Well my grandpa does not support interracial marriage/dating and my family is sort of racist and well.......I really like this guy who's black and I'm white so if we do become serious how do I deal with my family? Suggestions and stuff?
2007-03-15 04:42:15 · 16 answers · asked by Butterfly 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I'm 22 and he's20
2007-03-15 04:47:02 · update #1
My family is like that too. You have to do what makes you happy. Tell your family that this person makes you happy. It shouldn't matter what color he is as long as he treats you right.
2007-03-15 04:46:26 · answer #1 · answered by sanj 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't necessarily use the term "racist". Your grandpa grew up in different times of segregation. Where interracial dating or marriage wasn't tolerated much. So it's imbedded into his brain and he's ignorant about other races. If you like this guy, you shouldn't let your family stop you. They may be against it at first, but maybe once they know the guy and see he's a good guy. It might change their attitudes towards race.
2007-03-15 04:49:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are an individual with the ability to make up your own mind on matters of race. If you see nothing wrong with interracial dating/marriage, then do what you want.
I came from a prejudiced family, but could never see the use of bigotry. I had to make hard choices between the one I loved and my family. The one I loved won. Your husband/partner will be there for you, family members have their own lives to lead.
If they won't accept your choice of partner they are robbing themselves of knowing people of all color, race, and creed who may be able to help them and show them wonderful differences and diversities.
2007-03-15 05:01:51 · answer #3 · answered by Nepetarias 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i might come to an settlement which comprise your husband which you will circulate to the marriage. If his family members can not act in a consultant and respectful way, your husband could be waiting to go away with you out of appreciate. He additionally should permit his brother comprehend in improve which you're being very open minded by putting your self in that subject, yet whilst the uncles and grandfather initiate appearing stupid, your husband and additionally you're outta there.
2016-10-02 04:12:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may or may not work out. Is the person worth fighting for? If he is, maybe your family will accept him, just because you were willing to fight for him. I say this because my dad doesn't prefer any culture, but his own (he's white) and when I married an Indian, he told me I was ruining my life. After 8 years of marriage, my father adores my husband because he got to know him. My husband will do anything for anyone and my father truly respects that.
2007-03-15 04:48:52 · answer #5 · answered by treasureyourself 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell them they better be careful what they say, they never know who in the family is going to marry who. And they may have grandchildren of a different race. Will they discriminate against them too?
2007-03-15 04:47:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
That's hard. First be honest with the guy about your family so there is no shock if they meet. Hopefully if you get serious with him they will accept him and see he makes you happy. My GodDaughter's family is the same way and it makes me sick that her grandparents they are jews make fun of everybody and she is dating a guy who is black. I tell her you date who you are attracted to and makes you happy its there problem they are racist pigs and they need to get a life. if they love you they will accept you love and choose to be with
2007-03-15 04:47:02 · answer #7 · answered by bbinqueens33 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just be god to your family. They raised you. Dont hurt them or make them sad. Find a nice guy and be with him and dont sacrifice your love just for your parents. Parents do so much for us. they may not be racist but they may just care you dont get hurt in life.
2007-03-15 04:48:12 · answer #8 · answered by MafiaGal 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know harder said than done, but don't worry about it. If you like him and he likes you, then forget everyone else. You have to live with you and the decisions that you make no one else. And your family will have to accept it or see less of you.
2007-03-15 04:48:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
are they racist or are they just against interracial dating? there is a difference.
if your over 18 its none of their business.
2007-03-15 04:47:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋