What do i do if he asked me to have sex/?

Question

my friend really likes me and he keeps asking if i whant to have sex with him and i dont know what to say should i say yes or no or somethimg else?

o yeah did i mention im only 14?

Answer 1

Real friends respect you and would never ask you to compromise your future for a few minutes of fun. Sex is an outward expression of love. I doubt if you really know what love is yet. When it happens you will know it. As far as sex is concerned, you must fully understand that the purpose of sex is to create life - it is not a recreational activity. You want to have recreation with your friend? Go to an amusement park.

Answer 2

No, no and no. You are only 14 and sex is a lot bigger deal then you may think. Guys at this age are nothing but a bunch of horn dogs and will have sex with whomever is willing. If you are still a virgin (which I hope you are), you need to wait and find that special someone. Losing your virginity is something you will never forget and you don't want to regret it later, which in this case I believe you will. I hope you make the right decision.

Answer 3

Ha!

Don't do it.

There are lots of reasons why you shouldn't, the most prominent being you're too young. But I think you already knew the answer before writing the question. If you had to ask advice here, you're not ready for sex. When the time is right, you will know it, and you won't have to go online to get advice from strangers.

Answer 4

It's flattering to know someone wishes they could get into your pants. Don't feel pressured to give it to them just cause they want it. I'd wait a while longer get it on. You'll be able to enjoy more when you feel ready. Since you are asking about when and with whom to have sex, you need to do some general preparation. Understand that having a condom in your purse doesn't mean you "need" to use it. It's just a smart thing to own. Just imagine you decide to have your first time with your pal and he gets you pregnant or gives you genital warts (or something equally as nasty or even deadly). He's probably not a disease ridden menace but getting preggers is a big deal. Please try to wait but keep a condom or two in your bag.

Answer 5

At age 14, whether you have a boy "friend", or boyfriend, no way should you be pressured into having sex with him. The boy is taking advantage of you and your age. I assure you, he only wants the sex and you will end up being hurt. Girls give it away much too easy these days...your virginity should be your treasure, only give it to someone you fall in love with. Be strong!!! And don't ever be afraid to say 'NO'.

Answer 6

I don't think it is worth it u are only 14 years old & if he is a real friend he will understand that you dont want to have sex. Having sex with someone is very serious & it should be something that you want to do so that you wont have regrets later. It should be special to you and not just a fling.

Answer 7

Tell him to hold that thought for about four more years and then ask you again.
You're just too young still.
Having sex at your age is asking for problems.
Not only unplanned pregnancy, but potentially, legal problems for your friend, such as statutory rape charges.
Ain't worth it.
When you are 18 and legally an adult, then it's just a matter of whether-or-not you want to.
At 14 way too many other considerations exist.

Answer 8

Hannah,,

At 14 yoa You don’t have the mental or emotional experience in life to be having sex. It doesn’t mean you won’t ever have the mental and emotional experience you will gain those with social skill building without having sex. Group dating, etc. will afford you life experiences take advantage of them to gain experience!

True,, you are biologically ready,, your body functions as an Adult Woman,, but you don’t have the “LIFE EXPERIENCES” to be able to handle the emotional-mental emotions attached to having sex.

Sex can equal S.T.D’S, BABIES, and all kinds of emotional stress when you don’t have the “life experience” to completely understand all facets of having sex. The choice of course is your’s but if you choose wrong,, be ready to face you screwed up your teenage life with babies, STD’S, having to tell the parents “uh,, I think I’m P.G.! and all kinds of UN-FUN stuff !!

You can read,, read all the questions on this board about how screwed up some people are and the percentage that revolves around Sex, Failed relationships, etc… Do you really want to experience that trauma, drama, and heartache at 14 yoa ??

Don’t rush through life,, SLOW DOWN and enjoy every phase of your life, You only get one shot at it don’t screw it up !!

Answer 9

Uhmmm any "friend" who would put pressure on you for sex is not a "friend" in the first place.

This isn't about you, this is about him, his being selfish and not seeing you for what you are as a person, but for what pleasant sensation he might be able to generate off of you.

I would argue that he is not seeing you as a person, because if he were, he would not keep asking.

I would recommend a polite but very clear "no" and a clear message that if he keeps to ask that his irresponsible behavior is going to end the friendship.

good luck to you!

Answer 10

By adding "only" to your age. You yourself know that you are "only 14" and it isn't the appropriate age for you to have sex ! ... you know it !

Ask him to wait until you are prepared for it without the "only" factor.

Also remember sex is something special ... a way to express your love for that special someone. So try keeping it that way and not go have sex with anyone asking for it ! You will find hundreds of this kind ! ... Good luck and be careful !