That's something you could do - and date other people. You can start by sharing his interests, hanging out with his friends, being a really good friend to him.

Answer 5

I personally like it when the girl just asks, straight forward. Ive had friends "break up" with me because i thought we were just Hanging out... doh... They never let me know they were interested until they wernt interested anymore. Im pretty social and very respectful and never think twice about asking Anyone to go to the movies, out for drinks, to the club, or out to eat. I dont think of them as dates even, unless one of us mentions it before hand. I dont know how rare that is in all reality. But you need to at least mention your interested in getting to know them better. That way he sees that your interested and persues or not, and you dont end up wishing you had made them aware before they find someone else.

Answer 6

You walk up and say hello and talk about something he likes or just the weather then say what are you doing next Saturday nioght? I thought we could go out for something to eat. Then wait for his snwer do not beg..look shy or act it...stand tall and be confident...like yourself and you shouldn't care if he goes or not...and be happy...if he says no find someone who will say yes.

Answer 7

i think that u just have to be strong and if u feel that u really wnt him then maybe ask him if he would like to go to a movie or something. or even try to hint stuff in in ur conversations. flirt so more see how he responds and then go for the gold

Answer 8

if u wanna ask a guy out, just say that u like him. guys like it when a girl ask's them out. it makes them feel like they r doing their job of being the "Big Shot". every guy wants at least 2-5 girls to ask them out. sometimes u just have 2 take shots and go 4 it....


good luck!!!

Answer 9

If you are shy, ask him if he wants to catch a movie. Most everyone likes movies, and then you don't have to come up with much conversation. Also it sounds more casual than a date.

Answer 10

dont ask him out just yet. give him signals that you like him. and hopefully in time he will. or if hes just as shy. ask him out. say something cute. ask his friends how hed like to be asked out. or go to a movie and him out after.